To be fed up of dh moaning that he’s hungry?

[Breadfoam]

Dh is on a diet. He’s reduced his (massive) consumption down to 2000 calories a day. He spends a lot of time moaning that he is hungry and when we go places talking about how upsetting it is that he can’t eat what he wants. For example if we go out for a meal or something - previously he’d have had the biggest thing on the menu and some drinks but he has cut back.
Fair enough he’s doing well and he’s lost weight.

However because I’m a t1 diabetic and my sugars are brittle since having my daughter I can barely eat at all. It’s been 18 months since I ate a meal of any description and when we go out I actually have nothing to eat at all. I can either be hungry or feel ill so most of the time I am hungry. Occasionally I’m so hungry that I could cry. It pains me when he goes on about how hungry he is and how unfair it is when all I’ve eaten that day is half a piece of toast and some strawberries!

Aibu to find it insensitive? He’s actually bloody lucky that he can as he does and his pancreas works!

Breadfoam, more than 50% of my family are diabetic, T1 and T2. The reaction you have is not healthy for you or the DC's. You need a review asap. Oh, and we've been living with diabetes since 1980.

I'm a vegetarian too but if I were in your shoes I wouldn't be! Would you consider starting to eat fish and chicken? You can get rspca approved versions at Aldi.

Also get yourself a copy if the rose elliot low carb diet book. Do you eat eggs and cheese? Nuts? There are lots of good recipes in that book that I think will help you.

Breadfoam - you need a complaint to PALS, your current situation isn't 'not great', it's potentially lethal.

How does eating met trade off against leaving your child with no mother?

Weigh it up: you have understandable and not unusual objections to eating meat but the current state of your diabetes severely limits the possible sources of protein that you're not allergic to, so you can't eat soya and you currently can't take the risk with carb containing protein sources such as dairy, legumes and wholegrains. I would guess that nuts might also be problematic, too?

Until you can get some concrete help from medical professionals you need to make some hard choices about a diet that is clearly not good for you, at the moment.

And your DH needs to stfu with the whinging

You need sources of protein surely. It doesn't seem sustainable to have a very low protein diet (and have so many sources unavailable) when carbs are such an issue for you.

Nut butters? Eggs. I would consider humanely sourced, local meat as well. I was a veggie for years so I do understand.

Information about fat and health is changng, lots of stuff on Internet about it. Ask to see a dietician. You need protein and some fat.

Your DH isn't the problem, it's your own lifestyle that is the issue. Like everyone else posting has said you need the treatment and assessment of a professional. You're current lifestyle isn't sustainable and just because you're not getting answers from professionals isn't a good enough reason to give up.

OP just low carb. I'm type one diabetic and I don't understand your struggles as I I've never had the issues you're having. But I do know that if I eat a green veg stir fry with soy sauce, garlic and chill etc I don't need any insulin. Honestly there's so much you can eat without needing any. A massive Greek salad, cheese and onion omelette, home made soup. There's loads of veggie friendly low carb meals. Not eating is really not going to help.

If I were you I’d seriously reconsider being vegetarian.

Honestly - you have that as an option and are being a bit of a martyr to be honest. This is not sustainable at all and you yourself say you might not see the children grow up?!?

That alone would make me reasses all options and have a serious harassment of the medical profession for help.

Your dh is entitled to talk about his issues and you yours.

even leaving aside meat you could be eating eggs, peanut butter, lentils, cheese, etc.

half a slice of toast isn't filling or particularly nutritious and there would be ways of having more to eat that would have the equivalent carb count.

That doesn’t sound good for you at all OP. Have you tried the Eat Water/Slim pasta noodles and rice? They are carb free and can go nicely with a sauce of some sort. They won’t help you put on weight but will help with the hunger pains as they do make you feel full. They are buy one get one for 1p at Holland and Barrett right now.

Can you not eat eggs, cheese, nuts, avocados, butternut squash?
I thought toast should be avoided?

Personally I'd rethink being vegetarian in order to get some proper nutrition.

Don't you just give yourself the correct amount of insulin depending on what your blood sugars are?
Your sugars will fluctuate depending on various factors.
It sounds like you are giving yourself a set amount of insulin and eating around it?

Breadfoam I'm T1 diabetic (25 years), my mother was, and her father too, so I've lived with the condition one way or another all my life. I've also had periods where it's seemed impossible to control, and poor diabetic clinics. (Oddly enough, the poor clinics seemed to coincide with poor control.) The best thing I've ever done to help myself was to find a first-class consultant and get my GP to refer me to his clinic four years ago. I've been using Libre for the last three years, and am on a low-carb high fat way of eating - with his full support - and it's made a world of difference. My sugar levels are much more stable and predictable, and my insulin doses are much less than they were. I feel hugely better than I've ever done, as well as feeling in control.

Please don't accept sub-standard clinical care - you do have a choice, and you owe it to yourself to find a more supportive diabetic team. Please do also reconsider about the DAFNE course as well - it is about carb-counting, but there's so much more to it. You'll get access to some excellent specialists and the moral support of the other people on the course is so important too.

For the moment, your DH is a much lower priority than your own health. Let him fill up on vegetables and turn a deaf ear. Oh, and if you're near a Waitrose, they do a low-carb bread called Livlife that's only 3.5g per slice, so that might help...

He has to be careful not to pile the weight back on again!

Hi there if your husband is still hungry tell him to have a banana it's you m more worried about.I'm a fellow type one also on a pump and have the same issues as you you need help sending hugs as I know how frustrating blood sugars can be .
I totally cut my carbs I get them from veg mostly and have lots of protein with my meals so salad and chicken most nights this has helped stabilise my sugars . The beauty of a pump is that it works the insulin out for you if it happens to not be enough then take a correction dose which the pump will calculate for you also
Go back to the diabetic clinic and ask to see a nurse it doesn't have to be the consultant the nurses are specialists and know their stuff and are there to help you it may be that you need help with the settings on your pump I.e the basal rates ,food ratios and correction factor . I hope you get this sorted soon luvvie as your diabetes shouldn't be controlling you like this you have a life to live xx

Your husband may well be undereating you say he is down to a healthy weight yet still surviving on 2000 calories a day. That is a lot less than a 6 foot tall man needs in a day if he exercises as well should be eating around 2500 to 3000. It is great to lose weight quickly but he should be gradually increasing his intake and the odd cheat day wouldn't hurt.

Try eating a cooked breakfast , slice of Bacon , sausage , egg, mushrooms , grilled tomato. Only the sausage will contain carbs , so you could avoid eating that .
Lunchtime , soup would help fill you , and dinnertime could be two or three kinds of veg and a slice of really lean meat .......very little carbs . but at least you'd be eating something .
Yes I'm diabetic on insulin too .

I totally agree that you need serious help with your diet OP.

You can easily stick to under 20g of carbs without starving yourself on half a slice of toast and some strawberries. Bread is super carby. Strawberries are so-so. You definitely shouldn’t be existing on these kind of foods when you need to keep your carbs down. As previous posters have said, where are the green vegetables? Protein?

Do you not give yourself the appropriate amount of insulin depending on your blood glucose levels?

OP, be honest, do you have an eating disorder? Because you know that there are foods without carbs and you won't answer when people think of low/no carb high calory options. I think that you need help, Anorexia will kill you a lot quicker than T1 will. You will leave your young child without a mother.

Did you tell the health professional that you were eating only strawberries and a piece of toast a day. Because if they didn't respond to that then you need to get referred somewhere else because it's shocking.

I'm trying to.find a kind way to say this, but I'm not sure there is one so I'll go for straight with no judgement. Your eating sounds disordered. Have you considered some counselling, there may be issues to unravel.

I don't think you can carry on as you are, the dh diet has brought it to the forefront but it's really a red herring.

@explodingkitten I was wondering that too tbh.

@Breadfoam
I’ve been vegetarian longer than I’ve been diaetbic - 32 years. I don’t know... I find the idea of eating meat really difficult.

So you find the idea of starving yourself less difficult?

YABVVVU.
You need to eat proteins and fats.
Eggs, cheese, nuts, lentils - you would feel much better if you ate two poached eggs for breakfast or a pot of cottage cheese instead of toast.
Seafood, fish, poultry - that would be even better - you could have a tuna steak and mixed leaf salad or a stir fry for dinner instead of crying because you're hungry.

You're DH is being a bit annoying, clearly there's lower calorie foods he could fill up on, but as others have continually pointed out - you are being unfair by projecting your feelings onto him.

Cheese, Greek yoghurt, leafy vegetables, eggs, avocado, cream in your coffee or on sugar free jelly, mushrooms - there's plenty of ways to up your calorie intake without increasing carbs - you should consider the possibility that your eating has become so disordered now that you will need professional help.