To think I don’t owe my colleague an apology?

[Slytherdor]

I will start by saying this is very petty, but this woman has form for being irritating, so I’m sticking to my guns where I might normally let it go.

Just to set the scene for you briefly- there’s a TV show I loved a few years back, stopped watching because they killed off a particular character who I thought was essential to why it was so good. I had no urge to watch it without them. (won’t say the show or character in case someone has just started watching!)

Anyway. This morning I was in the kitchen at work making coffee, there were two colleagues in there discussing this show. The first one (hereafter referred to as CC, crazy colleague) had evidently convinced the other colleague (OC) to watch this show, and they were both talking about how great it was. I was minding my own business. Eventually, CC turns to me and says ‘oh Slytherdor, you MUST watch this show.’

I responded that I actually used to love it, but stopped after season X due to the character death. She responds ‘watch season Y’. I again enforced that I didn’t want to due to character death. She goes ‘trust me, watch season Y.’

I am now pretty intrigued, so I say ‘are they not really dead? I will definitely watch it if so!’ she just gives me a weird smile and says again ‘trust me, watch season Y’.

I say ‘are they alive?’ and she again repeats ‘trust me, watch season Y’ with the same weird face. At this point I genuinely can’t tell if the person is still alive, or if she’s just so passionate about this show and trying to get me to watch it. I therefore say ‘are they alive? I’ll watch it if they are alive again, I won’t if they aren’t.’ her response?

‘trust me, watch season Y’.

I’m now starting to get pretty irritated. I don’t want to be forced into watching this show just because she thinks I should, and the fact that I am politely asking over and again and getting the same line back is annoying me.

I say ‘I have no interest in watching if they aren’t alive CC, but I defo will if they are. Are they?’

‘trust me, watch season Y’

SAME WEIRD SMILE.

I then say ‘look, I will literally watch it tonight if they are, just tell me.’

‘trust me, watch season Y’

So I just shrug. ‘I’ll leave it, then. But I agree it was a great show.’

I turn back to my coffee, and she goes ‘TRUST ME SLYTHERDOR, WATCH SEASON Y’.

The OC laughs a little nervously and says ‘you will want to watch….’

CC cuts her off shrieking ‘spoilers!!!’

I laugh a bit. ‘it’s ok, I asked to be spoiled, I specifically want to know as I would be frustrated to watch it and waste my time if they aren’t alive. Are they?’

‘trust me, watch season Y’.

Oh man, I was so annoyed by now. So I get out my phone. ‘that’s fine, I’ll just google it. Thanks for the heads up.’

She then KNOCKS THE PHONE OUT OF MY HAND and shrieks ‘no, spoilers!!!!!’

I was aghast, and so angry that she had not only hit me (lightly tbf) but also knocked my phone on the ground. I said ‘are you serious? I can’t even spoil it for myself? I want to know!’

She says ‘why can’t you just trust me!’ and I say ‘because I can’t tell if they are alive or you are just trying to make me watch it, and I really don’t want to waste my time.’

She literally glares at me. So I laugh a little, pick up my coffee and leave. She makes this weird growling, shrieking, frustrated noise as I walk off- very bizarre.

Anyway, just now, I got an IM from OC. ‘don’t tell CC I told you, but they are alive!’

By this point I have googled it, but I am still grateful to her for telling me so I say I am very thankful to her and assure her I will watch, we discuss the show a bit.

I then say ‘that was so weird, why wouldn’t she just tell me’.

She replies ‘I know, she gets very passionate about it. She was upset you didn’t trust her, but she’ll be fine if you apologise.’

I’m like, what? I’m not apologising! She hit me!

She’s just said ‘I know, that was crazy. She won’t let it go if you don’t though.’

I replied that I don’t particularly care if she won’t let it go, I am not apologising for asking to know what happens in a TV show.

She just replied ‘fair enough’ with a smile emoji, and that’s that.

I clearly think this woman is insane and have no wish to apologise to her for this whole scenario. I find the whole thing very childish but I really resent the idea that I owe her an apology, especially since she hit me on the hand. However, the fact that OC suggested I apologise is making me question myself.

Thoughts?

[l12ngo]

Trust me, this is beyond silly

[Slytherdor]

@hartof sacrilege!! I love him! I think there are so few really nice characters on TV, I was so mad when he died.

I also love Booth from Bones for the same reason. Gimme a nice guy any day.

[AlexaAmbidextra]

Jesus. What a carry on about fuck all. 🙄

[AppleMumble]

You both need to get a grip!

[SassitudeandSparkle]

Don't pick this hill to die on OP, you'll look deranged! CC was right all along, bit rude to pull a phone out and check her facts - you could have waited.

[hartof]

He was a nice character and I was sobbing when he died, but I've grown to prefer the other character.

But to answer your question no you don't owe her an apology! She sounds a bit strange.

[thisismeusernameything]

now tempted to wait for the next season and skip the last one entirely!

It’s not very often I’m lost for words

[Bluntness100]

Are you sure this didn't happen at school?

It's one thing for grown adults to behave like kids, it's another to then post about it too.

I can't believe I actually read it all. I think I was hoping it might actually be something of minor consequence.

[TheDogAteMySock]

To answer your question, I wouldn't apologise, you have done nothing to apologise for. I would make no more reference to it in front of her though, you don't want to poke the waps nest.

[Whisky2014]

But as soon as she said "trust me watch season y" that is the indictator to you that the person is alive. I dont understand how you didn't get that...

YABU.

[pigeondujour]

I can't believe you made a third party listen to that tripe.

[RhiWrites]

You do not owe her an apology. You tried to discuss it like an adult and she acted like a child.

You absolutely have the right to use your own phone to look up a detail about a show. Some people don’t mind spoilers. I’m the same. That is your choice.

I see that colleague was trying to do but when you said “I will only watch when I have a definite answer” then she should have answered or dropped the subject.

What if she’d broken your phone? She’s an idiot.

[Jayfee]

It must be the Teletubbies!

[ReadMyLipss]

What a bloody long and annoying post about nothing.

[ladyorangemarmalade]

You and CC both owe OC an apology for having to witness that exchange.

[GoatFinger]

Are you mad?

[PhilomenaButterfly]

Ohhhhhh.

I'd really want to know as well, but my excuse is I'm autistic. #getoutclause

[LEMtheoriginal]

Err it isnt real

[SillyMoomin]

ha. I was just going to post that show name OP, then you added the link. I agree, I was shocked (and then delighted) when I found out the character "came back"

Flipping awesome show!

but your colleague is WEIRD

[LEMtheoriginal]

Was CC called Sharon?

[MrsT4]

I love that show!

And loads of people die in that show! All the time...Also it's a telenovela, I don't know how you didn't see it coming that they were still alive.

[Returnofthesmileybar]

To be fair she annoyed the fucking shit out of me just reading this

[Omzlas]

You're both bonkers. It's a TV show.
She's immature IMO. Plus a bit batshit

I'd be avoiding her from here on in

Don't apologise though - she craycray

[Slytherdor]

To everyone saying they can't believe how childish it is/were expecting something more.... I refer you back to the first line of my OP. Don't say I didn't warn you.

@hartof I am intrigued by that. I could never stand the other character, thought he was dull and a bit miscast. Love the whole ensemble other than him! Is the most recent series worth watching? I know he isn't in it until the last minute or so and I feel like I would miss him!

@TheDogAteMySock I will defo stay away from her. I can concede I was definitely poking the wasps nest and I have no wish to do it again.

@RhiWrites this was exactly my issue. If anyone else had done it I would have taken that as assumption they were alive- with this woman she is so weird and pushy that she could have just been making me watch it, I didn't know what to think.

@SillyMoomin I LOVE it! And yes, she is. She once started a fight with another colleague who kept her daily can of diet coke in the fridge because 'cans don't need to be kept cold'.

[JustMarriedAndLovingIt]

Jane The Virgin?