To think I don’t owe my colleague an apology?

[Slytherdor]

I will start by saying this is very petty, but this woman has form for being irritating, so I’m sticking to my guns where I might normally let it go.

Just to set the scene for you briefly- there’s a TV show I loved a few years back, stopped watching because they killed off a particular character who I thought was essential to why it was so good. I had no urge to watch it without them. (won’t say the show or character in case someone has just started watching!)

Anyway. This morning I was in the kitchen at work making coffee, there were two colleagues in there discussing this show. The first one (hereafter referred to as CC, crazy colleague) had evidently convinced the other colleague (OC) to watch this show, and they were both talking about how great it was. I was minding my own business. Eventually, CC turns to me and says ‘oh Slytherdor, you MUST watch this show.’

I responded that I actually used to love it, but stopped after season X due to the character death. She responds ‘watch season Y’. I again enforced that I didn’t want to due to character death. She goes ‘trust me, watch season Y.’

I am now pretty intrigued, so I say ‘are they not really dead? I will definitely watch it if so!’ she just gives me a weird smile and says again ‘trust me, watch season Y’.

I say ‘are they alive?’ and she again repeats ‘trust me, watch season Y’ with the same weird face. At this point I genuinely can’t tell if the person is still alive, or if she’s just so passionate about this show and trying to get me to watch it. I therefore say ‘are they alive? I’ll watch it if they are alive again, I won’t if they aren’t.’ her response?

‘trust me, watch season Y’.

I’m now starting to get pretty irritated. I don’t want to be forced into watching this show just because she thinks I should, and the fact that I am politely asking over and again and getting the same line back is annoying me.

I say ‘I have no interest in watching if they aren’t alive CC, but I defo will if they are. Are they?’

‘trust me, watch season Y’

SAME WEIRD SMILE.

I then say ‘look, I will literally watch it tonight if they are, just tell me.’

‘trust me, watch season Y’

So I just shrug. ‘I’ll leave it, then. But I agree it was a great show.’

I turn back to my coffee, and she goes ‘TRUST ME SLYTHERDOR, WATCH SEASON Y’.

The OC laughs a little nervously and says ‘you will want to watch….’

CC cuts her off shrieking ‘spoilers!!!’

I laugh a bit. ‘it’s ok, I asked to be spoiled, I specifically want to know as I would be frustrated to watch it and waste my time if they aren’t alive. Are they?’

‘trust me, watch season Y’.

Oh man, I was so annoyed by now. So I get out my phone. ‘that’s fine, I’ll just google it. Thanks for the heads up.’

She then KNOCKS THE PHONE OUT OF MY HAND and shrieks ‘no, spoilers!!!!!’

I was aghast, and so angry that she had not only hit me (lightly tbf) but also knocked my phone on the ground. I said ‘are you serious? I can’t even spoil it for myself? I want to know!’

She says ‘why can’t you just trust me!’ and I say ‘because I can’t tell if they are alive or you are just trying to make me watch it, and I really don’t want to waste my time.’

She literally glares at me. So I laugh a little, pick up my coffee and leave. She makes this weird growling, shrieking, frustrated noise as I walk off- very bizarre.

Anyway, just now, I got an IM from OC. ‘don’t tell CC I told you, but they are alive!’

By this point I have googled it, but I am still grateful to her for telling me so I say I am very thankful to her and assure her I will watch, we discuss the show a bit.

I then say ‘that was so weird, why wouldn’t she just tell me’.

She replies ‘I know, she gets very passionate about it. She was upset you didn’t trust her, but she’ll be fine if you apologise.’

I’m like, what? I’m not apologising! She hit me!

She’s just said ‘I know, that was crazy. She won’t let it go if you don’t though.’

I replied that I don’t particularly care if she won’t let it go, I am not apologising for asking to know what happens in a TV show.

She just replied ‘fair enough’ with a smile emoji, and that’s that.

I clearly think this woman is insane and have no wish to apologise to her for this whole scenario. I find the whole thing very childish but I really resent the idea that I owe her an apology, especially since she hit me on the hand. However, the fact that OC suggested I apologise is making me question myself.

Thoughts?

[Lydiaatthebarre]

The whole thing sounds very teenagerish. I think you both need to grow up.

[ErickBroch]

Haven't read the whole thing... but guessing Jane the Virgin!

[happypoobum]

Are you 12?

Seriously this sounds pathetic.

[Slytherdor]

@ButchyRestingFace don't feel too sorry for OC. As much as I may sound like a high maintenance nightmare, I'm nothing on CC and OC chooses to hang around with her. Nobody else will as she causes so much trouble, so I imagine OC has seen it all. You should defo watch the show, it's legendary. Her virginity takes a surprisingly long time to die!

@mummmy2017 funny you mention Ally McBeal, I decided not to watch season 5 when Larry left. Yes I have previous form in this!

Instead of conceding watching it I could declare I have read all the episode recaps and have no need to watch it. Or I could say nothing and be the bigger person. Which clearly is what I will do, because I have learned from my mumsnet telling off and am now a grown and changed person

[Cornettoninja]

I wouldn’t apologise - she sounds like an internet poster come to life.

I’d just completely ignore any reference to that episode and carry on as normal tbh. She won’t take on board anything said to her and will just get defensive.

[Cornettoninja]

Or scour the internet for future spoilers and wind her up good and proper....

[JemSynergy]

Walking Dead?

[Bluesmartiesarebest]

I’ve never even heard of this show. What channel is it shown on? Most of what I watch is still bbc or itv with a bit of e4 thrown in!

[FilledSoda]

I'm so glad I work from home.
When I was younger i could tolerate dick heads , now I think I might stab them.

[Slytherdor]

@Cornettoninja I certainly shall not. Aside from the fact that I need to grow up and get a life, the general consensus is that I shouldn't apologise, so I'm taking it as a win.

@Bluesmartiesarebest Netflix! well worth it if you like light-hearted comedy dramas. This is where I reveal this whole thing is viral marketing for the new season

[Baking101]

I wouldn't apologise. She tells people that cans don't need to be cold so don't put them in the fridge. She's insane. And she hits her colleagues. She needs reporting, not apologised to.

[CarolDanvers]

I think it’s GOT, I was the same OP. Gave up on it after THAT incident, till the rumours filtered out.

Your colleague sounds nuts.

[Mookie81]

You're more of an arse and idiot than she is.
And he's not dead, so bloody well watch it.

[OurMiracle1106]

I’m going with Brian from family guy and if it’s not you are all being unreasonable!!

[PaulHollywoodsSexGut]

Never ever give this type of person the pleasure of them being able to “know something you don’t know”.

I work with a guy like this and he’s a penis. When I have to ask him a question I need to think about it beforehand so he can’t answer with a closed yes or no ie: “do you know where I can find this spreadsheet?”

Him: “yep!” [turns back to computer, smirking].

At that point I just quickly go ask someone else. He thrives on the thrill of having people “beg” for info as it makes him feel like a big man.

Don’t get drawn into shit like this again, the only way to disarm these idiots is a smile and move on.

[IJustLostTheGame]

Is it Peter Quinn in Homeland?

[IJustLostTheGame]

And don't apologise for her being a dick.

[JessieMcJessie]

Why does everyone say “TV Show” and talk about “Seasons” these days?

It’s a programme and a series!

[bibbidybobbidyboo]

It's Jane the Virgin isn't it?

To be fair, you DO need to watch season Y

Seriously though this does seem like a mountain out of a molehill.

[scarlettoftheseas]

Wow, some people are so boring on here

OP do NOT apologise, she's a nightmare. Stand your ground, for all of us my friend and I once had a blazing row about something in Mamma Mia 2, so i feel your pain! In our defence, we were very hungry so might have gotten a bit hangry. We made up after hahaha

[loveandstuffing]

Definitely Homeland

[InfiniteVariety]

She was clearly getting so much smug satisfaction out of knowing something you didn't OP, that alone would have made me stop asking and then just google it discreetly when I was alone!

But she was rude & very irritating and I don't see why you owe her an apology, though you both played a part in the whole thing getting a little out of hand

[ButchyRestingFace]

You're more of an arse and idiot than she is.
And he's not dead, so bloody well watch it.

It’s not GoT.

[Dotty1970]

You need to grow up, your as bad as her, petty, weird and very strange....

[RhiWrites]

@Slytherdor I can’t believe how much flack you’re taking from people saying this is pointless and boring. I loved this thread, I liked how you narrated the row, I think it’s really interesting.

You bloody better come back with an update. Don’t let the others scare you off.

Also I really appreciated how you occluded the link. 😊