I HAVE A BABY YOU KNOW!

[HarrietKettleWasHere]

Now, possibly we’ve all been there...

But AIBU to think that this woman yelling this at me on a station platform was just ridiculous and was IBU to laugh and say ‘that’s nice’.

Picture the scene, last week, crowded tube platform, rush hour, everyone trying to get home. Huge delays, a tube hasn’t been for about twelve minutes. Everyone is getting increasingly pissed off.

Woman with a small child in a buggy is getting pretty irate, sighing dramatically, muttering obscenities etc. She then pushes that ‘information’ button on the platform and when it gets picked up demands to know when the next train is coming (the board is already displaying 10 minutes)

Operator tells her ten minutes. She tells him that is disgusting, she’s got a child, they ought to be sending taxis operator clicks off.

She loses her shit, and screeches I ‘JUST WANT TO GET HOME!!’

I said, ‘yes, I’m pretty sure we all want that’ because she’s irritating me and the platform is chockablock so I cant move away.

She then yells ‘ I HAVE A BABY!!’

I sort of laughed incredulously and said ‘yes, that’s nice’

, I NEED TO GET HOME NOW! THIS IS NOT FAIR ON MY CHILD, I SHOULDNT HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THIS!!’

Child (looked about a year or so so not a baby baby) sat impassively in buggy for the duration.

She didn’t get her taxi, but (rightly so) everyone moved aside when the train finally came so she did get on with the buggy. Lots of people didn’t and had to just wait for the next one.

She kept up with the dramatic sighing the entire way back though.

That's probably because they think their free-ticket-holding children Freedom Pass-holding elderly and disabled people are entitled to seats each when people that have been working hard all day and pay thousands for their tickets have to stand

Is it all free ticket holders you object to using public transport, or just women with small children?

I saw a great example of this in Aldi the other day. Woman with a buggy attempts to jump ahead of an older man and myself. Older man rightly (politely) put her in her place. She literally SCREECHED at him "I have a baby you know!" He replied "Well I have a hernia, but you don't see me skipping the queue".

The snort of laughter from myself and the checkout operator made her look at us in disgust and she flounced off to the next queue.

I would have assumed she was under pressure for some reason. I personally would have ignored her and not answered her. Who knows what was her reason.

Gosh I felt like this today when baby was crying in car seat and the fuckwit in front was found 30 in a 50 zone.

Sounds like she was having a bad day. We never know what battle people are fighting do we?

*going

This is going back a fair way on the thread and a bit off topic, but can I ask what everyone's beef is with people doing their makeup on the train?! Unless they drop eyeshadow in your lap, surely it doesn't affect you in the slightest?

I was going to ask that too!

Nothing oh I agree with you. Pregnancy itself isn’t an illness but for many of us it is/was a pretty difficult miserable time. And sod it, I needed a seat when quite far gone. I’ve seen plenty of waiting rooms in maternity department where men are sitting down on the only available seats. Midwives would shoo them off and one would tell us all “don’t be shy about getting this lot to give up their seats for you! None of you should be standing!” She was so right.

OP I think the woman you describe was ridiculously OTT and it’s a good job her baby kept it’s cool. I’ve been known to get myself in a bit of state when out with my son who has ASD. I don’t have a go at people I’m just inwardly anxious and panicky if say we’re stuck in traffic or our bus is late or something and I can tell there’s a meltdown brewing. It doesn’t help the situation and I have got better but it’s very stressful.

doesn't bother me eitehr
one reason people dont like it as women /girls are supposed to project an effortless beauty
doing it on the tube destroys that pretence and a lot of people don't like it

if they are waving foundation near othersclothes or wafting clouds of powder diffeent matter probs

i find it quite interesting t see what products women use and the before and after tbh

one woman once did an amazing transformation in 4 stops on the jubilee line the audiecne was transfixed!

sorry my posts were to gideon makeup question

I once watched in astonishment as a woman did her eyebrows with an HB pencil

They actually turned out quite nicely

I was totally this woman in my head on Sunday. We live in the country and do London very rarely and I found getting the tube with DS (10 weeks) really stressful. He was in the sling on DH, it was busy and I wanted to yell ‘GIVE THE BABY SOME FUCKING SPACE AND AT LEAST OFFER A SEAT’ but I didn’t because IWBU 😂

...but seriously, why would you not offer up your seat? 😒

Eliza9917 you really are clueless- firstly on my overground kids aren’t free, isn’t run by tfl despite servicing London. Second freedom pass for the elderly is free travel so do they to not deserve any courtesy?

@NothingOnTellyAgain the vast majority of women I see look the same or if they are teenage girls worse.

OP

I do help - well did before I got pregnant - other women with children on public transport as I always feel sorry for the children.

Also I've noticed 99% of people are nice and helpful on public transport when you have a baby. Does help if your baby looks at them like they are amazing and smiles, or stares them out like a friends' daughter.

MrsGideon I don't care, but I was brought up to think it was extremely rude. The kind of thing only prostitutes would do.

Wow. 😳

one reason people dont like it as women /girls are supposed to project an effortless beauty

More likely that they are fidgety gits and their elbows knock into you sometimes.

There's a baby coming out I can honestly imagine my MIL saying something like that.

Surprised that was deleted. I don't agree with it, but is what I was taught.

I wouldn't bat an eyelid to someone doing their make-up on a train As long as they don't pick their nose but I would give a judgy look if they are doing make-up and driving a car, even in slow moving traffic.

I would never pick bus over tube with My buggy if I had a choice! Tube is far more reliable time wise and I don't have to worry about other buggies already on or a wheel chair wanting to board halfway through my journey.

I specifically chose a buggy that I could easily lift myself and carry up and down stairs. My ds weighs 13kg and I am still able to do it myself easily.

Fuck me I have felt like that mother before...before I was as medicated as I am now😂

Horrible overwhelming feelings.

You were taught that women and girls who apply makeup in public are prostitutes?

And you don't agree with it but decided to post it anyway?

hmmmmmmmmkay