CF tightarsedness

[BorisAndDoris]

Inspired by another thread, I'd love to hear your experiences of CFers being tight arses, never putting their greedy paws in their own pockets.

Mine was an ex when I was a youngster. Maybe 16? 17? I was financially independent (okay, skint on min wage but paid my way) and rented my own place.
CFBF and I were in the early stages of dating (maybe 1 or 2 months in).
I was running errands one day and needed to pick a few things up from the supermarket. He tagged along.

I went round the supermarket and he kept chucking items into the trolley. Fine with me, no point in 2 trolleys.
He put his stuff on the conveyor (sans divider!) whilst I was packing mine. I didn't notice until he said he needed to pop to the loo. He left me to pay for everything.! I was mortified and hadn't grown the lady balls yet to stand up for myself well. I paid and asked him for the money when he got back. He told me he forgot his wallet and would give it to me when he came next time. He didn't.

In fact the next time he showed up I was leaving for the cinema with my best friend. We told CFBF we already had plans. My Best friend was paying because it was his turn and I was skint (thanks to CFBF's shopping which he forgot to bring his money for again!)
I locked up the house and we all walked to the bus together. CFBF got on too as it was also his bus.

We got off in town. CFBF got off with us. Okaaaay...
We got to the cinema. CFBF still with us.
I asked if he was heading home and he said no, I'll come with you! Hmm.. whatever, I couldn't really stop him.

He walked in just ahead of us. The desk clerk had the tickets printed when we got there and best friend paid. It wasn't until we were at the concessions counter he realised he'd paid for three, not two. CFBF has asked for three tickets and not paid his one. It was so awkward that best friend couldn't bring himself to actually say anything.
I stopped answering the door to CFBF after that night and best friend and I have been laughing about him for 20 years now. I should have realised when he only turned up at mine in time for dinner and I'd feed him not wanting to be impolite!!

Some years ago there was a documentary on TV which I really was interested in, but I was out that evening. So I recorded it (VHS) on a tape which DH had used maybe an hour of to record a programme he wanted to keep. When I got round to watching it, I was surprised to see that a lot of it was filmed near where I lived and specifically in a local market. The lady who ran the flower stall in the market featured in the film several times so the next time I was in the market I commented to her on her new-found celebrity. She exploded. Apparently everyone in the world apart from her and her family had seen the programme and she was furious to have missed it. So when I said that I’d recorded it and was happy to lend her the tape she was over the moon. I apologised that I couldn’t GIVE her the tape as my husband needed the other recording on it, but I’d lend it to her for a couple of weeks so that her family could see it as well. That was fine. She said she’d have it waiting for me in 2 weeks time. I turned up as arranged but she’d forgotten it. She’d remember tomorrow - but then she didn’t. I actually went back FIVE times before I managed to get it back. And I said,
‘Oh, while I’m here, I’ll take a couple of bunches of daffodils please.’
‘50p then, please,’ was the reply.
Does this qualify as CFery?

My MIL kept insisting I get a certain type of cat food for my cats, I just got normal Tesco branded ones, did them fine, so she arrives down at my house with 2 big bags of expensive cat food the following week , grand, said thanks but she shouldn't have, next minute she is handing me the receipt and looking for the 25 quid. FIL ran out mortified, me rummaging around for money in my purse, when she went I realised it was fucking dog food she was after picking up! So rude. I shouldn't have paid her but she mortified me so much. She also did it with some cheap eyeshadow she had bought and told me she would give it to me as she didn't like the colour, I didn't particularly want it , and said oh no your grand, honestly you might use it eventually, she came down a few days later with the eyeshadow and asked me for the 5 quid it cost her. I told her no that time that I didn't want it. CF

@kennelmaid

Can't think of any examples but I have definitely been a CF in the past but always a generous one.

A generous cheeky fucker? Surely that's an oxymoron unless you mean you were generous with your cheeky fuckery?

My SIL will only go out for a meal if she knows someone else is paying. My DH (her brother) did a job for someone who owed a restaurant and knew DHs dad. DH and the restaurant owner agreed a price of a free meal at the restaurant with his parents. So DH, myself, our DS and the PIL. For what the job would have cost money wise, we would have gotten two occasions of a free meal with the five of us. SIL caught wind of it and unexpectedly turned up with her DP and DD and ordered pretty much everything on the menu because 'why not, I'm not paying' DH and FIL were fuming as it essentially was taking from their business in their eyes and just an absolute piss take. SIL has always been tight (doesn't buy Christmas presents for her nieces and nephews but expects everyone to buy for her DD) but this was the worse I'd ever seen of it!
DH then spent the rest of our evening at home entertaining me with many many other occasions of SIL CFery regarding free things - apparently she once asked a person she'd just meet if she could have her key ring because it was so pretty, the woman told her where it was from and how much but SIL didn't want to pay for a key ring and so asked again if she could take this women's. And the woman handed it over!
We generally try to avoid going out for a meal with SIL if we can help it!

I had a first date with a man who magically 'forgot his wallet'. I was on a small wage, he was an actuary on a high salary. I expected to pay for my food so ordered accordingly, no starter or alcohol, just a main. He went for broke and then pulled the 'forgot my wallet' with a grin. I grinned right back. 'That's okay, though, since you remembered your phone,' and asked the waiter to bring the bill for my share. I paid up and left. He was still unbelieving, 'You mean you're not going to spot me just this once?' Nope, fucker. Never heard from him again. Fucking chancer.

Had flatmates who ate my food, so I bought a small fridge and started keeping it in my room which had a lock on it.

Oh had a bf when I was in my early 20s would collect me in his fancy car, and we would go for spins, we both smoked at the time, Id throw my cigs on the dash and noticed he would draw whenever he felt like it , whilst his own were in his very deep fucking pockets, left it go for awhile until, he asked me for change one day as he only had a 50 to buy fags in the shop, came out and took one out and popped them into his pocket again! Miserable tiny fucker! I DUMPED him the following day. So mean it was unreal

When my dad died many years ago, me and my two dsis inherited a substantial amount of money ( upwards of £20,000 each). Long after the funeral I got his she's and paid for a plot for the ashes and a marble plaque. All together it came to £90. I asked my sisters to pay £30 each and they both said they didn't have the money!! I was disgusted, especially as we'd just inherited all that money.
I'm nc with both of them, unsurprisingly 😡

I had my eldest child when I was a teenager and a single mum. I was very lucky to have already had a great paying job and cheap rent so I saved every single child benefit payment for him into a savings account. Then I stupidly let my ex (his father) back into our lives. We were together a couple of years and then I caught a hold of myself and ended it. The day after I ended it he phoned me and said he wanted the money in DS’s savings account (£5k!) to “set himself up”, without wanting to say too much he was earning well and had very small living expenses so he really didn’t need this money at all. I refused and he told me he was entitled to half of it because DS was half his! er no!! That’s child benefit, it’s for the child, I was saving it for DS’s future!

Mine is a cousin of dh's who always insists on splitting the bill equally - once she suggested doing this although dh and I only had a first course and ds a half-price kids' meal as we were dashing off. (She knew this beforehand). She and her two guests had four course meals and my husband paid up! We paid £80 more than we would have if we had each paid for what we had eaten....

I had a reverse CF. A friend is coming through for the weekend so I ran a menu past him to see if it's okay for dinner. He stated he'd like the steak mince from Aldi. I said no problem and he said 'I'll pay for it'. He's a very generous person but I did laugh. No, there's no need to pay for it.

Being mean and tight has to be one of the worst traits in anyone.

I've no stories to tell, because I got rid of anyone who even tried to take me for a fool money wise. They only got as far as trying!

Ex SIL offered my DD a toy that her DD had received duplicate for Christmas so she had ended up with two. I thanked her and said sure DD would like it, she then asked me for ten quid that it cost so she could buy DN something else instead. Had no choice but to pay her the money as she had handed it to DD who was playing happily with it

My cousin was going on a hiking type holiday in Europe, and invited his Dad to come with him. We were surprised at cousin's generosity that he had never shown before

When they were at the airport waiting for a taxi to the hotel, Cousin announces that he "forgot" his wallet, and that the hotel still needed to be paid for as well. Turned out to be an expensive trip for my uncle, as my cousin broke a limb, needed surgery and not all of the medical expenses were covered by his EHIC card.

My biological mother abused me and neglected me, from the age of 14 I worked five nights a week and was paid £15.00 for 6 hours work. I bought my own clothes, food, school uniform, the lot. My 'mother' spent the child benefit on fags and vodka and helped herself to my clothes, underwear, my food and even my scarf (it was fucking freezing). The thing that really pissed me off would be when I bought myself a takeaway and she would tuck in before I'd had a sniff and she'd leave me scraps. What a wanker.

PIL came down to visit for husbands birthday, they suggested we went out for lunch, they knew our financial situation and knew that it would be a big chunk out of our budget but we agreed and made some cut backs that week. When we had finished eating they got up, walked out the restaurant and left us to pay. We could just about cover it and presumed they would maybe offer their half in cash or something later, we didn’t even get a thank you let alone the money back.

When I had DD I attended a babies and toddler's group. A woman there kept saying that she had some great Happyland toys for me that DD would love (though she was too young). I was planning on maybe buying her some one day but told her no thanks, it was fine.

Then one day she brought them in and handed me the bags. Awkwardly I thanked her for them to which she turned round and said, "that'll be £59 thanks. They're worth so much more. You're getting a bargain!" It was one of those situations where it's really difficult to say no.

I bloody paid her!

Then to make it worse, I found out someone had given them to her for free.

I have a friend who is awful with money!! As youngsters we had several trips away or nights out where I would end up paying with promises she would pay me back. I may have gotten one or two payments but never the full amount. When I met my DH he worked for a pub company and we got to live in the flat upstairs. We would often drink after hours and leave the money on the side. She came down one night and drank half a bottle of southern comfort. I was too drink to notice no money appeared. As we have had children we often kept a tab open as they would have a drink or an ice cream and it saved me constantly looking for money. She would arrive for an evening and pile everything on our tab.
We no longer live in the pubs and are coming to the end of paying off our own debts so rarely go out. I avoid her as much as possible these days. If we do go out or anything I make sure I never go to the bar at the same time and never have a tab. I love to treat others when we can afford it but she is one CF who never repays the favour and has cost me a fortune over the years. She is still terrible with money and I don't think will ever change. Sad because she has been a wonderful friend over the years but my patience has disappeared!

I bloody paid her!

OMG-no way would I have paid. You are clearly too nice!

One of my early boyfriends back in the 1980s was tight-arsed. At the time I was living in the US and a student so had no proper income and no car. He was working. However, I was always careful to pay my way and was never supported financially by him or anyone else. One day I hitched a lift with him into town (1 mile away)he was going in anywayand we parked in the town square parking lot. Then he asked me to pay half of the 30 cent parking fee! Looking at the other posts on this thread, I guess I should be grateful he paid his half, but still... I later found out from his mum (who was a generous sweetheart and spontaneously told me that her son was a tight-arse) that he had 40,000 USD sitting in the bank at the time.

This thread has reminded me of the op who had her lunch in a local Cafe and had a tab there, she found out her 'friend' was having coffee/cake/lunches and leaving it all on her private tab

I wouldn't have paid her, either, Holiday. 'Oh, that's a pity. I don't have that kind of money to pay for them but thanks for the offer,' and then hand them back.

When I first moved here there was a CF on a board I went on for foreigners. She was a real pisstaker, banged on and on about their huge savings back in Canada and then suggested we meet but kept naysaying any suggestions we made (she wanted to meet me and another friend) until my mate just had enough and said, 'How about we meet at the bus stop in front of Tesco and share a Diet Coke'. She went silent after that but she also tried to claim benefits fraudulently and someone from the board shopped her. Haahaahaa!

Uncle Knobhead sitting by my dying grandad's bed: "Is that his own telly? I could do with a new one".

His own daughter died tragically young not long after, and had put some money aside to pay for a gathering after her funeral. Uncle Knobhead was heard by pretty much everyone, walking around the room complaining about how much the sandwiches etc had cost him, when we all knew he hadn't paid for it. Thankfully we're NC so nobody has to see him until the next family funeral.

@antigon my CF-ery was spread evenly around my friends and colleagues until this one incident. I used to regularly get a lift from work to home and then from home back to work at lunch time and never once thought about contributing to petrol money. Then one day his wife and their DD aged 4 was in the car on the way back to work. I blithely got in and had just buckled up when their DD said to me "do you think my daddy's a taxi driver?" I wish I could say we all found it hilarious and laughed it off but there was a journey-lasting embarassed silence but needless to say I learnt my lesson and never asked him for another lift again!

Known for her tightfistedness, close family member came to stay for a week. She was much wealthier than me. I provided lots of lovely food and drink. She brought ONE bottle of wine with her for the whole week and was easily knocking back a bottle a night. After a few days I needed to go to the supermarket where she proceeded to tell me I was running low on wine ( you don't say) and so I suggested it would help if she bought some too. She looked dumbfounded but bought a couple of bottles of really nasty cheap stuff and put them in the kitchen when we got home. She was planning on going a couple of days later and as I pooped into her room for something saw her suitcase open with the two bottles of wine. Luckily now an ex family member