Morning drinking

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I'm curious to know thoughts on this. I'm completely okay with it but interested to see what people think.

Once and sometimes twice a week at 10am I will crack open a bottle of wine and have 2 or 3 glasses over a few hours. I'll Read, catch up on some tv and other stuff and just relax and enjoy.

I do this because this is the only time I get to myself while the kids are in school and before everyone gets home around 4. I don't drink in the evening or at the weekends. Probably having around 16 units a week.

I know if I was to tell anyone this they'd think I had a problem and needed a drink first thing in the morning, but I don't.It's about 4 or 5 days before I'll have a glass of wine again since the last one.

What are you're thoughts?

One or two incidents of bad luck like having to collect sick kids from school could very quickly lead to a referral to social services.

2 glasses / max 3 over say 3 or 4 hours. Not a whole bottle. Drink Water, lunch and then completely fine by late afternoon. No drinking in the evening. I like my solitude and a good nights sleep.

Sounds pretty healthy to me.

10am is very early and sounds a bit off

But your posts sound like you’re fine with it?

Three large glasses is a bottle 🤷‍♀️ be more clear of the quantity in ur glass, u say a glass of wine why would people not assume it's a full glass..

I like a drink as much as the next person but even I can generally hold out until the early evening. I'd be far more worried about someone consciously "holding out" (as opposed simply not wanting a drink) till evening. That does imply a need for alcohol whereas what OP is describing doean't suggest she has a craving for it.

I'm completely okay with it but interested to see what people think

If you're completely ok with it, why are you asking strangers on the internet what they think about it?

I think you're skirting round the truth. You're not ok with it or you wouldn't have started the thread for 'thoughts'. You started the thread so that you could put forward all of the reasons why it's ok and that you're in full control of your drinking.

You clearly do 'need' it or you wouldn't do it. Drinking at home, alone, at 10am, on a regular basis is problem drinking. You know this because you know what the school would do if they called you in at midday and you had clearly been drinking.

You're a functioning alcoholic. You're minimising and justifying because that's what addicts do.

Do you have a partner? Do you tell them that you're drinking during the day, or do they not know about it?

You're a functioning alcoholic. You're minimising and justifying because that's what addicts do.

Pretty bold statement to make based on the OP's posts.

You're going to get a crapton of judgement and condemnation I'm afraid. Mainly because you're breaking a societal norm. Note that societal norms don't need to have a logical basis for you to be judged for breaking them.

I honestly think it's fine. Most people drink to get slightly fuzzy. Getting slightly fuzzy in the morning is equally valid to getting equally valid in the evening. In fact it seems eminently sensible to do it while the kids are out of the house so you can be fully functional in the evenings when they are present. People saying "But what if you're needed" could equally ask that question of you after 6pm, yet somehow they don't. By that logic as a parent you'd never drink at all!

If you're happy and confident that you drink because you make the conscious choice to, rather than because you need to, and you don't do it to excess, then I'd say to keep doing what makes you happy!

It is unusual, but you've made me wonder why it's unusual. I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all. I love having the house to myself with a glass of wine in one hand and a book in the other, if during the day is the only time that happens then...why not?

Why can’t you relax without drinking several glasses of wine?
That’s the main issue I think

I dont think drinling in the morning is a problem per s but irs about context so when i was single and was on nights (nurse) sometimes i eould have a couple of drinks in the morning before bed as it was my evening , but i think its odd drinking on your own during the day when wveryone else is out, and i love wine .

PositiveThinking - I knew the responses I would get because it is unusual and not the norm but it works for me. It's not as if I wake up and need a drink. It's 4pm on a sat and I won't be having any alcohol now. Probably have a few glasses mid week in the morning now. The time I give to myself to relax by myself and enjoy some wine.

I too always find it strange that it has to be to wine o'clock or you have to have someone in the room sharing a glass with you.

So to the Naisayers. What happens if you and your husband have had 3 glasses of wine each in the evening and your dc has jumped out of bed and cracked their head. What do you do then. I'd be interested to know? Do you never have a drink until they have left home.

I can completely understand that if you smelled booze on me at 10am you'd think I was an alcoholic but I only drink about 14 to 16 units a week and I do not crave it, need it.

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Hmmm. Difficult one. Socially no. But actually thinking now, really I don’t know whats wrong with it. ‘What if your child had an accident and you needed to go to a&e’ yeah but that could happen at 9pm on a saturday...

Pretty bold statement to make based on the OP's posts

I don't think so. I think the OP has given less than half the real story here.

Why else would they start a thread asking for thoughts from strangers if they are truly not concerned about their drinking? 'Ooooh, I wonder what random people on the internet think about something that I'm 100% happy with and which isn't a problem whatsoever, just out of interest?'

Can I ask if you don't drink in the morning How many units a week do you drink in the evening over a week?

Not sure why you’re asking what others think?

You seem fine with it, happy to defend it

I think, if your child needed to be taken to A&E at 11pm and you rolled up in a taxi with them, smelling of wine, no-one would bat an eyelid. But if your child needed to be taken to A&E at 11am, and you rolled up smelling of wine, safeguarding concerns would be raised.

I actually think it’s fine, if it really is limited to what you’re saying. If you’re someone who doesn’t drink to get drunk, and only drinks because you like the taste of wine, I understand a situation where you might fancy it in the morning. I couldn’t do it because even if I have a couple of glasses with lunch I feel a bit groggy by the evening, but I wish I could because I like the taste of wine and sometimes really fancy a glass.

Why else would they start a thread asking for thoughts from strangers if they are truly not concerned about their drinking? 'Ooooh, I wonder what random people on the internet think about something that I'm 100% happy with and which isn't a problem whatsoever, just out of interest?

No need for the huffy face.

Some people who do things that are outside the norm are curious to gauge opinion. It's not necessarily a cry for help.

But huff away if it brings you joy.

When I worked nights and had had a bad one I sometimes used to have a nip or two of whisky before going to bed.

Social rules vary over time and culturally.

When I lived in Spain (last century) having a carajillo - espresso with a good slug of brandy) or two on the way to work was totally normal.

Looking further ago "For hundreds of years prior to the early 1800s, the English drank beer for breakfast. In fact, beer was known as the breakfast drink. That was because plain water was usually contaminated, and coffee, tea, and hot cocoa were not widely available."

As the saying goes . . . what the f@ck is normal?

I can see why op is asking what people think; she's challenging a social norm and that's interesting.

Sounds revolting to me. My third cup of coffee is just kicking in by that hour, but each to her own. Sounds alright. I don't buy the 'but what if your kids get sick' argument because that could happen at any time but there are plenty of MN who think you should never touch a drop of alcohol at all if you have kids under 25 or they see an addict in anyone and everyone.

How many units a week do you drink in the evening over a week?

Some weeks/months: 0

Average week: less than 5

This week: 10, because I went on a birthday night out.

But how much other people drink in a week is irrelevant, if you're as happy with your drinking as you claim to be.