Baby seeing husband naked AIBU?

[Supertiredmummy]

My baby has just started walking and is running about already.
So today they ran into the bathroom whilst my husband was out the shower drying off and toweling his hair. He freaked out send told me to take her away. Initially I thought it was because she had scared him (ie. Not realising she was there nearly stepping on her ) by turns out it was purely because he was naked. I laughed this off explaining she had seen me naked plenty (hell Im still breast-feeding ) but he got very serious and doesn't feel comfortable about it.
AIBU to think this is strange? And trying to get him comfortable considering she might do this lots in the years to come?
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You do know if a child says they saw their dads dangly bits in a nursery / school setting its a safe guarding matter right? And SS are normally informed. So if he is a teacher he has to be doubly careful. (yes i know the baby is too young to be talking but it should be a concern and something to watch out for when they reach toddler / speaking age)

Absolute rubbish. I work in a school in a safeguarding role and can confirm that a child seeing their own parent naked within the family home is not a "safeguarding issue", it's just family life! Children's services would not be remotely interested in a referral regarding a child walking in on her own DF naked in the bathroom and I would have no reason whatsoever to inform them.

Wow he is weird. I would want to know why... Hmmmm... We bathe with our baby . I think until children become very self aware and dont want to see or be naked in front of others its absolutely natural. It teaches body acceptance and love. No crazy prudishness or feeling of shame (for what??!) ....

You towel yourself dry in the bathroom when you get out of the shower so why would you drop all through the house? How odd
No what's odd is someone drying themselves, putting the towel down and wandering with no clothes on to wherever they have clothes. Aren't you cold? How odd

Odd reaction, I can understand when they are much older, but when they're little, who cares!

It teaches body acceptance and love
Why does seeing your dad naked teach love?

He should explore why he feels freaked out. Nakedness is natural and healthy. His young daughter would have felt natural about it if he had not shown he was concerned but gently covered up and walked away. It’s a sad affair when we apportion so much concern to our natural state, our pets don’t do so. If we removed the mystification of our bare skin, may be so my negativity would not come from this state in our modern times.

My kids saw me and their Dad naked for years, we covered up a lot more as they became teens, because hearing 'Omg thats just gross' or 'Jesus' when you run from the bathroom is enough to make me hide for a month lol.

My little ones are much kinder lol.

What does he do when he in charge of the children for long periods - does he not have a bath or go to the loo ? I don't think I could have worked out how to make sure my children never saw me naked

Im a stay at home daddy with a 4yo boy and 2yo girl. Theyve both seen me and the mrs naked growing up but im now at the stage were i wont allow my daughter seeing me naked cos it makes me uncomfortable when she stares, but im not too fussed about my son as he has his own and only looked when i was teaching him to pee stood up lol. Its a guy thing i suppose. No harm in letting him keep his modesty.

I think it's a little silly, but his decision. Depends on the age of the child involved, though. My husband will get dressed after a bath in front of our one year old son but he certainly wouldn't be naked in front of our young daughters but maybe this has to do with them not being his biologically.

Some people are overthinking this. I was ok with my kids seeing naked until they were around 6. After that their curiosity made me a bit uncomfortable. So I lock the door when I changing our tell the to around. I have no major hangups about body but it's probably they way I've brought up. I don't think is so bad that kids learn about privacy.

My mum was always really relaxed about being naked around me and my brother. But my dad I have never seen naked in my life to my knowledge. I just always accepted they had different attitudes about it and never really thought anything more of it TBH.

I never saw either of my parents naked, it wasn't the 'done thing!' My kids see me naked all the time. I don't prance around the house naked but they're always in the bathroom when I'm in the bath/shower and in my bedroom when I'm getting dressed. Doors in our house are never shut, there's no point! I think it's important for children to see naked body from a young age so they know that they come in all different shapes and sizes and aren't like on the tv/in magazines. I don't flaunt myself btw (with all my wobbly, saggy, crinkley bits there's nothing to flaunt lol). My husband is a bit more reserved and shuts the door when he's in the bathroom but wouldn't have a meltdown if the kids walked in. We both would get in the bath with the kids when they were little (Not at the same time btw, that would have been a squeeze!). Sadly I think the difference is the gender of the child, we have boys but my husband did say he thinks he would be more wary if w3 had a girl. It's a shame and I do think a lot of it is because people might think it's 'strange' that a man would be naked in front of a little girl (or I think that's what might be in a man's head). It's sad that society makes people (men) have to think like that.

My boys are 11 and 5 btw.

My DH has recently started sleeping in shorts (previously slept naked) as our 4yr old wanders in and gets in our bed, as does our 2yr old. He doesn't feel comfortable being naked around the 4yr old and I respect that. I sleep in pants and occasionally PJs but his body = his decision.

The culture he grew up in plays a huge part in this opinion IMO, he just isn't accustomed to wandering around naked and being asked by a curious 4yr old "You have a poo there, why?" (He's dark skinned, his widge looks like a poo). Said 4yr old finds it hilarious, DH doesn't ()

My 3yo daughter sees me naked when we get changed at the swimming pool. It doesn’t make me feel uncomfortable and she doesn’t bat an eyelid. When she’s old enough not to need her daddy to change her she can have her own cubicle but until then I don’t see how/why we’d do any different?

Forgot to add - his reaction was a bit OTT if you ask me, his feelings towards being naked are valid, his extreme reaction isn't if you ask me. Get a lock on the bathroom and use it. Sorted.

You feel one way, he feels another - neither of you is "right". I have boys and I stopped being naked in front of them well before my husband did. We both just stopped when it felt right to us and the children. Leave him alone and don't judge him or try to change this. Your daughter will not be scarred for life because she doesn't know what her dad looks like naked. He is allowed the privacy of his body. A door latch is a good idea.

I think that if he isn't used to the baby seeing him naked then he almost certainly isn't doing his share of the childcare.

Its totally normal. Not everyone feels comfortable about nudity. I don't either.

DH and I have a recent rescue dog who's very clingy to me. A couple of weeks ago she was whining at the bathroom door when I was home alone and I was in a hurry so just opened the door to shut her up and I felt a bit coy about my dog sitting there watching me whilst I was naked and had to give myself a talking to. Yes, you read that right, my dog!... for many years my DH has been the only person who's seen me naked and it suddenly felt a bit weird to have other eyes on me in the shower. I was not treating my dog as a sexual object FWIW I have always been like this with anyone but long-term boyfriends and my husband - my siblings were far happier to see my naked parents/walk around naked, as were schoolfriends/flatmates. Just my personality for as long as I can remember and both my mum and dad were surprised when I was a tiny girl when I told them they shouldn't be naked in front of me and vice versa when my siblings had never noticed - really, nothing to do with abuse or anything like that.

I was brought up that way.

By being 'open' about your bodies as parents, surely is better than being embarrassed about your body when children are small. Can understand covering up when they get older.

I think that if he isn't used to the baby seeing him naked then he almost certainly isn't doing his share of the childcare.

Ridiculous comment. Nothing to do with childcare! I am not comfortable and mostly did all the childcare.

My hubby was a bit of a prude when I first met him. I found it ridiculous when our little girls were born that he wouldn’t like to be naked in front of them - I’ve told him he’s gonna have to lighten up a bit - I was one of three sisters and the first real life Willy I ever saw was that of my first boyfriends at 17!!!!
(Actually, I lie, we were flashed at in a swimming baths changing rooms once when I was about 8 but I had no idea what the hell that stick the man was stroking was!!!)