To be fed up of dh moaning that he’s hungry?

[Breadfoam]

Dh is on a diet. He’s reduced his (massive) consumption down to 2000 calories a day. He spends a lot of time moaning that he is hungry and when we go places talking about how upsetting it is that he can’t eat what he wants. For example if we go out for a meal or something - previously he’d have had the biggest thing on the menu and some drinks but he has cut back.
Fair enough he’s doing well and he’s lost weight.

However because I’m a t1 diabetic and my sugars are brittle since having my daughter I can barely eat at all. It’s been 18 months since I ate a meal of any description and when we go out I actually have nothing to eat at all. I can either be hungry or feel ill so most of the time I am hungry. Occasionally I’m so hungry that I could cry. It pains me when he goes on about how hungry he is and how unfair it is when all I’ve eaten that day is half a piece of toast and some strawberries!

Aibu to find it insensitive? He’s actually bloody lucky that he can as he does and his pancreas works!

nypost.com/2017/01/11/20-zero-calorie-foods-to-snack-on-guilt-free/

This is bullshit. No foods are zero calorie. A large apple has 116 calories.

@breadfoam - firstly ignore anyone on this thread who is judging and doesn't know what they are talking about.

Secondly, I would seriously consider changing clinics. You are not being listened to or supported. I'm afraid it does sound like your eating is unsustainable and might be disordered. DWED is the support group, and you could ask for a referral to Have they also considered gastroparesis? I think you should ask for this to be ruled out.

In the meantime, there are some vegetarian low carb forums out there, and you might want to use those for ideas about food while you are getting this sorted out.

Khalida Ismail is the leading consultant on diabulimia. I believe she is at Kings. You also fit the criteria for a funded CGM imho if your fear of hypoglycaemia is causing you to stop eating. Kings adult diabetes team is, I've heard, quite pro CGM so might be worth considering? An alarmed CGM might help with the hypos as you can catch the hypo before it happens.

Please get some help.

To everyone saying things like "grow up" or "poor control" - this woman has done more every day than you can possibly imagine just to keep herself alive. I don't think I can describe to you what someone with type one diabetes has to do. Stigma and blame are major contributory factors to disordered eating in type one and to mental health issues. You are not helping at all.

Sorry, laptop crashed halfway through that, but hopefully it makes sense. Ask for a referral to Dr Khalida Ismail at Kings for disordered eating, but make sure that they also rule at gastroparesis. Obviously type one is up and down all the time and it's a guessing game, but the level of variability you describe doesn't sound normal for an adult.

I hear you, and I hope that you can find some medical professionals who will hear you too.

Just read @Caroian 's post and think she has a really good point. I'm going to admit that when my Ds first got the libre, I could see that with his 50g carb breakfast he could shoot up to 22 mmol or go hypo. It made us really scared of carbs. We got through it, but the data was overwhelming. Alarmed CGMs are better for this and you can set the alarm thresholds to where you want them and ignore the BGs in between. Overtime he's got a much better idea of when and how to bolus for different types of foods, but we've also had to acknowledge that spikes can and do happen. When we were eating lower carb (and breakfast and tea, not during the school day), I made sure every thing was nutritious and gave enough energy - we're meat eaters so it's a bit easier but lots of lower carb muffins, frittatas etc were veggie.

@Breadfoam - this sounds completely rubbish for you. I have T1 and I know how had it is. But you really need to be eating. If you are brittle and don't want to eat more carbs then you need to eat fat and protein (although protein can also affect blood sugar levels if you aren't eating any carbs). There is loads of nutritional advice available on the various diabetes forums if you are not getting any useful information from your diabetes team.

I would strongly advise you to go on the DAFNE course. Not because it will teach you much itself, but because talking to other people with T1 is so helpful.

Your team sound like they are not listening. You either need to be a lot more forceful with them at your appointment and make sure they really understand the impact this is having on your life OR you need to look into changing teams. Whereabouts in the country are you? I'm in London, but I know that people from the south west come up to London just for the clinic I go to.

If there is a psychologist attached to your team do try to get an appointment with them. Diabetes burnout is horrible, especially if you don't have a supportive family, but you can get through it with the right medical support.

You need to talk to a dietician or diabetes nurse about your diet. You must eat more and get help in getting your sugars stabilised

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