to not 'cover up' when breastfeeding even though DH wants me to?

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My opinion: Nobody cares about seeing a flash of nipple (and if they do they're idiots) and I shouldn't have to sit with a muslin or blanket over my baby's head. It's just a boob...

DH opinion: it's not appropriate for anyone to see my boob. Thinks I should cover up and nobody has any business seeing my nipple.

WIBU to ignore his opinion and just do what I want? I don't see why I have to cover up and faff with muslins etc.

Opinions?

Another day, another breastfeeding bingo.

Whopping them out. Check
Why can't people be discreet? Check
Can't you cover up? Check
I don't want to see someone's nipple while eating. Check

Where's the person whose DH gets uncomfortable and doesn't know where to look? Then we are edging towards a full house.

But you didn't say that in your OP.

Ask him to use a blanket over his head so he can’t see. What an idiot he is.

@GreatDuckCookery apologies. My AIBU was whether it would BU to ignore his opinion. I didn't want to deny him of his right to have one. Of course he's allowed an opinion!

@Celebelly

I'd only cover up if the baby is at an age to get distracted by the world around when they should be feeding.

@someonekillbabyshark it's not that abnormal actually. I did it the other day without even realising.

2 babies under 2, everyone's been ill for about a month now and I've reached new levels of sleep deprivation.

It took me several minutes to realise that I hadn't put my boob away after feeding. 🤷🏽‍♀️

I've have zero shits left to give.

I had ds by emcs in a foreign country.

There was 3 of us in a room and I wasn't allowed to even sit up for 24 hours.

A lady in my room helped me place ds, showed me how to massage to encourage flow and helped me latch him on!

After that BF on buses and even on a plane were easy.

This is a country where woman lay in sun and swim topless though. The whole attitude is different

He can be safely ignored

OP, YANBU. I get so fed up with people (especially partners) who think they can dictate how you breastfeed. Do what works for you and the baby.

I think men get a hard time, on this topic. It must be difficult to view your wife's breasts as sexual, and then switch that off entirely once a baby comes along. And, I can see how he would be uncomfortable if you are sitting with your boobs out, in front of his mates. I think it depends on what you are actually doing? Are you trying to be discrete at all, or just whopping them out for all to see?

The poor diddums. It must be terribly difficult to acknowledge that someone else owns your wife's breasts. The horror, the horror.

And it's DISCREET. 'Discrete' means something entirely different, for feck sake.

People offended by boobs (which are really just udders to feed offspring mammals) can use their neck to look the other fucking way. If anyone ever came to reprimand you for feedingxyoor child just keep loudly asking ‘why are you looking at my breasts?’ After all they must have been looking at them to see them being used. They usually get embarrassed and pootle off. It is entirely up to the mother to feed in the most comfortable manner for her.

No idea why people Feel the need to be exhibitionists

This sort of comment really puzzles me. I've seen many, many breastfeeding mothers, but I've never seen one feed in an exhibitionist way. Most just get on with it and you barely notice, particularly once the baby's head is in front of the boob.

Just cover up your breast as best you can and leave the baby uncovered.

Miscible just because you haven’t seen it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen

Op, yanbu, he is

I'm afraid I'm guilty of watching intently if I spy a mother BF. I just can't help it.
It fills me with such happy memories when mine were small.
I just love love love seeing a mother BF her child. It transports me instantly back to those times.
Disclaimer. . I do make a point of smiling and if appropriate make a kind comment.
I don't miss much of life as a mother of young children, but boy do I miss BF

To be honest, if I saw a woman stripped to the waist BF in a restaurant because she enjoyes men watching (as suggested by a poster upthread), I'd have some safeguarding concerns.

Maybe point out that if your nipples should be covered at all time, so should his.

No going topless on holiday. He must wear a top or rash vest to go swimming. If it’s hot, he must still never show nipple. No getting changed- whipping one top of for another- in public view.

I think i might start approaching shirtless men in the summer months and suggesting they cover up as it’s disgusting flashing nipples in public.

I have never ever seen any of these exhibitionist breast feeders. I have never really noticed anyone breastfeeding in public, you can't really tell if they are feeding or cuddling.
Perhaps I am not paying attention enough.

Drivinmecrazy you would seriously freak me out, I feel uncomfortable enough nursing in public without some weirdo smiling at me

The only person who reacted.l negatively to me was MIL. I remember her getting up to close the window shutters when I was feeding in the living room (discreetly!) lest someone walking down the cul de sac should peer in and get a glimpse. She was really uncomfortable with it. I ignored her discomfort! We get on really well, that was the only point of tension but I didn’t pay any attention to it.

“Miscible just because you haven’t seen it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen hmm”

Actually, sometimes it means exactly that. This is one of those sometimes!

They're your tits. Tell him to piss off.