To be fed up of dh moaning that he’s hungry?

[Breadfoam]

Dh is on a diet. He’s reduced his (massive) consumption down to 2000 calories a day. He spends a lot of time moaning that he is hungry and when we go places talking about how upsetting it is that he can’t eat what he wants. For example if we go out for a meal or something - previously he’d have had the biggest thing on the menu and some drinks but he has cut back.
Fair enough he’s doing well and he’s lost weight.

However because I’m a t1 diabetic and my sugars are brittle since having my daughter I can barely eat at all. It’s been 18 months since I ate a meal of any description and when we go out I actually have nothing to eat at all. I can either be hungry or feel ill so most of the time I am hungry. Occasionally I’m so hungry that I could cry. It pains me when he goes on about how hungry he is and how unfair it is when all I’ve eaten that day is half a piece of toast and some strawberries!

Aibu to find it insensitive? He’s actually bloody lucky that he can as he does and his pancreas works!

Everytime he complains he's hungry tell him you want to cry from hunger because you've only had one toast and some strawberries all day. Everytime. And if you want to cry, cry.

He'll soon learn to stop saying it.

Even bloody Atkins has a vegetarian way of doing it.

• Everytime he complains he's hungry tell him you want to cry from hunger because you've only had one toast and some strawberries all day. Everytime. And if you want to cry, cry.

He'll soon learn to stop saying it.*

Yeah, why seek the medical advice you clearly need when you could just emotionally abuse your husband instead?

You need to see someone about your inability to get your diabetes under control. Immediately. Starving yourself is unhealthy and could cause you long term complications.

I guess IABU. I suppose I just have to accept that me being starving doesn’t affect the fact he is hungry.
He gives me zero support with the diabetes however.

You don't need to be starving though?!

Never mind your DH, focus on you.

I hope you go back to your GP and take all this advice in board, you seem to be in denial and adamant you can never eat properly again.

You can, but you need to stop wallowing and do something about it.

OP there is no reason for you to be starving. Either you have an eating disorder or you're trying to be some kind of martyr. You need to speak with your consultant / GP / diabetic nurse because you will do yourself long term damage if you don't start eating.

@Breadfoam can you answer why you can't eat all of the low carb options people have mentioned on the thread and why you're eating toast (high carb) instead?

Like the woman upthread who also has T1
She found a specialist and asked to be referred.
You seem to be ignoring ALL of that
I must admit, you do come across as having some kind of eating disorder. If food is the only way to control you diabetes then I’m not really surprised.
I can’t think of a worse way of controlling your diabetes or low carbs than toast and berries. Two things that have the highest amount of carbs for their group.
But denial is not good.

Diabetics still need a range of foods. You're not eating any protein or getting calcium/vital do etc. You need to go back to your diabetic than asap.

Why are you focusing on your dh, both in reality and in this thread?

pigeon

Yeah, why seek the medical advice you clearly need when you could just emotionally abuse your husband instead?

Did I say OP shouldn't seek medical advice? Her OP is not about that.

And if anyone is emotionally abusive it's the DH, moaning he's hungry after a full meal when OP has had a piece of toast and some strawbs all day.

Toast is high carb but at a slice a day it isn’t particularly. I’m not eating an entire loaf.
Strawberries are low carb. About 7g per 100g and I’m not eating 100g...
Anyway, I digress. I suppose I’ve given up really. I’ve asked for help a number of times and no one seems to want to know. The clinic or the dsn. I’ve told them the unpredictability scares me and so I don’t like taking the insulin so I’d rather not eat. They know I’ve lost well over a fifth of my body weight. I’ve been to the dsn probably six times in the last twelve months but I don’t feel like I’ve got anywhere. They download my results and say they are good, and I say yes but I can’t eat and it’s ruining my life and they say well your results are good. And that seems to be it!

You saying not eating gives you control is one of the most anorexic statements anyone could come out with, OP.

There was a girl on the EDU with me whose anorexia was caused by/made harder to manage by her diabetes. Please catch this early. Even people without anorexia develop similar ways of thinking & behaving when undernourished; please see the Minnesota starvation experiments.

I ate that amount of food when I was severely anorexic and I was nearly dead within the year, and that was starting out with a BMI of 21.

All berries/fruit are high carb. You could have a huge leaf salad for the same carb content.

There are 12 grams of carb in a slice of toast
There are virtually NO grams of carb in an egg

So salad with boiled eggs and (tuna) for example will be around 7 grams of carbs.

For a whole meal.
But you’d rather have a slice of toast and berries

You need a new consultant. This is life threatening.

You could have2 salads a day.

Oh lord, OP, this can't go on. There are some really good threads on here about eating and living with diabetes, monitoring yourself, avoiding dips and spikes, etc.

I'd change my GP and ask for a new referral. You're in actual medical danger.

Have you keptva food diary? I suggest that you take that with you at your next appointment and make it clear that this is all that you are eating.

I can't help but think the reason you're not receiving help from your medical team is because you're being given similar advice as you are here and ignoring it.

You are making a choice to starve yourself and clearly have an eating disorder.

You have a severe eating disorder and your diabetes is not being controlled at all. You should be able to eat a healthy filling diet with proper medical care. Can you go privately? You'll have to eat fish and meat again to maintain low carb or face the consequences

This thread is insane.
Agree with exploding kittens. Your husband is a red herring in all this OP you do not sound well.

If you are starving
Why won’t you eat delicious delicious cheese?

Why won’t you eat nuts?

Why won’t you eat avocado?

Something is amiss here

OP, you sound a bit like you love the drama, I'm sorry but you do. There are a lot of foods you could eat that equal a slice of toast and some berries carb wise that don't have to include meat or soya but you just don't seem to want to.

Diabetes can be a nightmare. I've spent many evenings sitting with a friend at university when she kept having unexpected spikes.

I do understand your husband is frustrating you, and I can see why. He's not being very empathetic.

But ultimately, while you may unbend carb counting, if you are currently choosing high carb % options then you will inevitably be able to eat less than if you choose lower carb % options. It's great to eat toast if you like it, but in these instances it could be better to pick higher volume low carb items (for fullness) and higher fat low carb items (to stop you losing weight).

If you choose to do neither of those things, while continuing unsustainable weight loss, then you probably ought to see a gp about how you can make your eating habits less disordered. If you've tried those things and have still felt awful or have still had uncontrollable highs and lows, then you need to go back and push again for referral - but ultimately you may have to take up their course offerings before they will do that, even if you don't think they are relevant.