To think this was obvious!

[GremlinDolphin1]

Only 1 dc and I eating together this evening. As I went out this afternoon we discussed dinner and she asked if we could have tomato risotto.

I said (this is the important bit!!) “yes, good idea and while I’m out can you just check in the greenhouse and see if there are any ripe tomatoes and let me know how many as I’ll pop to the shop on the way home and get some more and some Parmesan”

Text arrives in a bit “5 tomatoes”.

Fast forward 3 hours to me arriving home and starting to cook “Where did you put the tomatoes darling?”

“Oh I didn’t realise you wanted me to pick them, I just counted them!”

She had even had a conversation with her father as to why Mum wanted tomatoes counting and he just thought I was being a bit odd!!!

I would probably just have counted them too 🙄

I would just have counted them too given the info you’ve given there.

not really that obvious, my DD's and probably my DH would have just counted them too

It wouldn’t have been obvious to me either.

Same, I would of just counted too!

Yep I would have counted them too and then waited to hear how many you wanted. Firstly because they are so much nicer when they’ve just been picked, and secondly if you had 500 tomatoes there because you’re the best tomato grower ever, would dc have known how many you needed?

I wouldn't have picked them until you actually wanted to use them

I would have picked all 5

She didn’t know how many you wanted! I wouldn’t have picked them either. What if there were 20?

Nope, I would have counted only. You didn't ask for them to be picked.

I would have counted too. As others have said, what if there were 72 ripe tomatoes?!

But op said she needed them so dont make sense to come home empty handed

Like the saying goes "if you want a job done right, you've got to do it yourself"

I would have just counted them too

yup - you didnt ask her to get them, you asked how many were there

I think she was right. And fruit and veg is much tastier the closer to cooking time that you pick it, so leaving it until the last possible moment is better anyway.

YABU

I’d have just counted them as well!

Especially if this greenhouse is in your garden so it’s simple for you to go out and pick what you want to use when you’re ready to use it.

Yes, I would have just counted too.

You must have a green house. My tomatoes finished in late August and the green ones were turned into chutney... lots of chutney... I'm not even keen on it.

You must have a green house.

I know list of people don’t RTFT but you could at least RTFOP!

I said (this is the important bit!!) “yes, good idea and while I’m out can you just check in the greenhouse and see if there are any ripe tomatoes

@Sisgal
Like the saying goes "if you want a job done right, you've got to do it yourself" grin

maybe it should be "if you want a job done right, you've got to give the right instructions?"

I would have counted them too, you weren’t clear!

I actually do not believe people IRL use dialogue such as Darling.

I wouldn't have picked them either - if your dc didn't know how many you needed (which you didn't specify) they could have picked too many and been wasteful