To think it's rude to say 'it was alright' when asked if you enjoyed a meal someone made?

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Looked after the baby all day, then came home put him to nap, went to the shop, for ingredients and made dinner for myself and DH.
When we'd finished I asked if he'd enjoyed it and he said 'it was alright' in a very non committal way. I asked what was wrong with it and he said nothing.

I planned this recipe and worked hard to make it. Is it unreasonable of me to think this is rude!?
He doesn't think it is

Nah, we tend to be pretty honest about food, we have similar tastes though so that makes it easier.

Yes, I thought colcannon too but we need more info on the bacon and cabbage??

I'm guessing the OP probably served potatoes with the bacon and cabbage

Eh? She says she worked hard and planned the recipe. You don't do that for bacon cabbage and potatoes...

Yeah sorry it is bacon and cabbage the Irish way (I'm Irish) it's like a boiled gammon, with cabbage boiled in with it at the end, new potatoes and white onion gravy.

I suppose it's not that much hard work but I find cooking hard work anyway 🤣

Well that's told me I suppose! I'll apologise to DH and say I was being unreasonable.

I don't know why these responses are making me laugh.

Also I didn't drip feed you, how odd

I thought I'd worked hard over it, but I suppose it wasn't much preparation 🤣 I texted my mum to ask how to make the gravy which was the only fiddly bit. The rest was just boiled 🤣
I am not coming across well in this 😬😬🙈

I drove to co op to buy the stuff..does that count as effort..?

I just always thank people for food they cook for me whether it was nice or not

Well to be fair op, boiled gammon, boiled potatoes and boiled cabbage isn't going to float lots of folks boats.,,🤣

It sounds totally delicious OP, I'd love to have some of that!

This is why I hate cooking. You spend money, time and effort but get 'meh' back. So not worth it!

I just always thank people for food they cook for me whether it was nice or not

Sorry, I'm confused, is the issue now he didn't thank you for it? That's not what your op was, in that it was he just thought it was understandably ok.

Honestly. If you're just pissed off and would like people to pile in a s say you're husband is a bit of a selfish bastard, just start a thread asking that. No need for this malarkey.

YANBU- I've been home al day and about to make a prawn pasta dish- if my husband says it's alright I will be fuming. Lie and say it was amazing! You could of
Given him a frozen microwave meal- which is what I would serve him tomorrow if I was you.

Yabu OP boiled food is tasteless.

I'm the only one in my large Irish family who can't stand boiled bacon and cabbage.

I remember the disappointment of getting in from school and the whole house smelling farty

But everyone else loved it.

You could of Given him a frozen microwave meal- which is what I would serve him tomorrow if I was you

This is making me laugh too 🤣. He might prefer a micro meal. And if he lies and says it was amazing he's going to have a life time of eating boiled cabbage/gammon/potatoes as she will think he loves it.

Best to be honest rather than suffer for ever more.

I think he was rather rude. Didn't even thank you.

I can’t see how that equates to a ‘recipe’.. just boiled up stuff really.

In this house it's ok covers pretty much everything between totally awesome and totally shite. It is also pretty much a standard response to any did you like question.

The thing is if you only say “that was lovely” about food cooked in your own home something you don’t like very much will make its way into the weekly menu and then when you mention it’s not your thing months later you piss off the cook who thought you enjoyed it.

I don't think that was rude at all - it was probably honest. If he raves about it and you cook it again and he actually didn't like it....

If I get home and my husband has cooked something mince I don't fancy, I just make something else. He can shove it in a bowl and eat the left overs the next day, he can do the same with me. Neither of us feel beholden to eat something bogging we don't fancy. Neither of us takes offence.

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Thing is, if you are (presumably?) going to be living together for many years or even decades to come, then he doesn't want you to go away with the impression that 'bacon and cabbage' would ever be a meal he would choose.
No point in you asking if you didn't want to know though is there ?
He ate it, politely, but really wouldn't want you thinking it was something he'd want on a regular basis.
So yes, YABU, on that basis.
Obviously if you visit someone's house that has gone to the trouble of inviting you and you aren't likely to eat there again, or not for months, you just politely say 'That was lovely', but it is different in a relationship, you have to be honest about this stuff.

I love Irish bacon and cabbage, I always used to be extremely happy when a friend's Mum made it and and was always extremely gushing in my praise.

Invite me next time.

Not rude, he was trying to be polite but ensure you didn't make it again!

I love Irish bacon and cabbage

What is the difference between Irish bacon and cabbage and other boiled gammon boiled potatoes and boiled cabbage, ?

I'm guessing the house stinks op? 🤣

The OP is getting a real hard time here! It doesn't matter what the recipe was, she felt unappreciated by her partner after he effectively snubbed the effort she put in. He could have been a little bit more tactful OP.

For your spouse I think it’s fine

For your boss at a dinner party definitely not!

For the people in between it depends how close you are and how much trouble they’d gone to.

It sounds like you’re feeling a bit under appreciated in general though which isn’t good