Morning drinking

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I'm curious to know thoughts on this. I'm completely okay with it but interested to see what people think.

Once and sometimes twice a week at 10am I will crack open a bottle of wine and have 2 or 3 glasses over a few hours. I'll Read, catch up on some tv and other stuff and just relax and enjoy.

I do this because this is the only time I get to myself while the kids are in school and before everyone gets home around 4. I don't drink in the evening or at the weekends. Probably having around 16 units a week.

I know if I was to tell anyone this they'd think I had a problem and needed a drink first thing in the morning, but I don't.It's about 4 or 5 days before I'll have a glass of wine again since the last one.

What are you're thoughts?

I would be concerned if you were a friend or relative of mine. What would happen if you needed to go to school because your child was ill or had an accident? You then up drunk (we all think we are acting sober after a drink or two, but can identify when sober if someone else has had a drink) and smelling of alcohol, they would be extremely concerned about you.

It maybe is more acceptable, cos then you’re not drinking alone and it’s also more of an occasion. I know some people meet friends for lunch multiple times a week, but generally speaking it’s less often.

The way you are defending it now though makes me think you’ve a problem.

It sounds unusual but it makes no difference to your liver if you're drinking in the morning or evening.

Mornings I drink:

Christmas morning

When I'm in the airport about to jet off somewhere exciting

When something exciting has happened e.g toasting a new baby, received publishing contract.

I'm not sure why you would want to do this in you don't have a problem - why does "relaxing" entail a glass of wine? (I know lots of people say they wind down with alcohol in the evenings, but I think that's our cultural unhealthy attitude to drinking, and not a good thing either.)

It is very odd to me. And if you'd feel groggy in the mornings if you drank the same amount at night, then it's got to be too much during the day too.

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But a pub’s not alone Oblomov.

It’s short for public house.

If it works for you and you enjoy it then why not? As long as you keep your eye on it I don't see what the problem is

Alcohol use has some pretty firm social rules. You're breaking two of them. Lone drinking and morning drinking.

I don't think line drinking is breaking a 'social rule' in the way morning drinking is. When I lived alone I'd frequently drink a bottle of wine on a Friday/Saturday night and not feel at all like some wild rule breaking renegade.

*lone drinking

It's certainly not normal...

I'm not sure that makes it a problem though. Just a bit bizarre.

I've never understood the idea that drinking alone is taboo. I sometimes have a glass or 2 of wine alone in the evening.

And you can't watch This Morning with a cup of tea and a Kitkat?

Yes, it's problematic.

And if you were to meet a girlfriend for lunch and had 3 glasses of wine, that would be considered a boozy lunch. And not great when you had kids coming in the door soon after.

Does anybody know you do this or is it a secret?

Kids needing to go to the hospital could happen any time of day or night.....

I know it's not normal. What if I was called to school at 12.30 in the middle of an early lunch with a friend. It's okay to smell of booze then is it because it's lunch with friends.

Not a need at all. Haven't had a drink for days now and never actually crave it.

How are you in yourself, OP? Are you drinking to pass the time? Are you bored? Do you feel low?

Maybe think about getting a part-time job that's relatively stress free?

Not defending it. Asking for thoughts. I completely understand it's unusual. As for drinking alone, why is that a problem. My husband often pops to the pub to get a bit quiet and read a book by himself.

And as someone said an accident can occur in the evening when you've had plenty to drink.

What difference does day or night make?

A bottle of wine from 10am in the morning? That's odd, what if ur kids needed u..
it's different if ur out for lunch as it's a social occasion and out of the norm..

I don't think I'd fancy a glass of wine at 10am for a start, a nice cup of tea would be preferable. If you were a friend of mine, I would be concerned that you were drinking during the day, on your own. Having the occasional boozy lunch with friends is fine, but sinking 3 glasses of wine while the kids are at school sounds distinctly odd.

In the context you're explaining OP, I honestly do t see a problem with it at all, and I'm almost a non drinker (maybe 1 social pint every 3-4 months max).

Because of the time of day you start drinking I think people cannot get past it and automatically thinking warning bells, but I know loads of Mum friends (and lots that I see on social media or MN) who will mention how they have a few glasses of wine in the evening at twice a week and nobody bats an eyelid at this... many of these mums will also find themselves alone in evenings; husbands working away/on a night out with friends or also the many single parents too, and they will open a bottle and have a few glasses in their own after young kids have gone to bed... but what if these children wake up and need caring for? Or what if they wake ill and they need to get the child to a hospital, or a family emergency arises and they're now too over the limit to drive?

See these sort of rare occurrences can happen for anyone at any one time, and by the sounds of things you will only open the wine when you know that you're not expected to drive or deal with sudden emergencies (just like an evening drinker) and if the only time you can do this happens to be in the day then I don't see why it's being judged as a 'warning sign' of alcoholism just because it's prior to 4 pm rather than after 🤷🏻‍♀️

Op it has always struck me as odd that drinking in an evening after work is seen as fine, but not at other times. Your liver does not care when you drink alcohol.
Personally I think drinking a whole bottle of wine in a day is too much, whether that is in the morning or evening though. Could you drink a bit less?

Are you posting this pretending it's about you but describing someone else?

No one would be asking any of these questions if you were drinking in the evening , e.g. about 'needing' to have a drink and about looking after kids. (Question to people who drink in the evening: what if you needed to take the kids to hospital in the middle of the night?)

We are very attached to norms. I had a chicken salad for breakfast the other day because it looked like the most appealing thing in Pret. Healthier than a croissant, but my colleagues thought I had lost my mind!

Nope. Not low, not bored. Enjoy it and then I'm done. Might fold the socks and stuff at the same time.

2 glasses / max 3 over say 3 or 4 hours. Not a whole bottle. Drink Water, lunch and then completely fine by late afternoon. No drinking in the evening. I like my solitude and a good nights sleep.

Where does OP say she is drinking the whole bottle?

I think you are fine OP. You don't have to live your whole life by the rules set by society. As long as you are breaking no laws! Bash on and enjoy your morning wine from time to time.

Sorry my bad. That is fine then IMO.

According to the NHS, "men and women are advised not to drink more than 14 units a week on a regular basis".
www.nhs.uk/live-well/alcohol-support/calculating-alcohol-units/
Fatty liver disease is a potential issue which now affects a lot of people. Alcohol is a risk factor.