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talcy0 · 18/06/2007 23:59

Jules...you make me realise how lucky i have been.
I wish you all the best luck in the world.x

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AbRoller · 19/06/2007 00:00

jules, forgive me but did I read your last post incorrectly - you are trying to grow one that 'sticks'

What's that?

I have images

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ShinyNewShoes · 19/06/2007 00:06

AbR, a pregnancy that 'sticks' is a baby carried to term - phrase often used by people who have had sad misc experiences

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AbRoller · 19/06/2007 00:09

oh I'm very sorry, I've never heard that term before.

I know you don't know me jules but I would never deliberately say something so hurtful. I do hope you forgive my ignorance and last post.

Very sorry

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purpleduck · 19/06/2007 00:11

tina, how old is your son? Just because he didn't sleep well does not mean any future babies wouldn't sleep well. Also as they get older and their personality developes more, (imo) the sleep issue matters less. What would you do if you did get pg, and your dh flat out doesn't want it - ie wants you to abort it (don't know what his feelings are about that) or is so hurt by you being so deceitful that he leaves? Maybe he will come around, but let him do that in his own time. eek! Don't trick him!!! Good Luck

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talcy0 · 19/06/2007 00:14

You pg now jules?

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AbRoller · 19/06/2007 00:16

jules, I feel so horrid I could cry.

I had never heard that before.

I'm so sorry. I hope everything works out for you and dp.

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ShinyNewShoes · 19/06/2007 00:19

Jules - I've been through first infertility then mc. Good luck to you and your DP - IME it's when everything looks grey and gloomy that the nice surprises occur.

Tina - no offence, but somehow your MNet name doesn't help with your predicament. Sorry that you're in such a difficult place; you clearly do love your DH a huge amount so I think really really try to keep the respect thing going, otherwise things could backfire soooo badly.

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talcy0 · 19/06/2007 00:20


Jules.....enjoy trying
and i will keep everything crossed for you xxxx
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AbRoller · 19/06/2007 00:22

thanks jules.

best of luck to you both

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Sossy · 19/06/2007 00:23

Goodluck I hope you have another baby!

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AbRoller · 19/06/2007 00:25

thank you talcy, I needed that. I felt so rotten.

Jules understands though so not so bad now.

I'm gonna head to bed.
Night all

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talcy0 · 19/06/2007 00:25

night

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talcy0 · 19/06/2007 00:28

Tina...i hope you get your wish too

Tell him youve had coil removed....wait a while....then sweet talk him.

Best of luck to you x

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wurlywurly · 19/06/2007 08:24

when you get pregant how are yougoing to explain that you already had the coil removed. Are you just gonna tell him that it fell out?? sorry but i do think this is very decieving of you. how would you feel if it was the other way around eg dh said he had the snip, was a lie and you got pregnant after agreeing no more children. Just hope you have a strong enough relationship to pull through this.

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ELF1981 · 19/06/2007 09:05

YABU, sorry

Before I had DD, DH was far more eager to have a child than I was. I wanted a baby, but not at the same time he did, so he waited for me to be ready.

If I thought for one second that he'd been pricking holes into condoms to hurry the situation along, I think all the trust between us would have gone.

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lou33 · 19/06/2007 09:05

you really do need to tell him, at least then he has a choice in whether or not he uses contraception

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Wotz · 19/06/2007 09:14

It is a good point to consider, as others have said, that by taking the coil out, will lead to an open and hopefully honest discussion on may issues. Good luck and I hope you feel brighter this morning.

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