To be really angry my DD took my coffee on a weekend away, without asking?

[AdoreTheBeach]

I’m an early riser. I have sleep issues (wake up and can’t get back to sleep), so I follow a fairly strict sleep hygiene routine. That includes no caffeine after 10am. I also have digestion issues and diverticulitis so I need to be “regular”, which routine includes my morning coffee. I look forward to my lovely huge mug of coffee every morning. This morning, it’s gone. Extra large jar of Dow Egbert coffee is gone. Hard to miss a jar that size. My DD left last night for a weekend away with friends, renting a large self-catering house. Dare I suspect she’s the culprit? If so, AIBU to me REALLY angry with her? (FYI, looked in bin and recycling just in case accidentally broken - not there).

I would be so mad and I don't have any issues why I need it I just LOVE my morning coffee!

This morning DP got up early and snuck out for milk as he used the last of it after I'd gone to bed. Everyone knows I NEED my morning coffee! 😂

So no OP YANBU!

Really selfish to take the whole jar!! She could have decanted half out! I wouldnt be angry but I would be put out. I only drink one coffee a day, mid day..so Id be peeved to miss it!

Yanbu to be angry. We all have our routines. Your dd was thoughtless.

I would be livid.

I pity anyone who deprives me of my morning coffee.
YANBU.

Keyboard coffee "snobs" are the worst and I suspect likely wouldn't know their single estates from a blend anyway

How ridiculous. So anyone who likes anything nice, versus 'instant', is a snob? Why would anyone who buys ordinary ground coffee go hunting for single estates? Sounds like you're just trying to demonstrate how much you know about coffee, and put the rest of us in our place.

@Adorethebeach

It's annoying. But a bit of an overreaction to post a thread about it and how 'ANGRY' you are.

As a few posters have said..... go buy some more.

My kids (even as young adults) used to nick/borrow/use all sorts of shit (that I only had a little bit left of.) I used to suck it up and just go buy more. It's what happens sometimes when you live with other people. (especially kids, as they don't think!) If something is so precious to you, then you need to lock it away.

Having said all this, I think you do need to tell her it pissed you off, and to please not do it again!

Also have to add, I don't think it's snobbery to prefer filter coffee to instant coffee. Instant coffee makes me gag, and I also have filter coffee only. And it's not rude to say it's better, because it is.

it’s just coffee......

It's what happens sometimes when you live with other people. (especially kids, as they don't think!)

She's in her fucking twenties! Why wouldn't she 'think'?

she doesnt care.
perhaps she thinks you have another

@DarlingNikita

She's in her fucking twenties! Why wouldn't she 'think?!'

Goodness, do calm down.

Newsflash honey! Even people 'in their twenties' are a bit thoughtless sometimes. (And people even older are thoughtless sometimes too!)

Ridiculous overreaction from the OP AND from you. As I said, calm down............

She shouldn't take something that's yours without asking you. She must know you have a cup of it every morning. So to just take it without asking or even telling you isn't on. Like you say, she could simply have bought some on the way. I think it's a bit mean to take yours.

YABU it’s instant coffee which is vile anyway.

Selfish of her. Practicalities of getting more aside, you might feel better if you text her, let a bit of your justified annoyance out, without going OTT.

I would be cross too. I only drink decaf and a couple of nice freshly ground cups in the morning starts off my day and keeps my (ahem) digestive schedule on track. If someone took the last of the decaf beans I would be furious at the thoughtlessness of it. There would be half a dozen other beverages in the cupboard including tea, regular coffee and several herb teas but at that time of the day only decaf will do.

For those who would go for a coffee pod machine,we have a senseo, for which the pods are made of the same sort of paper as tea bags. Much better for the environment, and still decent coffee.

@op I would be annoyed too, Not at the loss of the coffee so much but at the thoughtlessness and carelessness of it.

I'd be bloody cross too. I know a couple of people with diverticulitis and coffee is more effective for them than medication.

I don't even like coffee but I'm annoyed on your behalf OP.

YANBU - it was very thoughtless - she should have asked first.

I would be having a major go once she comes home.

I don't know why some pps are coming over all superior over the OP's choice of coffee. She's entitled to enjoy whatever she likes without anybody having a coffee-snob dig at her.

My Precioussssssssssssss

I couldn’t bring myself to be annoyed about this and I do have chronic health issues so I do get that part of it but unless this is part of a general pattern of her being selfish I’d just send her a text with a shock gif and ask her to buy me a new jar on the way back!

Fatasfook, perhaps because it suits the pair of them? There's no law saying you have to kick your kids out as soon as they turn 21.

OP, did you text/phone her to ask if she'd left you a bit in a cup anywhere?

Really angry is an overreaction. It was thoughtless and has impacted on your health, for today. Even so, anything upto really annoyed would be a reasonable reaction.

You need to make it clear it doesn't happen again.

Kids regularly stash things into their bags last minute, we don't tend to mind. However, they are pretty thoughtful. E.g. before taking the shared hair curlers, oldest daughter checked with her younger sister that she didn't plan on using them over the weekend.

Really angry might be an overreaction unless you can't get to shops, but it was incredibly selfish and thoughtless and expressing very clear annoyance about it is definitely appropriate.

I don't think you are being at all unreasonable. My morning coffee is the most important thing in my morning and if any of my children took it away I would be angry and disappointed - they all know how much I like my coffee (filter but that isn't the point) so to just nick it because they couldn't be arsed buying their own for a weekend would seem monumentally selfish and self-centered. Taking the last packet of biscuits would be different - just a bit cheeky. She knows how important that coffee is to the OP and she took it anyway. That isn't thoughtless, that is selfish. What is wrong with the OP being angry? Are we only allowed to get angry about things that are "the end of the world".