Morning drinking

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I'm curious to know thoughts on this. I'm completely okay with it but interested to see what people think.

Once and sometimes twice a week at 10am I will crack open a bottle of wine and have 2 or 3 glasses over a few hours. I'll Read, catch up on some tv and other stuff and just relax and enjoy.

I do this because this is the only time I get to myself while the kids are in school and before everyone gets home around 4. I don't drink in the evening or at the weekends. Probably having around 16 units a week.

I know if I was to tell anyone this they'd think I had a problem and needed a drink first thing in the morning, but I don't.It's about 4 or 5 days before I'll have a glass of wine again since the last one.

What are you're thoughts?

Oh sounds lovely, nice wine, bit of peace, relax. Who cares what time of day it is. If that is when you can fit in crack on.

I am an ex nurse/shift worker though so was used to having a drink out with friends after a run of nights at 08:00

Definitely seems weird to me, but then I’m such a lightweight when it comes to alcohol.If I was to start doing a bottle of wine at 10am I’d be unable to function by lunchtime.

go you use a glass?x

I’d be concerned about your choice to use alcohol to relax more than when you were doing it.

Nope. Not doing it at other times. Don't drink in the evening or weekends. Probably will next Sat as I have a party to go to but that is it.

I try to stick to around the 14 most weeks.

Partner knows. Honestly not about the 10/11 am thing but thinks I have my first glass around 12. Had no reason to mention it, everything is the same whether 2 hours earlier or later.

The thing for me is that if I have a drink I have a bit of a "fuck it" attitude to doing things around the house. If I was drinking at 10 am I wouldn't do any housework at all.

It seems a bit odd that you send the kids off to school but then sit on the sofa drinking and watching TV until they come back. What do you do in the evening to differentiate from that?

Why doesn't he know u start at 10am?

Slippery slope and not normal at all.

A glass of Buck’s Fizz on xmas or new year day fine.. glasses of wine with weekday breakfast worrying.

stops me feeling any grogginess in the morning if I were to have 2 or 3 in the evening.

Why not just not drink at all? What's the need for it?

Partner knows. Honestly not about the 10/11 am thing but thinks I have my first glass around 12

I think that’s a bit odd. You’re obviously feeling uncomfortable about it otherwise you would have told your partner

It’s a really interesting question, OP, and as you & others have said, opinions are typically cultural or socially-based rather than factual.

I drink way too much for my calorie-liking.. probably two / three bottles a week over the course of the week, depending on work events & social calendar.

I hardly ever drink on the day though, because I’m useless after, so limit it to when bed beckons after.

What do your husband and children think of it? Mine would definitely be very concerned if I ever opened the wine at 10.00am by myself.

It’s easy to relax after the school run isn’t it?, probably the least likely time of day you’d need something like alcohol to do this

I still think no matter what people say it’ll have no effect and you think it’s fine

You need to get a job or a hobby. Obviously hanging around at home killing time until your kids come home isn't fulfilling for you and you're filling the day with drinking. Sounds like a vacuous existence. Do you have a career to go back to?

Why is "lone drinking" such a problem if you are staying within the recommended units? I definitely feel encouraged to drink more when in social settings than on the sofa with a book/Netflix. I can't drink too much at home because I already go over the recommended units when out with friends - if my life were structured in such a way that I wasn't out much in drinking environments, I would like to drink more at home - it is, quite simply, relaxing as long as you're not doing it excessively.

at assuming a glass means 250ml! Half my glasses wouldn't even accommodate that much.

I think it is the semi-regularity of it that seems especially peculiar. I have done this sort of thing on birthdays or an odd day alone, but always with something like bucks fizz - I'd hate to drink wine earlier than lunch.

I work from home and must admit that on two days in the whole year I drank during that day - a cocktail at lunch on my birthday, and a small glass of liquer when I was absolutely itching for a pudding and there was nothing else sweet in the house. Just made me enjoy the last hour more!

JacquesHammer Do you drink at all. Why do you think most people have a drink.

Nope. Nothing I need to do on the 2 days that can't wait. I don't drive, they go to clubs in school.

I'm telling you why I like a glass of wine, probably for the same reasons others do. I am chilling out and I like the buzz. Do I need to do it..No but I like it and it is the only time I can get some complete peace and quiet and relax and enjoy some wine.

I am up at 5. Kids out by 8 and I'll have a decent breakfast, tidy up and sit and chill out by myself.

Thanks for the responses. I'll read more but won't reply for a bit.

I completely understand it is not normal, especially to those who don't drink even in the evening. I just wanted to hear thoughts. I'm not trying to challenge social norms but sometimes I do find them ridiculous.

Do you smell of wine? When you've drunk wine? I didn't know I did.

Ds1 didn't have a single day off school when in primary, because that kid was never ill. So these everyday Catastrophes of having to collect sick children from school, that all these posters keep talking about, or having to take them to hospital, doesn't necessarily happen to posters. Hasn't to me.

And if I did have a glass or two of wine, with my mum or friend of a lunchtime, before going to collect DS2 from primary:

I'd probably also had garlic prawns/paella/sticky toffee pudding/ or chocolate covered strawberries.

So I'd probably stink of garlic rather than anything else.

and I might have squirted a bit of perfume and re-applied my lipstick as I very occasionally do before doing the school run.

I doubt anyone could smell wine on me. I can't say I've ever smelt it on anybody else?

Is it obvious? Strong smelling?

Do you drink at all

Very rarely.

Why do you think most people have a drink on the whole because of social conditioning.

Oblomov - i do have a great sense of smell, but yes, absolutely people smell of wine / beer / whisky etc if they’ve been drinking.

Some people don’t know they/their homes smell of smoke / dog etc but they do.

MN'ers don't drink, you know.

I drink all the time.

I'm off out to yet another party in a couple of hours. My closest friends birthday. She lives in the next road. I'm sure I'll drink wine.

Why are you happier with DH thinking you start at 12?

I think if you can clearly answer that question for yourself you'll very easily sum up most of the thoughts of those on here who think it's odd.

Similar to the person upthread who talks of Spaniards having coffee with a shot at 8.am, they do that in Italy too
An 11am glass of a fortified wine (sherry etc) here at the golf club is the norm for the blue rinse brigade and my elderly neighbours here have embraced the concept of 'coffee-with-a-kick(so that'd be Baileys,then) at any bloody time at all. I love my elderly,sociable neighbours
Horses for courses. If you're fine with what you do and can meet all your commitments, well, cheers!OP

I actually think it sounds lovely

I so much enjoy my rare empty house mornings when kid is in school and dh is at work and I’m off. Sadly I don’t have an off switch so would find it hard to stop, plus I love a glass in the evening so keep it for then.

If you prefer to have a glass or 3 in peace and quiet, rather than while having to deal with all the evening stuff then go for it.

Sadly as most people don’t drink in the day it will be judged harshly.

Each to their own

Christ. What about people who go to business lunches? Have a works Christmas lunch?

And then do school pick up at 3pm?

Maybe we need a smell detector at the school gate.

Partner knows. Honestly not about the 10/11 am thing but thinks I have my first glass around 12. Had no reason to mention it, everything is the same whether 2 hours earlier or later

So if it's all the same regardless of time, why are you hiding it? How did your partner acquire the false belief about what time you start drinking?