Baby seeing husband naked AIBU?

[Supertiredmummy]

My baby has just started walking and is running about already.
So today they ran into the bathroom whilst my husband was out the shower drying off and toweling his hair. He freaked out send told me to take her away. Initially I thought it was because she had scared him (ie. Not realising she was there nearly stepping on her ) by turns out it was purely because he was naked. I laughed this off explaining she had seen me naked plenty (hell Im still breast-feeding ) but he got very serious and doesn't feel comfortable about it.
AIBU to think this is strange? And trying to get him comfortable considering she might do this lots in the years to come?
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I would find out what he is worried about. But kids need to get used to bodies and that they are normal! My 2 year old daughter often sees my husband and I naked and her brothers. She often comments that daddy has a big willy and mummy has big boobies. It’s NORMAL!

I don't think it occurs to kids that bodies are not normal. They happily scamper around in the buff. If you try to tell them that there is something wrong with them being naked then you risk giving them the notion that a body is something we hide, but they are very self absorbed and don't consider what others are doing with their bodies.

It's a positive for kids to understand that other people have a right to close a door between them and the DCs. Also to understand that they can't play with mommy's necklaces, rings, etc, or makeup.

YNBU, If children never see parents naked it’s likely the first naked body they see other their own will be page3 or something like that as a teenager, if you want your children to feel comfortable and confident about their bodies you need to be comfortable with your own. Not saying you should strut around naked but I think it’s normal for young children to see you getting dressed or other day to day things. Most people I know are the same way with their young children.

Honestly, it really couldn't matter less. Some people are more private than others. If he doesn't feel comfortable, what of it? There's no 'rule' that one has to see one's parents' bits?! Kids will get used to bodies whether or not they spectate daddy's!!

She won't want to look at either of your bits when she gets older, trust me!! It's so much of a non-issue, don't make it one.

Really ohapple? I have never discussed this with friends, so I don't know what people do and don't do. I was never massively concerned one way or the other anyway but I can tell you that when mine became teens they most emphatically and vocally did not want to see a centimetre of our bodies that weren't on display to the world lol!

This is not the victorian ages......we all have bodies.....do not make our kids feel shame for what is purely natural

It seems unusual to me the reaction of the DH. Solved as others have put it by locking the door.

I hope we do not become the 51st state in that we are horrified by the sight of nudity but Ok with scenes of violence.

Kids usually very clever they get to know what's what from 7 years of age so I would stop being naked from then on but everyone has their comfort zones

It’s possibly just the way he’s been brought up. DH doesn’t wander around naked and when getting changed tries to be extremely discreet. I was brought up with parents who wandered around upstairs naked. We only had one toilet so so as a teen if dad was in the bath I’d get him to put a flannel over his eyes. I didnt want him seeing me but couldn’t have cared less about his bits.

DH’s most mortifying moment came when taking the kids swimming; one of them caught sight of his penis. He very quickly covered up but it was obviously a novelty to DS as he shouted “Daddy I want to see your big willy again”.

I had it the other way round. When kids were little, nakedness was not a problem. Then they found it utterly horrifying to see mother naked. And they would not allow me to see them likewise. So I respected their feelings and always knocked on bedroom doors, locked bathroom door etc.. Think it was round about 10/11 age for them. Boys btw.

My daughter's both bathed/showered with my Dad for goodness sake! Tell him not to be so flipping stupid!

Anyway, nothing wrong with your husband. How he wants to be is up to him, I can’t believe other posters here who are ridiculing him.

I think he would be different if it were a son. Also, I think society places different views on children's nudity based on sex. I have noticed a lot of the time boys are left to walk around, for instance when potty training willies on show and it is seen as endearing. Girls on the other hand are instantly covered up or told to put some clothes/a nappy on. It is not abnormal for him, within this context, to be uncomfortable.

It makes him uncomfortable so just leave it. You can't force someone to be comfortable with something they're not just because you and some others find it odd.

My husband wears swim trunks when he takes a bath with our 6 month old. It's what he's comfortable with.

Maybe he should lock the bathroom door in future so it doesn’t happen again. He probably doesn’t like it because it’s his daughter. And feels weird abit out. But honestly as the adult he should make sure she never catches him naked not you

Your baby is not a baby anymore, she’s a toddler, l don’t think there’s anything wrong with her seeing your naked body, as she’ll grow into a girl and then a woman. But he is a man, it’s different, he should lock the doors and keep his bits private, l understand totally him being uncomfortable, my husband is too... and l would be too, if l had a son, maybe not from very young age, but children are inquisitive and it’s easiest if you keep your privacy from the begining (as the opposite sex perent)

My dh started wearing swim shorts when showering dd. I can't remember when but certainly older than still in nappies. Your dd won't really see it as an issue for a few years yet!

But he is a man, it’s different, he should lock the doors and keep his bits private

Why? What will happen if a girl sees her dad naked or a boy sees his mum naked?

My DH took a good while to get used to the idea! DH and I are both generally quite prude and don't tend both use the bathroom at the same time or spend much time naked... But I remember DH doing something similar and getting a quite put out when DS would go in the bathroom but I didn't immediately stop what I was doing and retrieve him - I just joked about how as SAHM I wouldn't have ever got to use the loo or have a shower if I'd not brought DS in the bathroom with me, particularly when very small.
I think I shared a couple of Facebook/blog posts about differences between mums and dads using the loo and posts along similar lines and at weekends would specifically nip out for milk or something just as he was about to get in the shower/ go to loo - just to make a point!

We certainly don't walk the house around naked. But DS will sit on the loo seat and chat or play while we have a shower or bath etc. As he gets older and it becomes less necessary for us to keep such a close eye on him I guess he'll probably see us naked less and less often!

I think seeing an adult penis is much different from seeing breasts tbh. Breasts have a feeding function, a penis is only sexual. Breasts are not used to assault men on a worldwide level. Teaching them that male nudity is normal is not wise I don't think. I would be reassured if OP's husband was my husband. I think he's spot on.

Steakandkidney - I can't believe I just read that! Are you serious?

The other day all I heard from the bathroom was "babybertha stop looking at my Willy, I know you or mummy haven't got one but that's cause I am a man" i was pissing myself.... our 15mo had no idea what he was talking about.

My dh is very open though having been a sportsman so used to naked showers with the boys also his mum strips down to underwear to clean....

He however does draw the line and dd going into bathroom while he is on the loo.

If he isn't comfortable with it then it shouldn't be forced that he must let his dd see him naked. It would worry me that it may cause body issues going forward but who knows if it will or won't?

What do those pooh-poohing the idea that someone is entitled to privacy think of the contention that a parent who locks a bathroom door is modelling the right to say 'No'?

This is what it is, when it all boils down.

Nobody should be forced to put up with situations they are not comfortable with, or called a prude or 'Victorian' or whatever, for claiming the right to bodily privacy.

Would we be happy if a DD was called all of that or worse when she refused to get involved in sexting?

I don't see an issue with her seeing him naked but I can understand why he might feel uncomfortable and think you should respect that.

It's odd that the feels that way - no way a baby is going to think anything of the nakedness or judge him in any way so why is he worried? I suppose you should respect his feelings if he's uncomfortable. I'd want to discuss it with him though as it would worry me that if he enforces not seeing people naked, he might pass his weirdness about it on to her. Sort of like Adam and Eve - they were totally unaware of their nakedness/innocent until the snake drew their attention to it and made them embarrassed/ feel they should cover up. I'd also wonder whether his feelings would be the same if you had a boy - again I wouldn't want my very young child to be treated differently purely based on gender.