*I have both. Young adults now. Trust me, dd are MUCH more difficult in teens. I have asked mothers with ds only and one ds or five, they have NO idea what dd's are like.
DD is lovely, smart and kind but a bigger pain in the butt never existed. She is only person who could make me so angry that I could not think of any words to say
No, your dd is much more difficult. Not all female teenagers are the same.
And it’s a bit patronising telling mums of ds’s they have no idea what it’s like. Makes you sound like an arse, tbh.
I have two dd’s. One is blonde on is brunette. The brunette likes trains. Do i go around telling mums of blondes thay have no idea what having a child with a train obsession is like? No, because it’s fucking ridiculous.
If you have one of each, they are different because of their personalities and societal expectations of gender.
My blonde dd as a toddler was very active. I’d get people stop me in the street and rant on about how i had my hands full and boys were so active, but i’d be grateful when he was a teenager because boys are much easier, teenage girls are a nightmare. I’d smile and nod and say yes, she has a lot of energy. They’d look at me as if i was barking mad and say “he”.
That’s how ingrained stereotypes are. That people challenge children, and the mother of children, on a childs sex when stereotypes don’t match. They think the parent has got the childs sex wrong. Wouldn’t occur to them it’s simply a child who doesn’t meet their expectations of gender.