Morning drinking

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I'm curious to know thoughts on this. I'm completely okay with it but interested to see what people think.

Once and sometimes twice a week at 10am I will crack open a bottle of wine and have 2 or 3 glasses over a few hours. I'll Read, catch up on some tv and other stuff and just relax and enjoy.

I do this because this is the only time I get to myself while the kids are in school and before everyone gets home around 4. I don't drink in the evening or at the weekends. Probably having around 16 units a week.

I know if I was to tell anyone this they'd think I had a problem and needed a drink first thing in the morning, but I don't.It's about 4 or 5 days before I'll have a glass of wine again since the last one.

What are you're thoughts?

I'm not judging by the way. Advance search me and you'll see my own issues. I'm ok now but OP I think you need to have a word with yourself. You're getting bogged down in petty arguments because you feel attacked but to me I think you have a problem.

Serendipity Are you trying to control it?

No. Just don’t want to drink any more than that.

For me (and I think others!) once you introduce control it's the sign of an issue. I once had "control" of something. And then eventually it had control over me. That isn't somewhere that you want to go.

One or two evenings a week I will have 2 or 3 glasses of wine. I'll enjoy Corrie, binge watch netflix, paint my nails relax and enjoy peace and quiet.

OP can you answer did you name change, to Mrholmes a couple of pages ago or am I going mad?

It seemed the poster was speaking as if they were you.

Are you a man OP?

OP. Do what you like. If real, you're obviously convinced whatever anyone says.
If real though and ready to, check out the Relationship board. There's plenty of support on there. There's the Brave Babes thread where people are cutting down. and the Dry ones where people want to stop completely.

I don't think you are judging Serial.

I am genuinely interested.

I literally could stop for months on end if I wanted to but I don't see the problem. Yes I completely understand about the morning thing and it doesn't look great but that is situational.

I have smoked weed in the past for long periods of time and just stopped for years overnight. Started again with much smaller amounts and then stopped again. Whether people believe me or not I know myself 100% and I could just stop. Would I miss it, maybe a little but it would not bother me in any way. I probably would avoid social gatherings or go home earlier if put in the pub but it would have no effect on me whatsoever.

Denial. Maybe but as I've said I know myself.

Yes Claw, to put your mind at rest. I put my name back, was done with the thread, logged back in and forgot to change name. That's MrHolmes laid to rest.

So stop then if you really can.

It's interesting to revisit this thread 300 posts later and see it still going round and round and round... but I still can't see any arguments that weren't raised in the first 100 posts. or that explain why the time of day - on its own - is an issue.

There seem to be a few themes, but none of them explain it, in my view:

Most alcoholics drink in the morning, therefore so you must be one (Alcoholics drink a lot of alcohol, a lot of the time, not just in the morning - it's the quantity and the need for it that makes you an alcoholic, not just the time of day)

Most alcoholics drink alone, therefore you must be one (lots of single people have a glass of wine in the evening, no one bats an eyelid)

I don't enjoy drinking that early, and therefore there must be something wrong with you that you do (I don't either because I get a headache and fall asleep, but the OP has said it doesn't affect her)

It's not culturally normal to drink in the morning (most people have stuff to do that are incompatible with drinking like an office job, but the OP doesn't)

You enjoy the 'buzz' of alcohol, therefore you must have an issue (who doesn't?! It's why we all drink, isn't it?)

You wouldn't want other people seeing it therefore you must be worried (we all do things to avoid people having a negative perception of us, even when we know that perception would be unfounded)

You posted this thread, so you must be worried about it (some topics are just interesting to discuss - I find unpicking social perceptions and the reasons for them totally fascinating)

You have contradicted yourself, so therefore you must be trying to cover something up (the OP's words have been twisted or misunderstood so many times in this thread, it's insane!)

You count your units ... but also... You don't know really know how much you drink (I'm not sure which one is more likely to make you an alcoholic)

You keep posting (if people keep asking questions, and saying things that you disagree with, then it's natural to respond. You keep posting too, btw!)

I have no idea if the OP is an alcoholic, but I haven't see any evidence of it on this thread. Even if she drinks twice as much as she originally implied, that's still well within the normal range for most evening drinkers and significantly less than a lot of non alcoholics.

Literally the only thing that is non-typical about her drinking is the morning thing.

Yes Claw, to put your mind at rest. I put my name back, was done with the thread, logged back in and forgot to change name. That's MrHolmes laid to rest.

Oh, good grief. Was ignoring that as sounded like another conspiracy theory worthy of being ignored.
You admit though?
Seriously, why would you log in to agree with yourself?

Jen Thanks for the summary. People post my twisted words and I can't help but come back. This has taken up so much of my time. I've been more addicted to this than wine. I've neglected my kids and been stuck on this thread. I've asked mumsnet to delete it. Hopefully tonight is the last You'll see of me.

Verbeena Believe me or not. I know me better than you do. You only seen my badly constructed sentences and tried to extrapolate my life from what is always lost in translation.

Thanks OP, night I still think you are a man!

Verbeena I forgot to change my name. How do you jump to all these conclusions.

You're Male? As per your other thread?

Not jumping to anything. Only commenting on what you have posted yourself.

Jen, interesting summary. My take is a disordered drinker seeking validation. Whatever the outcome I hope the OP is ok, I'd have totally ignored sanctimonious internet randoms too!

It shouldn't make a difference whether OP is a man or a woman - but there's something really off about masquerading as a woman on a thread - and that remark about having "great boobs"

I think you have a problem, MrHolmes, possibly you're drinking because you're not as happy as you would have us believe. Drinking in the morning is a really, really bad idea, especially when you're collecting your children later on, and I wonder whether you've been honest about the amount you drink too.

Verbeena I think the Op means they just forgot to check their logged in name not that they were intending to sock puppet

Thanks SerialTester

Btw - MrHolmes has posted "I am a man" on other threads, and about being (slightly) unhappy in his relationship. This is nothing to be ashamed of, but hitting the wine at 10am should probably not be the answer.

ToeToe I am fairly happy. Money worries and other stuff but compared to a lot of people I am very lucky.

As others have said. If I had come on here saying that I drink 2 to 3 glasses of wine in the evenings 2x a week and sometimes I have a bit more some weeks. Is that too much nobody would have batted an eyelid

There is something quite discomfiting about someone masquerading as a woman on mumsnet.