Not everyone feels sorry for Mums of just boys or only children

[AlwaysFuckingTired]

Speaking to an acquaintance who mentioned feeling sorry for two of the women she works with in her office. One a Mum of 2 boys, and the other a Mum of one. Apparently she feels awkward as she thinks they're both jealous of her as she's a Mum of both sexes. I asked why she thought that, and she said "oh all women want a Daughter don't they? and everyone wants more than one" I said I've known lots of people happy with an only child or all boys, and she pulled an odd face as if she didn't believe me and said "well that's what people say"

AIBU to think she's a bit of a knob?

YANBU I have 3 boys I’m slightly terrified that this one might be a girl! I don’t know if I can handle all the ‘oh you must be so pleased’ or the pink shite I’d be bought, I love being a mum if boys they are all completed different and completely brilliant. I feel sorry for the mums of girls who have to deal with the sexist shite and Hair!!

I have 4 boys and was quite relieved when they were all boys! (I had secretly wanted boys, but would have been fine with girls if they did happen to be girls.)

A few years ago we were in a local park and met a couple with 4 girls and part of me felt a bit sorry for them! (But I came to my senses and got over it.)

I have heard this. I was a little bit older when we had our DS and literally as soon as we had him people were saying "are you having another" " are you trying again " " it's not fair to only have on he will be lonely" and completely shocked when I said I only wanted one.

I really wanted "A" boy not multiple children and honestly not a girl ( I obviously would have been happy with a healthy happy baby but my preference was always a boy)

I find it sooo weird people would assume a woman would "keep trying for a girl".

. I know loads of people who have said their boys were easier as kids, more loving to their mum. I had such a close relationship with my mum, but couldn't of imagined me with a baby girl. I adore my beautiful, cheeky, funny baby boy and wouldn't want it any other way

My SIL gets that a lot, having only one child (a boy) people assume she has/had medical issues and unable to have another. She had a healthy pregnancy and she and my brother planned to have just one irrespective of whether they had a girl or a boy. Just like some people get married and both do not want to have children doesn’t make them weird or unable to conceive or selfish, the list goes on...This person with her comments is just an idiot assuming things. Perhaps she wants to feel she is better than others and all she can come up with is that she has more children than the one child family and the family of boys are jealous as she has a girl - mental

one and done here, with a girl
I do not want a 2nd at all, ever

YANBU!

I always wanted 2 or 3 boys

Have one of each- lost count of how many people were saying oooooh that's perfect, you're so lucky, you can stop now etc

People always then really looked when I said I'd have loved another boy!

It's funny when people say oh doesn't every women want a daughter etc

I really didn't have that desire- when I found out I was having a girl it was a strange feeling, almost a panic at wanting to make sure I had a better relationship with her than with my DM

Not every woman is close to their or wishing to give birth to a daughter

I am really happy with my 2 boys. I don’t wish I had a girl and never think of what it might be like having a girl. Am too busy doing and thinking boy stuff. I feel really blessed and lucky having my lads. Most of my mum friends have just boys and only 1 who has 3 boys would really love a girl

I have a 4 year old boy and 6 weeks pregnant with my second and I'm hoping for another boy!

Your work colleague is odd!

What an idiot!
I waited 10 years for my little boy and went through several rounds of IVF.
It was all my birthdays and Christmases rolled into one when I found out I was pregnant and had a wonderful healthy child.
Every child is a blessing x

I always said I was delighted to have only boys because I was such a fucking nightmare as a teenager and a daughter would probably be same

Yanbu

I only ever wanted boys and had two!
I have been asked so many times ‘are you going to try for a girl?’
Me: ‘er, no!’
You might know my colleague who thinks it really odd that I don’t really want a girl :-)

I have 4 boys (19, 16 & 5) and a girl (17), doesn't really make a difference as kids are pains whatever the sex. My daughter is more supportive but hard work. My sons though also helpful, are more predictable and I know where I stand with them. I don't think it matters, I just love my children boy or girl.

3* boys

I'm just glad and so grateful I have the one daughter, two girls would be mind numbing. My daughter agrees.

I met someone once who told me she was crying at her gender scan because she really wanted a girl and would have aborted if it was a boy. I was horrified

God people are weird. And she sounds like an absolute DICK!!!

It took me 5 rounds of IVF and 3 miscarriages to have my baby, a DS. So I couldn’t have a given shiny shite what the sex was!!! And given what I went through and what his did to my body (very bad joint problems, still struggling to walk at 5 months on) I am very happy with my amazing DS. I certainly don’t want anyone to pity me.

It’s swings and roundabouts though, girls are totally fetishised in UK culture by some but for lots of other cultures it’s boys. My neighbour’s Indian mother was beside herself with excitement when I told her I was having a boy, something along the lines of a first born boy what a blessing.

Like others have said I think the whole Mother Daughter relationship is a bit of myth I don’t know any of my friends who have that sort of relationship mine probably comes the closest but we are not cosey close anymore for various reasons and we are very different.

Haha yes @BeenThereDone I have always had that in the back of my mind, and although I wouldn’t have cared I did do I silent little ‘phew’ when I found out it was a boy

Why is it ‘mumsnet’ acceptable to say you’d never want a daughter, but frowned upon to say you’d never want a son?

Bunch of hypocrites on this thread

I have one ds and was overjoyed when i found out he was a boy. Id always wanted to have a boy but id love a girl just the same if i were to have one. Although i myself am not a girly girl im much more of a tomboy

I wanted a girl originally but had a boy and wouldn't change him for the world...I'd be more than happy to have a second boy and I can't even imagine having a girl now!

I would be disappointed if I only have 1 but that's because we want 2, if you only want 1 then that's totally fine

I have 1 girl and 2 boys,and even though I’m very happy with my lot I didn’t have a preference. People should stop judging and just be content and happy with there own lives!

My firstborn was a boy - I adore him, would do anything for him...but yes I very much longed for a daughter second time around and cried tears of joy when I found out. It has been a joyous experience, I love them both but I would have always felt sad if I hadn't had a daughter. Some men feel the same way about having a son.

Odd that so many posters are saying she was unreasonable, yet go on to say similar comments as the OPs colleague!