AIBU or has DP been a twat

[Hocusypocus]

DP works nights but came home last night at midnight as there was an issue at work, he woke me up to ask me to set an alarm on my phone for very early morning so he didn't miss football (he plays every Sunday, straight after he gets off work) then proceeded to keep me up until gone 1:00am. He couldn't use his own alarm apparently, as his phones playing up.

I have a baby at home and am pregnant so need whatever sleep I can get at the moment.

He stays up watching TV until gone 2, disturbing me again when he came to bed then proceeded to keep me up for the remainder of the night with his snoring. I then get woken again by his stupid alarm going off on my phone.

He goes to football this morning and calls after the match to say he's just finishing an after match pint (uncommon for him so no problem there) and do I want to meet him in town in 25 minutes after I've collected a parcel, so we can take DS to the park and grab some dinner.

I collect the parcel and go to town, standing about with the pram for over half an hour. I text him to say I'm here then he rings and says he'll be another hour because his team mate has got him another pint, but it's not his fault because he didn't ask for it.

I say well what do you want me to do then? He replies that it's up to me. Irritated and tired I hung up and came home.

AIBU and hormonal or has he acted like a twat.

He's just arrived.

Hocus so bloody annoying, at least I knew some of exdh footy mates. As another poster mentioned yes there are back to back games, as mentioned he knows he is in the dog house probably staying out rather than coming home to a shit load of crap.

Is he driving?

When he comes in I wouldn't give him both barrels, he will be expecting that. Be calm and cool and don't enter into any conversation with him as he will be drunk anyway. Tell him he's sleeping on the couch and you will discuss his behaviour and lack of respect when you're ready.

Oh Christ, hope you’re ok

Makes sense as most games are over now.

Good luck. 🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀

I was putting the rubbish out and he strolled up the drive with a "hello beautiful"

I blanked him and he went indoors.

Will update with his version of events shortly.

Complete & utter twat!

Good luck OP 💐

Twatty McTwat most definitely

I’d be tempted to double lock the front door, and leave a note on it telling him to find somewhere else to sleep tonight and you’ll see him tomorrow. Fucking bellend

Glad he's home. I wouldn't talk too much about it while he's pissed up tbh, it'll only end in a terrible argument and with the child in the house you don't want that. In your situation I'd probably go up to bed with DS and watch Netflix and have an early night. Good luck anyway whatever you decide to do.

X posted. Good luck OP.

Wow OP...he is an absolute wanker. Good luck dealing with his BS.

Ugh! He should have been grovelling. That is REALLY infuriating.

Don't sabotage his shirt. Just unpick and weaken the thread on his shorts...

Not making excuses but where i live rememberance sunday is a big day in the pub for lots. If it's similar there i bet he just got carried away.

Nightmare for you though and he has been a complete arsehole not staying in touch and making you hang around then letting you go home again. Deffos deserves it with both barrels. You're pregnant and tired though. He is probably pretty drunk. I think i'd probably save myself the hassle.

Run a bath lock the bathroom door and let him stew. Fingers crossed he'll need a wee!!!

Order yourself a takeaway and go find something to watch on tv and offer him nothing, pretend like it's not bothered you in the slightest and give him both barrels tomorrow when he's feeling sheepish.

I wouldn’t argue with a drunk man. I’d have wondered if he was in an accident. Suppose you can be glad he wasn’t.

Don't sabotage his shirt. Just unpick and weaken the thread on his shorts...

That is genius. Please do that!

I couldn't contain myself so had my say, he doesn't seem drunk but has probably had a few.

I said you've blatantly disrespected me and not given me a seconds thought, If you wanted to sit in the pub all day that's your perogative but you had an obligation to let me know and 1) not leave me stood around like an idiot and 2) not made out you were leaving in ten minutes at 2pm then turned your phone off.

He said he didn't intend to stay so long and then his phone died.

I said well why couldn't you have asked one of your friends to send me a message on Facebook and tell me as much and that you'd be home in the evening.

He said he didn't think to and waffled on about how he was supposed to be getting a lift back (not driving) but then didn't and that added an hour onto the time he was out.

I responded that he didn't think about me at all and if he wants to act like a single person with no responsibilities and nobody to answer to then he can bloody well be one.

He didn't respond to that.

I added that I never have the luxury of fucking off out at 8am and not returning until 6 and if he thinks he's hard done by then perhaps he should try some actual parenting instead of prioritising a hobby because the last time I checked I don't get the luxury of having one or being without DS all day.

To finalise my rant I said he knew damn right what I'd assume he was up to and the fact he knew that yet still cared so little about how I would be feeling speaks volumes.

Got his pillow put it on the sofa

That's all I'm going to say to him now, I'm sick of the sight of him today he can go whistle.

Wish. Fuckwit of the highest order. Hope you're giving him a good kick in the bollocks, verbally (or not)

Well done, OP. And sorry he has made you feel like this

Seething with anger, not so much as an apology from the git and he denies the fact he was blatantly disrespectful.

Good for you, having your say.