I HAVE A BABY YOU KNOW!

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Now, possibly we’ve all been there...

But AIBU to think that this woman yelling this at me on a station platform was just ridiculous and was IBU to laugh and say ‘that’s nice’.

Picture the scene, last week, crowded tube platform, rush hour, everyone trying to get home. Huge delays, a tube hasn’t been for about twelve minutes. Everyone is getting increasingly pissed off.

Woman with a small child in a buggy is getting pretty irate, sighing dramatically, muttering obscenities etc. She then pushes that ‘information’ button on the platform and when it gets picked up demands to know when the next train is coming (the board is already displaying 10 minutes)

Operator tells her ten minutes. She tells him that is disgusting, she’s got a child, they ought to be sending taxis operator clicks off.

She loses her shit, and screeches I ‘JUST WANT TO GET HOME!!’

I said, ‘yes, I’m pretty sure we all want that’ because she’s irritating me and the platform is chockablock so I cant move away.

She then yells ‘ I HAVE A BABY!!’

I sort of laughed incredulously and said ‘yes, that’s nice’

, I NEED TO GET HOME NOW! THIS IS NOT FAIR ON MY CHILD, I SHOULDNT HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THIS!!’

Child (looked about a year or so so not a baby baby) sat impassively in buggy for the duration.

She didn’t get her taxi, but (rightly so) everyone moved aside when the train finally came so she did get on with the buggy. Lots of people didn’t and had to just wait for the next one.

She kept up with the dramatic sighing the entire way back though.

The level of horribleness that some women display towards other women and girls never ceases to amaze me tbh

@MissMooMoo which buggy is that? Sounds great!

@OneForTheRoadThen it is an icandy raspberry. It can be used from birth and it doesn't weigh very much.
If I could go back in time I probably would get a yoyozen purely for reasons below.

I have bought a gb pockit for airport travel as I often travel solo with my ds to my home country and it can be folded up to hand luggage size

I've only been on the tube once... never again! Every one was so angry couldn't even imagine having to do it with a buggy too

@MissMooMoo thanks! I have the gb pockit too but it isn't suitable as a main buggy as I have so much stuff ( I have a 7 month old and a 2 year old). It is great for travel though.

I'll look unto the raspberry. I have the peach double at the moment but looking to replace with a single soon.

NothingonTelly Of course I don't agree with it. Prostitution is a form of male violence against women.
But I am late 50s, and spent time being brought up by my gran who was born in 1903. Her attitudes were still of a bygone age.

Eliza the only way I can get to see my mum is to travel across London on 3 different tube lines - it’s not possible by bus and is 90 mins door to door by tube. When Dd was little I would go to my mum’s once a week for the day, leaving after the morning rush hour, but inevitably getting tangled up in it on the way back. I did this for both my sake and hers.

Luckily I never ran across anyone like you or the OP.

I’m on the side of the people who have a little compassion and empathy on this thread. Who knows how her day has been or how her mental health was or what she was going home too.

She replied “There’s a baby about to come out!” gesturing at the house. I pointed out that there wasn’t actually a baby coming out right now, so she should shut the door and let us pass, which she eventually did with much tutting and huffing

I read this as a pregnant woman was in labour and about to have an unplanned home birth unless she was taken to hospital urgently. In which case I think it's excusable!

Eh, she didn’t do you any harm OP. If you’re that offended by people expressing frustration in publicity, stick earphones in on the tube. I try to live by the maxim “be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting their own battles” - who knows what sort of day she’d had.

My boss is prone to announcing that she couldn’t mark something as she was looking after her son. After the 3rd/4thtime saying this my 6th formers camelback with ‘Mrs Expectingnumberfour has 3 children and she’s marked our stuff’ 😳☺️ Made me LOL she didn’t have an answer!

She was having a bad day and totally let it all out. I’m kind of impressed I’m the sort to be fuming and not say anything then quietly sob in the corner.

I would be sympathetic generally to be people losing their cool as long as it isn’t aggressive.

Maybe she had had a bad day, maybe her kid is a terrible sleeper and she hasn’t slept for a year. Doesn’t make it right or that she is more important but maybe she just lost her sh*t and was stressed out

I mean fair enough if her kid was screaming and you had an hour or more to wait but wow 10 minutes with a silent baby, doesn't sound too awful to me! She must have been having a really awful day because I can't see how you can be SO stressed out about that, she either thought because she has a baby she should be treated like royalty or she was having a crap day and needed some sympathy, I wouldn't judge her too harshly as you don't know what is going on in her life to make her that easily upset

Wow! I’ve had plenty of instances where I’ve been out with my twins and had to wait a bit longer for public transport... and whilst it does annoy me sometimes I would never go mad like this woman, if she was so desperate to get home and couldn’t possibly wait then why didn’t she order herself a bloomin taxi? People are so self-important these days

I'm more impressed that you only waited 22 minutes...... Where I live if public transport comes within 22 minutes of being due it's a miracle.
I miss London Transport.
But I don't think she was doing anyone any harm, I sometimes get incredibly wound up about small stuff because I've had a shit day/week/month, I do try not to take it out on anyone else though (think she was U for having a go over the information button) but I sometimes rant in public tbh, when the end of my tether has been reached, it's at no one and just a release of frustration, and usually a barely audible 'For fucks SAKE!' directed at the heavens.
She's allowed to be pissed off and frustrated with the situation the same as you're allowed to be irritated by her.

buggy on the tube at eush hour is she insane

before anyone has a go she would have been better getting a bus or two and theyre cheaper-no bloody room for prams on tubes

I always try to give the benefit of the doubt...maybe she had some private or embarrassing reason as to why she had to get home ASAP. Could have endured an exceptionally bad day/week/year and it came out. I mean, who would CHOOSE to throw a paddy on the packed platform?!
I probably would have been sassy all the same but I wouldn't judge her on one encounter unless she was being outright offensive to other people.

my dh commutes every day on the train theres always a parent who demands people get off a crammed already train tgo let them on with their buggy

no they wont fold it down they cant apprently-if theres no room theres no bloody room

A woman did try this on my regular commute with her child. Another woman then replied that she had four kids waiting for her at home and at least she wasn’t being charged £50/hr by the babysitter for hers. It calmed her down. A lot of people lose perspective when they get angry.

Well, we can all lose it sometimes and since you don't know the back story you should really have kept quiet - why make it worse?
I think fair enough to make a path for a buggy, we all know its more difficult to travel with a buggy than without, so be nice and help a little.

And I didn't yell I HAVE A BABY, I yelled I HAVE A CHILD.

I think, give the mum a break, you don’t know what she’s going through. Sounds a slightly irrational response but perhaps she’s suffering anxiety, depression etc.
Being in public, crowded, trapped, with baby could certainly cause stress. Be kind

tigertooth were you the lady in the OP??? Are you ok now?

Shit, is tigertooth the fraught lady in question?!!

Good, if Tigertooth is the mother in question. OP came here to have a snide little nasty-giggle about someone having a bad day and if she's about to get called out on it then maybe she'll think twice next time.