To think it's rude to say 'it was alright' when asked if you enjoyed a meal someone made?

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Looked after the baby all day, then came home put him to nap, went to the shop, for ingredients and made dinner for myself and DH.
When we'd finished I asked if he'd enjoyed it and he said 'it was alright' in a very non committal way. I asked what was wrong with it and he said nothing.

I planned this recipe and worked hard to make it. Is it unreasonable of me to think this is rude!?
He doesn't think it is

I wouldn't expect my husband to exaggerate how much he'd enjoyed something. If he lied and said something was delicious that he actually didn't enjoy, I'd end up making it again.

It's alright is 'it's ok and I liked it but wouldn't choose to have it if there was another option'.
DH and I always tell each other if we like/ don't like otherwise if we gushed then we'd cook it again.

I'm not sure what the wider looking after baby and going to the shop has to do with things.

Ok that's what he said, he said it was ok but it wasn't something he would ever make himself.

I don't know why I mentioned the other stuff, I guess it made me feel a bit unappreciated.

The dinner was bacon and cabbage 🤣

If its your husband I think thats fair enough and not rude at all. As the pp said, if he wasn't keen but he lied and said it was delicious then you'll make it again and he wouldn't want that.

If you don't want an honest answer then don't ask

Bacon cabbage and what else?

No I don't think what he said is rude from your drip feed

I wouldn't ask to be fair.

TBH I think you ABU expecting him to eat bacon and cabbage and then gush about it!

Bacon and cabbage?

"It was lovely. Thank you."

Surely you didn't just grill some bacon and boil some cabbage?

It would be rude if a friend had cooked it for you or you were at a dinner party.

I would rather my husband said if he wasn't keen so I wouldn't make it again.

I love bacon and cabbage. He’s very ungrateful.

Bacon and cabbage.

I think it's a bit off to ask whether someone enjoyed something you've cooked.

If they really loved it, or hated it, they'd say so.

With no comments, I'd assume it was 'all right'.

Ok, I took too long typing my last reply and missed that it was bacon and cabbage! Now I'm curious: what did you do that made the bacon and cabbage into a recipe you worked hard to make??

*"It was lovely. Thank you."

How did you “work hard” at making bacon and cabbage?!

I think it’s tricky because I generally don’t like my DH’s cooking much, it is difficult to say ‘that wasn’t very nice’ but if you gush over something that was pretty horrible then they might say ‘great, I’ll cook it again next week’. I usually say something non commital and make sure I do most of the cooking, which I genuinely don’t mind.

How much planning and hard work goes into bacon and cabbage???

Do you prepare each evening meal or does he also cook ?

I prefer my husband to be honest if he didn't like something or wanted an element of a meal I'd cooked to be changed otherwise I'll cook it again and he will have to eat it again as silent punishment for lying

Bacon and cabbage? There has to be more to it than that? If not, I'm sorry, I think he was being generous. 🤣

We're always honest with each other when it comes to cooking

But still appreciative that the other person cooked it

I'm guessing the OP probably served potatoes with the bacon and cabbage.

It's a very popular Irish meal.

If it's someone else's house then "ooh that was lovely" at home however we are honest with each other, even if that is after slaving over the cooker stirring effing risotto which dp then asked if it was just savoury rice what's the point in lying?