7yr old DD called me fat

[DDcalledMeFat]

She’s a very mature girl and usually so empathetic. I’m heartbroken.

We were minding a relatives baby and he’s at that chubby newborn stage and DD was cooing all over him and said “you can be fat with mummy” then when I looked upset she just bawled crying saying she didn’t mean it. I’ve just come upstairs to get the baby ready and she’s wailing downstairs.

How do I react to this? I am fat but it has never impacted anything I do with her, we’re really active and as a single parent I strive to give her the best well rounded (excuse the pun) life. She’s involved in lots of sports and has no issue with weight. My food issue is loneliness when she’s in bed.

What the fuck is wrong with you! She's 7 poor little thing.
They pick on anything innocently until they learn 'tact' etc.
I hope you've comforted her well she is obviously distressed she saw your probable over reaction to something that 7 year olds say!
I personally am insulted daily by my young children which actually makes me laugh e.g. Mum you look better when you breathe in, what are all them lines on you (stretch marks) mum your a bit fat etc

Oh my goodness. 30 stone and unable to stand up is obese, size 16 is a little cuddly - like a mum SHOULD be. Your dd said something tactless and now it's sorted, please don't let the judgmental harpies on here get you down 💐

Aw bless. Kids say things off the top of their heads, they don't mean to be hurtful but truth hurts sometimes.

She wouldn't have cried if she didn't love you!

My mum was fat when I was small and I remember saying so, she was upset but went on a diet and was fine. I was fat for a while when mine was young and was occasionally called fat. It hurt but being a bit fat hurt too!

I lost all the weight though and became as slim as a bluebell. You can do that too.

"Cuddly " give me strength.

Aw bless. Kids say things off the top of their heads, they don't mean to be hurtful but truth hurts sometimes.

But they need to learn that just because something is true it's not always kind to say it.

Oh my goodness. 30 stone and unable to stand up is obese, size 16 is a little cuddly - like a mum SHOULD be

WTAF. You can't be serious. Size 16 at average height is obese for many women and no mums shouldn't be obese.

Ffs.

Cuddly like a mum should be?!?? I’m a MILF and love it, sorry!! A mum SHOULDN’T have to BE anything. A mum is and is defined by her actions. What a stupid statement

You can be a 'MILF' ( what a hideous concept) and be a size 16...all at once.

Well quite. Equally I wouldn't want her to feel disgusted with herself were able to be either.

My DDs (now 9 and 6) have frequent mentioned my tummy in the past (yes, I probably am obese, I'm a size 16 and 5'7). My DD2 told me 2 years ago that her friend's mum had apparently referred to me as 'fat'. Until now, I've laughed it off, as they're both very slim, especially DD1, and very active. DD1 has food issues, so I've always been careful not to make an issue about what they eat and what they look like.

I have recently started to tell them that they shouldn't make personal remarks about what other people look like, as I wouldn't want them to make such comments about other people.

Clearly your DD didn't say it to upset you, and the fact she got upset when she saw that she'd hurt your feelings speaks volumes. It's a great opportunity to have a conversation with her about how personal comments like that can be hurtful, even if they are true.

I was reacting to the “cuddly, just as a mother should be “. Cuddly suggests non sexual. As a woman who happens to be a mother I’m clever, I’m kind, I’m caring, I’m protective and I’m also sexual! A mother shouldn’t have to BE anything as women are many things

My DD(8) quite often tells me I’m fat to try to get a reaction, I just say ‘yes I am so what’ it takes the power out of the words.