Not everyone feels sorry for Mums of just boys or only children

[AlwaysFuckingTired]

Speaking to an acquaintance who mentioned feeling sorry for two of the women she works with in her office. One a Mum of 2 boys, and the other a Mum of one. Apparently she feels awkward as she thinks they're both jealous of her as she's a Mum of both sexes. I asked why she thought that, and she said "oh all women want a Daughter don't they? and everyone wants more than one" I said I've known lots of people happy with an only child or all boys, and she pulled an odd face as if she didn't believe me and said "well that's what people say"

AIBU to think she's a bit of a knob?

I have sons. I was hugely relieved each time. I feel no disappointment whatsoever. I do not want daughters, never have done.

@Eenymeeny123 me, my brother and my sister all have the same bond/sense of humour. He's 17yrs older than us but it took until we were all well in to adulthood for it to even out. We're crazy when together. Drive everyone mad especially our Mum 😂😁

My boys are the light of my life and then joy of my world.

My lovely boys are beautiful.

Do what you want and want what you want I will love my boys.😘😘😘😘

Very strange thing to say. I would not agree with her at all?! That’s like saying everyone likes broccoli

Mouse, true. But if you both like it it probably isn’t too much of an issue. If he didn’t and you didn’t let him do ballet, that would be sad.

I have a son who was not into football until about 9-10. I am fairly sure it was ‘peer pressure’ that made him like it. He has a friend who is a girl who is equally in to it. But she has to withstand peer pressure to do it and he gave in to it to like it, iyswim?

I am not that into it, so am mildly fed up that peer pressure has worked against me like this.

What a strange attitude!

I’d be lying if I didn’t say I occasionally yearned for another dc but the sex of that dc wouldn’t matter to me.

It’s sadly too late now but I have a beautiful Ds and I can’t imagine life being any different. He’s wonderful, at times hard work, but I wouldn’t change him for the world.

Why would anyone feel sorry for those of us with just Ds? It beggars belief!

Half the comments are just as bad as the loony the OP talks about. Boys are so easy, girls are hard, so glad I dont have to deal with sexism girls face blah blah. Are u for real? You are raising half the population sexism is not just something we educate girls on

Very weird. She sounds a bit stupid tbh.

The peer pressure is crap.
My boys are my boys and I love them.

But I hate the assumption that I will lose them when they marry.
Based on testicles I am told what my relationship will be like. No matter the love, the joy and the caring .

I am baffled by the the importance people place on genitalia.

She’s a bit thick I think.

She's a bit thick but not alone. A friend had a third boy and actually had a friend write her an almost condolence email after her third was born. "I'm really sorry to hear....." "you can always try again"

This thread is so alien to me. I have 3 DC's, and have never had a single comment from anyone regarding their sex

I have 5 boys a collegue once said she pitied me not knowing the love of a daughter 🤣

Having suffered from infertility for 10 yrs I couldn't give a damn if I had a son or daughter, my only concern was having a healthy baby. She will be my only child!

I really wanted a healthy baby, who would grow up into a nice person. Ds is now 11, and so far I have everything I could have wanted. I'm sure if he'd have been a girl I would have felt exactly the same.

Growing up, I only ever imagined myself with the gender of the children I went on to have. When I was pregnant with my first child, I really hoped it was the gender I had dreamed of which it was and truthfully I was delighted. When I was having my second child, I still had that preference but it wasn't as strong as it had already been fulfilled with the first child. The second child turned out to be the same gender as the first and again I was very happy, although by then I was after losing a baby and what I wanted most of all was a healthy child.

I think a lot of us have a preference which frankly is perfectly fine. What is not okay is to assume and voice the opinion that other people must think as you do.

What?
A nice boy is better than an annoying girl for example. Boys are great and so are girls. Weird attitude. Do these people not like any boys? What about their partners? I don't get it.

I have two girls and two boys and people have said to me pretty regularly that I have the perfect family! I think...if only they knew!🤨

How bizarre. I'm choosing to have just one and was desperate for a boy which I'm so grateful I have.

I have two boys - they are an absolute joy and delight and always have been ... but, despite this, I always quietly yearned for a girl as well ... that is until I had to deal with my sons’ teenage girlfriends - now I am so glad I had boys. They are a bloody nightmare.
My ex MIL, who had two boys and a girl, always said that mothers secretly really wanted to have boys, not girls, and that girls were a bit pointless. I was always quite insulted as I was one of two girls.

Geez, some people can be shallow. For many women/ men the chance to have a child- regardless of gender is simply a miracle (me included!). People should be grateful for what they have! Boys/girls who really cares! I have one and after going through ivf all I wanted was a healthy child. Anything beyond that was inconceivable at that time. However I do think that the gender of your child potentially changes the make up of your family- no better or worse though.

User...that's horrible! YOU are bizarre! Ugh!

Coffee....you are just as shallow! You seem to think all girls are the same...you utter hypocrite! Are you really that stupid and judgmental? You were as girl once ffs!!

You condemn these girls but YOU are no different and YOU are an adult and parent! Shame.

She's a knob

Yanbu. 1 son who I couldn't love or be happier about oh and we chose to have a boy 😊