spannablue Sat 10-Nov-18 18:58:37
'Boring rehash of transphobia'
Have you any idea of how fucking offensive that is? Women expressing real and valid concerns about safe spaces, about needs being met, about figures being recorded accurately (both to reflect relaity and also to ensure needs met) instantly labelled as 'transphobic' and so casually just dismissed by you?
I have to remind myself this is the internet and you could be anyone but I'll take your word for it that you are a: female; b: lesbian. If you are either of those, let alone both (as all of my lesbian friends have suffered grievously one way and another) then I'm stunned you're so dismissive of women's real and valid concerns.
I've been sexually assaulted as an 8 year old girl; a 12 year old girl; a 13 year old girl; a fifteen year old girl; and a 20-something women - each of those by a man.
If men [male bodied humans with penises who surf through on the flimsy and dangerous premise of 'self-ID'] are allowed into female changing rooms then I will no longer be able to go swimming; if they are allowed into female only roles - IE I ask for a female chaperone but under this insanity of simply spouting the words 'I feel like a woman therefore I AM a woman' - then I won't be able to access those services. These things terrify me and will very literally change my life and you have the audacity to dismiss them with a tinkling 'boring rehash of transphobia'?? How very fucking dare you.
DC1 has a friend who is trans and currently crowd funding for surgery. I am doing all I can to support their journey, I recognise their struggle and d'you know what? They recognise mine. And in a million years would they dismiss my real, lived, PTSD causing, multiple sexual assaults by men with penises - and their heinous legacy - as 'boring transphobia'.
My experience of actual trans people (IE genuine GD, not someone seeking to use to self ID to access spaces for nefarious reasons) is that they HATE the self ID plans and they HATE what is being done to them and their genuine fight via this utter BS - and that INCLUDES you dismissing me, and my uber valid and well grounded fears of men abusing self ID and then abusing women and girls, as 'boring'.
The attack on women's rights aside, the truly devastating thing here is that the people I know - remember, genuine transpeople who have been beaten up simply for being themselves - are also too scared to speak up now, so pervasive is the kind of abuse that you are meting out to me and others here simply for voicing our concerns.
It is as sickening as it is insane. You are as offensive in your trite dismissal as you are ignorant of the reality of life as a vulnerable girl/woman - so forgive me if I'm gonna take your claim to be a woman with a massive pinch of salt.