To be fed up of dh moaning that he’s hungry?

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Dh is on a diet. He’s reduced his (massive) consumption down to 2000 calories a day. He spends a lot of time moaning that he is hungry and when we go places talking about how upsetting it is that he can’t eat what he wants. For example if we go out for a meal or something - previously he’d have had the biggest thing on the menu and some drinks but he has cut back.
Fair enough he’s doing well and he’s lost weight.

However because I’m a t1 diabetic and my sugars are brittle since having my daughter I can barely eat at all. It’s been 18 months since I ate a meal of any description and when we go out I actually have nothing to eat at all. I can either be hungry or feel ill so most of the time I am hungry. Occasionally I’m so hungry that I could cry. It pains me when he goes on about how hungry he is and how unfair it is when all I’ve eaten that day is half a piece of toast and some strawberries!

Aibu to find it insensitive? He’s actually bloody lucky that he can as he does and his pancreas works!

You're not eating because you don't like taking insulin?
I'm guessing your consultant has told you how dangerous this is and you are not listening. So it's not so much they don't care it's that you are not complying with treatment and presuming you have mental capacity they can't do anything about it.

Ah so OP is an eating disordered patient who is abusing her diabetes. Did wonder after reading the OP and then her updates confirmed. I agree with the martyr comment. Grow up.

DId you have an eating disorder before the diabetes was diagnosed, by any chance? Either the HCPs treating your diabetes are too dumb to recognise that the priority should be addressing your eating disorder, or you are lying to them/rejecting their advice because of your eating disorder. The eating disorder is a greater risk to your health than your diabetes. Unfortunately, one aspect of eating disorders is that people who have them refuse treatment unless and until someone hits on the right turn of phrase to make them recognise their condition - or until they become so sick that treatment has to be given with or without their consent.

Are you able to recogise your condition and ask for help with your eating disorder?

No no - I don’t like taking the insulin because it scares me! Taking the same amount on different days gives such different results. It is scary for me to eat more and then risk taking more insulin. It is a lethal drug and you don’t have to get it too far wrong!

I told the consultant how I felt about it and his advice was ‘choose to be strong’ followed by ‘everything with your diabetes is excellent’. That was it.

It really doesn't have to be an issue if you don't want it to be. Let him have his moan and occasional blow out. Being on a diet isn't much fun when you're out for a meal and it's not his fault you have diabetes. I can't remember the last time I ate a meal yet we still go out weekly for Sunday lunch. We go to places that know I can't eat any solid food (I have no stomach so this won't change.) Yesterday I just had ice cream while they had their mains.

You don’t take insulin
You had a pregnancy? Very high risk for doing serious damage.
And you don’t take insulin
Are you actually telling your doctor the truth about your eating

No no - I don’t like taking the insulin because it scares me! Taking the same amount on different days gives such different results. It is scary for me to eat more and then risk taking more insulin. It is a lethal drug and you don’t have to get it too far wrong!

There are 0 carbs in a cooked egg, in butter, in salmon.

Foods with low carbs:

Serving size: 1/2 cup
Spinach .2
Parsley .4
Avocado .5
Radish .5
Lettuce .25
Bok Choy .7
Celery .8
Serving size: 1/4 cup
Mushrooms .5
Garlic (1/2 clove) .5
Pokeberry Shoots .5
Cabbage .5
Asparagus (3 pieces) .6
Coconut .5
Yellow Squash .7
Raspberries .7
Cauliflower .7
Broccoli .8
Cucumber .9

Why won't you eat that? It won't affect your bloodglucose or hardly.

I have T1. You are killing your body by not eating. You can grow old with an occasional high.

Please show your specialist this thread.

As well as getting proper dietary support it sounds like you maybe need some sort of counselling to help deal with the emotional side of things?

I take the basal insulin - obviously. I just don’t much bolus because I’m not eating much.

I will take a look at the list of carb free foods - I know eggs are pretty low and nuts so I can have those. I don’t like them, that’s the trouble! I am fussy I know.

When you are nutrient starved, your fear is exacerbated; it is a symptom of starvation. You will probably be afraid to eat anything, just in case. Your fear of food & insulin & being out of control will get worse and worse as your brain literally shrinks.

Please get help to manage your fears, and your nutrition.

OP I agree with the previous posters. Your eating is clearly disordered.

You're scared of insulin. It's a substance your body needs. You really need serious help and quickly. Firstly to deal with your reluctance to use insulin and secondly to deal with your disordered eating.

Why are you ignoring all other food suggestions?

I remember the time I became a vegan...I actually was just anorexic. My fussy eating habits plus my vegan diet meant I could avoid eating pretty much anything anywhere.

Getting help for my ED was one of the best things I ever did. Get help OP.

You would rather die than eat something you don’t like
So far:
Meat / fish
Off because you’re vegetarian

Eggs
You don’t like them

Quorn
You’re allergic

Nuts
You don’t like them.

So you’ve self banned every item you could eat to help you. Which makes you someone with a seroius eating disorder

Which is obvious to everyone on here.

OP - apparently the Keto diet is excellent for insulin. Low carb, high fat. I know someone who is no longer T2 diabetic as a result of following this way of eating. It might help.

OP you’re choosing not to listen to all the very many posters who are pointing out all the foods you can eat that won’t affect your blood sugar. Why?

I doubt the op is telling the truth, it sounds like an eating disorder to me.

I would focus on the diet op. Eating meat would be better than leaving your child without a mother, but others have listed many low carb foods to try first.
Your relationship may be a problem but i would focus on the diet and the diabetes for now.

Do you believe what the majority of posters are saying about your diet OP?

I also think you may have an eating disorder and would suggest you go to a GP to discuss how you're feeling about food. This is worrying.

Believe it or not - it is the truth.
So day one I eat 10g carb, take insulin, blood sugar 6mmol afterwards. Great.
Day two I eat 10g of the same thing, take insulin, blood sugar is 15 afterwards and I feel ill. I couldn’t risk taking more insulin on day 2 as day 1 the amount I took was fine. Then I’m chasing the high blood sugar.
Can you see why it is easier not to eat?! Prior to having my daughter it wasn’t so unpredictable. I breast fed for two years and it got worse still after I stopped.

Nothing like an excuse of
Diabetes
Allergies
Vegetarianism
To his a proper eating disorder

Ah well I definitely have / am all three.