I HAVE A BABY YOU KNOW!

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Now, possibly we’ve all been there...

But AIBU to think that this woman yelling this at me on a station platform was just ridiculous and was IBU to laugh and say ‘that’s nice’.

Picture the scene, last week, crowded tube platform, rush hour, everyone trying to get home. Huge delays, a tube hasn’t been for about twelve minutes. Everyone is getting increasingly pissed off.

Woman with a small child in a buggy is getting pretty irate, sighing dramatically, muttering obscenities etc. She then pushes that ‘information’ button on the platform and when it gets picked up demands to know when the next train is coming (the board is already displaying 10 minutes)

Operator tells her ten minutes. She tells him that is disgusting, she’s got a child, they ought to be sending taxis operator clicks off.

She loses her shit, and screeches I ‘JUST WANT TO GET HOME!!’

I said, ‘yes, I’m pretty sure we all want that’ because she’s irritating me and the platform is chockablock so I cant move away.

She then yells ‘ I HAVE A BABY!!’

I sort of laughed incredulously and said ‘yes, that’s nice’

, I NEED TO GET HOME NOW! THIS IS NOT FAIR ON MY CHILD, I SHOULDNT HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THIS!!’

Child (looked about a year or so so not a baby baby) sat impassively in buggy for the duration.

She didn’t get her taxi, but (rightly so) everyone moved aside when the train finally came so she did get on with the buggy. Lots of people didn’t and had to just wait for the next one.

She kept up with the dramatic sighing the entire way back though.

@BluthsFrozenBananas
If only you’d have been more patient you might’ve witnessed 2nd coming of the messiah...

She might have been having a bad day. Or she might just be a bit of an entitled dick

Feel for people who were late to pick up their babies, when unable to get on.

Gromance02 as dumb a comment as people who say you cant possibly be busy as you dont have a child.

She sounds like someone having a really rotten day.

it's definitely a PFB condition, I actually remember feeling this way 20+ years ago, although I would never have said anything.

Very recently a school mum blocked my drive, two days in a row. When challenged she called me rude and said she had just got out of hospital where she had contracted sepsis after her emergency caesarean and that's why she had to park there.

Errr, no you don't.

What have I done to be a miserable, spiteful Londoner exactly, Stay?!

Do you want some salt and vinegar with that shoulder chip?

Also, London is exactly like the rest of the world in that there’s a huge melting pot of people who are different and don’t react all the same. We’re not a race of people, you know. We just live in a capital city...

Are you always that rude? Genuine question.

What would you have done, invited her round for tea?

staypuft
You are being unfriendly and uneccessarily nasty.
Clearly its not just us Londeners but you too.

StayPuft are you feeling ok? You sound like you have a few issues tbh.

I’m as sure as I can be that it was a baby in a car seat (not on a Dias ) that was coming out of the house, not an in labour pregnant woman. Perhaps DD, the dog and I should have waited and applauded, or woofed, the probably not royal or holy baby being processed out of the house.

I think people with babies on public transport should be given priority and those who have had three should be more sympathetic, even if people were not when you had them.

I didn't go anywhere with mine when tiny unless I was in a car.

StayPuft you’re a nasty piece of work, go and do something constructive with your life.

I think people with babies on public transport should be given priority

Wow, how would that work?
Someone with a baby has priority over a disabled person?
Someone with a baby has priority over an elderly persons who can no longer drive?
Someone with a baby has priority over someone attending a hospital appointment? Or someone on their way to work?

Terrible idea.

I remember chatting to a woman on a train who was complaining about there not being enough seats for everyone and how her children (around 3 and 5) shouldn't be expected to not have a full seat each plus her shopping on another. In the London Rush Hour. And when she'd already said they'd just gone into town for the day to do some shopping & sightseeing.

Well don't travel home in the bloody rush hour if you don't absolutely have to you silly moo!

Personally with my daughter I would always avoid rush hour. However the venom that i see on threads towards mothers & children on public transport: "surely they should stand", "their child wouldn't stop crying" "she was on her phone not entertaining her kids"...blah blah. Honestly such an easy target.
How about the idiot putting their bike on the train....yes transport on transport. Or the young woman putting her make up on as if she were in a private bathroom. Or the loud mouth guy in a suit screaming down his mobile.... Pick on those people

lisasimpsonsbff

I do that thing with the lights too! When I have a screaming baby in the back anything that holds me up makes me irate even though people are doing nothing wrong and I am well aware the world doesn’t revolve around me because I have a baby.

Oh fuck off Stay, you don’t know anything about me. Go and be a troll somewhere else.

It's possible she was freaking out. Mental health probs are common postnatally and continue long after the baby is born -

I had PND and anxiety and had panic attacks in exactly the sort of situaiton you describe, it's probably not a good idea to write that on a thread like this

But mums with little kids do often feel very stressed, overprotective (natural hormonal type thing) and yes can be a bit nutso.

No-one is going to try and get on a tube with a buggy at rush hour unless they have to so I'd assume she has somewhere she needed to be and no other way of getting there. I mean she woudln't be doing that for fun would she.

There are lots of threads on here and IRL with people giving far less consideration / compassion/ empathy for women with young kids than for just about anyone else and I think it stems from an underlyingn feeling in society that a. women who have kids are selfish end of story and b. they take up far too much fucking room and should stay at home or something until the children are bg enough to be more or less independent.