CF tightarsedness

[BorisAndDoris]

Inspired by another thread, I'd love to hear your experiences of CFers being tight arses, never putting their greedy paws in their own pockets.

Mine was an ex when I was a youngster. Maybe 16? 17? I was financially independent (okay, skint on min wage but paid my way) and rented my own place.
CFBF and I were in the early stages of dating (maybe 1 or 2 months in).
I was running errands one day and needed to pick a few things up from the supermarket. He tagged along.

I went round the supermarket and he kept chucking items into the trolley. Fine with me, no point in 2 trolleys.
He put his stuff on the conveyor (sans divider!) whilst I was packing mine. I didn't notice until he said he needed to pop to the loo. He left me to pay for everything.! I was mortified and hadn't grown the lady balls yet to stand up for myself well. I paid and asked him for the money when he got back. He told me he forgot his wallet and would give it to me when he came next time. He didn't.

In fact the next time he showed up I was leaving for the cinema with my best friend. We told CFBF we already had plans. My Best friend was paying because it was his turn and I was skint (thanks to CFBF's shopping which he forgot to bring his money for again!)
I locked up the house and we all walked to the bus together. CFBF got on too as it was also his bus.

We got off in town. CFBF got off with us. Okaaaay...
We got to the cinema. CFBF still with us.
I asked if he was heading home and he said no, I'll come with you! Hmm.. whatever, I couldn't really stop him.

He walked in just ahead of us. The desk clerk had the tickets printed when we got there and best friend paid. It wasn't until we were at the concessions counter he realised he'd paid for three, not two. CFBF has asked for three tickets and not paid his one. It was so awkward that best friend couldn't bring himself to actually say anything.
I stopped answering the door to CFBF after that night and best friend and I have been laughing about him for 20 years now. I should have realised when he only turned up at mine in time for dinner and I'd feed him not wanting to be impolite!!

I left home at 16 to live in a bedsit and got a live in job at a hotel at 17. My live in costs were room and meals. When I got my first pay cheque, about £200 after deductions, my DM pleaded poverty saying she was waiting for her 'social' money and was skint. As she lived with my young DS and DB, I gave her the whole of my first pay cheque as I thought they would be destitute. When I went to visit her a week later I discovered that she had a new set of garden furniture. It turned out that the 'social' had paid her early and as she had extra cash she treated herself!

Another DM one, much worse....

My then DH had loaned her some money (I never learn) and as it was a lot of money, my DH would visit once a week to collect her payment. We could never figure out why her husband was always so hostile to my DH. It turns out that she had told him that it was US borrowing money from HER every week!!! The bloody cheek if it!

This thread is simultaneously making me laugh and scream with frustration.

My sister was a student in her first year at uni, about four years ago. She wanted a car and I didn't want my parents to have to give her money so I said I'd loan it to her. I'm now a student and she has a job and has not paid a penny.

I wouldn't mind so much but she got rid of the car. She could have sold it and paid me back the amount she sold it for. Clearly not as much as the money I lent her for it, but it would be a start and i might leave it at that. But she gave it away to some friends. A lovely, thoughtful thing to do to make her look good but it wasn't hers to give away!

She's always been like that though. Constantly using my Amazon prime and not paying me. And getting my mum to buy her everything she wanted, when my mum is skint. Getting me to transfer her hundreds of pounds I didn't have, so she could sit in Costa and buy loads of rubbish.

She's a spoilt brat and a CF, especially since she isn't even nice to me half the time. She also makes arrangements to meet up and I walk into town to meet her and sit in the cold waiting for half an hour or so before ringing her and she casually says "oh yeah, I'm doing something else now" without even an apology.

I'm sure I can be a bit of an inconsiderate CF most of the time too though, so maybe I can't complain!

Also, about the air conditioning, your dad should have made the foreman pay the electricity to run the thing!

Don't give my dad any ideas @Fermatslittletheorem!!!

PS: Your sister is a VCFer @Fermatslittletheorem! Why bother, you can't choose family, but you don't have to be taken advantage of by them.

I advertised on a local Facebook buy and sell group that I had a few bin bags of baby clothes I was giving away for free. CF asked if she could have them, then asked if I would deliver, which I did. Then a few days later I saw my stuff being sold in bundles on the same Facebook group, she must have made a good few quid out of me.

”Example 3: Their daughter is 7. She has been playing with DN who is 4. She bought a big bag of monopoly style penny’s round with her recently, opened DN money box and swapped all her £1s and fifty ps for the fake money. When SIL confronted her neighbour, she said ‘oh what’s she like?’ And walked off. Her daughter had taken nearly £35.”

I am utterly gobsmacked at this - the brass neck of the mum turning a blind eye to her child nicking £35!

Had a friend who bought a house so was skint. Asked to borrow my credit card to buy medicine so I agreed. Went to her house and saw new garden furniture and kitchen gadgets. She then told me she put it on my credit card too and would pay me back - about $1,400. Took over a year to pay 1/2 back - I wrote the rest off as I was too embarrass to keep asking for the money even though I was paying credit card interest. Very upsetting as she was well paid, had won the lottery and used it on an overseas holidays but didn't want to pay me back. Friendship was never the same after that.

@IchWill are you a Rammstein fan perchance?

I have a friend like this but sometimes I think she genuinely doesn’t realise that she takes the piss. She’ll conveniently forget that she’s asked me to pick something up for her and never gives me the money. I have given her things in the past that I was going to sell on and never received the money that she’d promised to give. I recently gave her something that I’d found for a few pounds in a charity shop that was brand new and I knew she’d love. I then saw it for sale on a local selling page and she was asking £50. She’s so lovely to me and then takes the piss behind my back.

@1CantPickAName

You said she was at home with your DS? So you were 17 with a child but you left your child with your mum and moved out?

What she did was shit, but she was raising your kid so maybe not so bad???

Indeed I am @RabbityMcRabbit.

Please tell me you're a Scottish Chas and Dave fan!

My nra8n just kicked in!! DS is sister!! Sorry, I have 2 boys so DS in my head is always son!!

You didn't leave her looking after a kid, so she is total CF!

*brain

Did you call the police on her @PeachesPlumsPears?

@IchWill lol sorry to disappoint 😂 I'm from West Yorkshire and also a Rammstein fan. My username is sadly nothing to do with my origins, although I do love the Chas n Dave reference 😊always exciting to meet a fellow fan 😊

Housemates mainly.

Aussie bloke moved in with us, two weeks later announces a friend was arriving from Oz and could the friend stay for “2/3 days max”. Two months later we informed him that his live in girlfriend would need to pay rent and contribute to bills. He offered £30 a month, our combined rent for Zone 2 at the time was £975 He threw a hissy fit, moved out a week later, leaving a dead mouse on the table.

Next housemate from NZ... I came home from Spain to find three of her friends staying, and two of them had been staying in my room since apparently “I wasn’t using my bed”. Good perfume, empty. New boots, gone. They stayed for 3 weeks, no rent or kitty contribution paid, and I caught the measles off them. Housemate thought I was unreasonable for expecting my boots and perfume to be replaced, and gave the silent treatment. We’d brought tickets to two rugby World Cup matches to go together, she moved out and took the four tickets off the fridge as she left.

Had a Cocklodger boyfriend too... he had chronic fatigue; when he was healthy, he was single. When he was ill, he wanted a relationship eg rent free living with eager chef. Eventually copped on and began new relationship, so he pretended to have leukaemia to get me back. Went as far as telling his employer, family etc. Ended up in treatment then married his dispensary technician. He spent her inheritance from her grandmother on cam girls via her credit card.

@RabbityMcRabbit Ermmm, well... I love Terrorvision... They are from WY.

I love Rammstein and worship Chas and Dave. Can't wait to see Rammstein again next year.

@NotTheQueen please tell me you live alone in your own palace now!

The boots being stolen is unforgivable.

No IchWill - since I gave her the card in the first place and we were 'friends'. Looking back now I just realised what a really CF she was as she use to borrow my car - so use to drive to her place and then she would tell me to take a taxi home which I had to pay for as she was too busy to drive me home as she had to go places with my car!

@IchWill are you going to Milton Keynes? If so am soooo jealous, we tried to get tickets, DH went online at 10.45, they'd already sold out. Later on he saw lots of Rammstein tickets for sale for £200+. Obviously the CF ticket touts had bought loads!

Once went out for a quick Thai meal with an extremely tight couple, who wouldn’t split the bill equally because they had tap water and the rest of us had a soft drink each (literally a can of fizzy drink)

@ichwill happily renovating palace with DH... our financial issues are limited to our parents nowadays but we’re learning slowly. It’s like a 12 step recovery process - they’re the ‘final frontier’.

A former friend excelled at CFery.
I has just got a job and a flat, she worked but was off sick (still being paid and more than me) and shared a house with a friend.

We'd always stopped over at each others homes on night out etc. Then I began to realise she was at mine more and more..... Any hints to go home were met with maybe tomorrow or she'd go for a night and then reappear.
Also when I came home the flat was heated to bloody tropical.

I later found out from her house mate that she was dodging paying for gas at their house on the ground of 'never being there'. They had a pre pay meter I didn't! Of course by the time the gas bill came (and warmer weather) she'd gone back to her house. Leaving me with a massive bill for a one bed flat that I wasn't even in for 12 hours a day.
I had even stopped buying food (that was gone before I got home) to try and starve the CF out. I came home one evening to her cheerfully announcing she'd gone and bought some tea for us. Turned out she'd emptied my loose change jar.

Glad you shook the CF off @RabbityMcRabbit.

Yes, I'm going. I live in MK. On my doorstep and it's the week of my birthday too. I got online on two browsers on all of the tickets sites, an hour in advance and was lucky. If you message me I can keep ear to ground nearer time if any of my mates can't go. Try Twickets nearer the time too. We got MK Foo's tickets the day before on that site and got in for £30 each.

I've just got two thread mixed up in my reply. It's the Cava. Sorry.