aibu to not wear a head scarf

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I am going to brave the shave for Macmillan and im super excited!

I have had so many positive comments but somewhere I volunteer (non facing client role) has said that when I come in to volunteer I must wear a scarf! reasons are im going from a head full of hair to an extreme hair cut :/

I don't know If iabu or not by telling them actually stick it or its their premises and work so I should adhere to what they say.

I really enjoy volunteering there and I don't want to stop but I am also doing this to raise money, awareness and selfishly to make myself feel better by knowing im doing something.

what do you think?

Do you want to continue volunteering there?

If you want to continue volunteering there then just follow their rules.

Presumably they wouldn’t make a man with a similar haircut wear a headscarf? Push back on it OP.

What would happen if you didn't cover. I am sure Macmillan would welcome the publicity but he may not. Offer to explain to colleagues and other volunteers why you are doing it and when - so it won't be such a shock.

What sort of volunteering is it? If it's something to do with bereavement or cancer I could see why perhaps it might be inappropriate. Otherwise I would question it.

I'd not be happy with the headscarf rule ~ would they make a person who lost their hair do to alopecia or cancer cover up too? There must be another reason why they want you covered up.

Maybe there is a cancer survivor you work with who finds you shaving your head offensive and upsetting?

Sorry, why are you shaving your head?

They don't think it will look professional if senior management come in, I definitely don't want to make a fuss. Its nothing medical related, I don't want out myself to be honest.

No one I work/volunteer with would be affected as far as I know. I have several cancer survivor friends who are happy im doing it.

As @fissionchips said, maybe they think other cancer sufferers may be upset or offended by it. I don't get this 'brave the shave' thing sorry. I know you mean well, but it just makes me cringe a bit.

petbear that's fine to have your opinion just like I have mine, sorry I make you cringe. Im just trying to raise money for a good cause.

Where are you volunteering? Need more information.

cherries because I like to, im not able to give more info sorry

It's insulting to cancer patients to shave your hair off. Just donate some money to a local hospice. Macmillan already have enough money and I highly doubt that most of it is being used to help patients. I'd love to know where it all goes. They don't even run hospices, train nurses from scratch or provide employment to any of the nurses they give training to after two years I think it is.

Their collection tins are everywhere. What exactly do they do?

Marie Curie run hospices with in patient provision and employ nurses and care staff who go into patient's homes to give direct care.

Just saying like.

dont kn ow if its due to offience or anything but i dont thin they can tell you legally to cover up

my dh grew his hair put it up neatly for work and his manager kept asking him when he was cutting it - he said when you tell my female colleagues to do the same aswell

he shutup soon enough

I fail to see how shaving your head is "insulting" to cancer patients. Having hair is a personal decision. Period. No one says a FUCKING THING to a man of he shaves his head. Why is it any different for a woman?

Just don't do it. It's so highly offensive to so many cancer sufferers.

Black eyes for Domestic Violence Awareness week anyone?

Brave The Shave NOT IN MY NAME

Cancer patients have repeatedly said that it is insulting to them as chemo is far more damaging to the body than just causing hair loss. It minimises their experience.

There was a thread on here about it a few months ago.

I'm a cancer survivor and I hate all this shaving head thing.

It's Instagram and Facebook worthy to be sure, but attention seeking and a waste of money in the real world.

Find a better cause. Seriously.

Regardless of whether the shave is a good idea, and I have very strong opinions on that, if your boss where you volunteer would ask a man who shaved his head to wear a scarf then fair enough. But I suspect that they wouldnt and that is completely unacceptable and I would kick up a stink about it.

My dd has SEN and attends day centre and a few clubs/activities during the week. It can be quite disturbing for someone with SN if a familiar member of staff or volunteer turns up completely shorn.
Is it something like that?

Anyway, I think that if you want to continue volunteering you should adhere to their rules. Winter's coming. You're going to lose a lot of heat with no hair. It's common sense.

Guven that it is a volunteer role I would just stop. A shaved head isn’t really that extreme, it’s jot like are dying your hair blue or sporting a mowhawk.