Morning drinking

[nottellingyou101]

I'm curious to know thoughts on this. I'm completely okay with it but interested to see what people think.

Once and sometimes twice a week at 10am I will crack open a bottle of wine and have 2 or 3 glasses over a few hours. I'll Read, catch up on some tv and other stuff and just relax and enjoy.

I do this because this is the only time I get to myself while the kids are in school and before everyone gets home around 4. I don't drink in the evening or at the weekends. Probably having around 16 units a week.

I know if I was to tell anyone this they'd think I had a problem and needed a drink first thing in the morning, but I don't.It's about 4 or 5 days before I'll have a glass of wine again since the last one.

What are you're thoughts?

I think units are only keeping being brought up as OP has been repeatedly bringing up how many she has.
Agreed,it's not a problem, if you know it actually isn't.
Why would you keep on posting though if you knew everything was fine.
If you've been drinking to the point that you don't know how many you've been drinking last year so couldn't say, then post on here asking if it's OK to move and morning drink the best part of a bottle of wine at 10am, people are going to erm, is that OK.

Top sentence should be bolded as was OP words

random OP there, should be Top sentence should be bolded as was others words

Verbeena I didn't keep track. It could have been 16 or 30. My point being I don't know because I didn't keep track. It probably wasn't more than 30, some weeks less.

You said you like your wine and drink too much, then how much do you THINK your drinking.

16 or 30 - that's a hell of a difference and a shift in units.
Seriously, check out the brave babes thread like someone else mentioned. Or there's the Dry threads too if you want to completely abstain.
Think they're in the Relationship boards if you want to look. Lots of support there rather than AIBU,

Verbeena Am I not allowed to post. Does that mean that I gave a problem because I keep posting? I am responding to people and asking more questions. People aren't reading the whole thread and I am answering questions I've already answered.

I am actually fine with what I do. I have reduced my intake, I have big gap days off to give my liver a rest. I enjoy my wine but I am in the early stages of tracking it. I am sure at some point I will know I have had 16 or less units a week.

How many do you have. Your not answering now.

It does seem a bit like whatever you say about your drinking (colloquial 'you', not anyone in particular), someone will twist that into an ominous-sounding comment about dependency.

There was that bit about if you try to control it, the substance is controlling you or whatever. But how can that be the case? To have a safe amount, you literally have to control the amount. How can that always be a problem?

I think there is a sense in which certain posters just always have to know better.

OP did you just name change to Mrholmes the page before?

To have a safe amount I think you just have to be aware and that is all I'm trying to be but being aware means I have a problem.

I try to be aware of the red meat I eat and I've cut that down too, does it mean I am a meat addict now and have a bad relationship with meat?

Verbeena Am I not allowed to post.

Course you're allowed to post, no'ones said otherwise.

I don’t think it’s bad to stay within the limit on purpose
But I haven’t looked into this stuff very much
The time was the only reason I posted as I did

The trouble is we do not know what is a safe amount of either food or liquids. They keep changing their bloody minds.

eat red meat... cancer/hear disease???
eat fish .... mercury???
eat wheat... ???
caffeine ... ???
aspartame... ??
Alcohol... ???
Sugar...???
Fats ???

I am sick to death of the NHS Saying one thing the WHO saying something contradictory...

Sardinians. greeks live to a ripe old age. Or do they???

If you stick with fruit and vegetable and a couple of glasses a wine each week, you'll be fine. You'll just end up dying of boredom Something gets you in the end.

I try to be aware of the red meat I eat and I've cut that down too, does it mean I am a meat addict now and have a bad relationship with meat?

How is that even comparable to drinking too much? Sure, red meat isn't good for you, but a bacon butty at 10am isn't quite the same as cracking open a bottle of wine at 10am and having 3 glasses by early afternoon.

I'm not saying it's the same. I'm talking about the response to me tracking my units that I've had. People have jumped on that as a red flag.

If you want to reduce something you become more aware of it, but it has been labelled as bad MANY times in this thread.

fruit and veg... pesticides??

To be serious what they all seem to agree on is moderate exercise. Beware intense exercise my forty something sport mad friend needs a new hip, hers are worn out.

They cannot even agree on the BMI which is flawed they now say...

I'll say it again - if you're trying to control the substance the substance is in control of you. I'm sorry OP but ignoring the unit counting and the thread derails - to me (a hopefully ex drug addict) your posts smack of denial and hope for validation. Your drinking is disordered and clearly takes up a lot of headspace.

A nice fast walk is what I like. Get the heart rate up and done.

There was that bit about if you try to control it, the substance is controlling you or whatever. But how can that be the case? To have a safe amount, you literally have to control the amount. How can that always be a problem?

Didn’t the poster mean “if you have to try to control it”?

I drink between 5-10 units a week. It’s not an effort to stay within that limit.

I'm not saying it's the same. I'm talking about the response to me tracking my units that I've had

To be fair, you're the one saying how much you should or shouldn't be having and people have questioned that.

In response to an earlier comment- if you need to judge your behaviour by a "safe amount" you're in trouble.

your posts smack of denial and hope for validation. Your drinking is disordered and clearly takes up a lot of headspace.

Yep, same. From someone who knows that I necks too much wine. You need to know it in yourself though to do something about it.

Serial Tester I've taken what you've said on board but If I just drank 3 bottles of wine a week without thinking about it or having it cause any issues with friends or family. Then that is okay?

It's called DrinkAware. I'm not ignoring what you say, like Cressida just said. I am confused.

If you enjoy 1 spliff a week and you stick to one spliff a week and when you fancy a second spliff in the week but you tell yourself, no, I've had my spliff this week, I don't see that as a bad thing or trying to control a recreational and harmless amount of weed, but if you are constantly telling yourself not to have another and then end up having 4, I would se that as a problem because you can't control yourself. What level of control is good or bad.