AIBU to not wear panty liners every day?

[Sammysees]

Tbh this is a complete new one for me. Was having a conversation with a friend yesterday who wears panty liners every day and has done since she was 15. I’d never heard of this before and told her so. She told me I was a manky minge and that everybody wore them. Is this true? Thoughts please ....

This thread is so weird

People don’t use them for fun . They do not use them because of marketing spiel

They use them because unfortunately they have to

If someone can locate me a pure cotton washable option I’d be a happy woman !

But the ones I got were synthetic which is a NO for my rather candida prone nether regions

"People don’t use them for fun . They do not use them because of marketing spiel"

So why do you think the marketing spiel exists? Seriously-when I was a young woman there was no such thing as panty liners. For some of us some of the time they would have been a good and useful thing. But we have gone from not existing to many women wearing them every day automatically whether they need to or not in 20 years. Why do you think that is?

@stopfuckingshoutingatme - there are plenty of cotton washable options. Look on Etsy or, if you want to make them yourself, look on YouTube/Pinterest.

I am 49 years old & extremely lucky that the menopause passed me by many years ago. I think of ‘wearing panty liners’ as if they are needed in case a little amount of wee comes out when laughing or coughing or at the very end of a period. No I do not think panty liners are designed to be worn every day, that’s what underwear is for & showering/bathing everyday or very regularly would kill the need to feel you need to wear one to feel fresh. I bet this friend has spent thousands over the years on this strange routine. You are not the abnormal one for disagreeing, she is. Sounds like she is terrified of her vagina being sweaty or smelling, these smells are female pheromones which are secreted to attract the opposite sex so she is playing with human nature i’m aftaud

EspressoButler what is LS?

We didn't have other things years ago either but that doesn't mean there wasn't a need for them

Remember disposable panties? They were made of paper like J cloths.

We did have those back then, but we didn't really need them. I seem to remember they could fall to bits.

@Herladyships

Rtft

If you do, you’ll read posts from posters who soak through knickers, bleed every day etc etc. It’s not about smells, it’s about comfort.

I personally like to wear one most days to feel extra clean & keep my knickers clean, still change my knickers twice a day though !!

I do not think panty liners are designed to be worn every day, that’s what underwear is for & showering/bathing everyday or very regularly would kill the need to feel you need to wear one to feel fresh. I bet this friend has spent thousands over the years on this strange routine. You are not the abnormal one for disagreeing, she is.
Wow. What a lovely comment

herladyships “spent thousands”? It’s less than a pound for a box of 30

I wear them occasionally but definitely not daily

I shall head to Etsy
Look I mooncup people !
But I also piss myself sadly hence my Tena slim

Do bidets still exist anywhere except France!?

Yes. I can vouch for Spain and Portugal.

I wear them daily. I’ve always had excessive discharge. When I was a teen I used loo roll until I discovered liners. They changed my life. I’ve had the discharge checked by a GP and have no issues. I never get any issues like thrush down there. Indont smell. I shower daily. They aren’t costly. £1 lasts me a month for the carefree ones.

If one more person suggests they’re used to avoid having to shower I’m going to delete my MN account!!!! When you’re sometimes walking around with wet trousers, what would you do???

Some ladies NEED them, some don’t. Really, really simple 🤦🏽‍♀️

lweji In Italy too.

Plus most of the middle east/many Asian/Muslim majority countries use a shower attachment on the toilet which has the same purpose, and in east Asia there are built in bidet things in many toilet seats (like a spray). It originated in Japan and has many fancy settings like arse warming, arse spraying, fanny spraying and also arse drying. Some even play a merry tune so no one has to hear your revolting human functions. Hard to leave the bathroom in winter tbh.

pandora Thanks for your implied pitty over “ cultural pressure to wear the hijab”, but I assure you that it is not needed. And frankly offensive to my brains as I don’t need anyone to feel sorry for me when I’m happy with what I decided, Be it man or woman.

Please don’t use us as an excuse to enforce a point about how to tackle your genital hygiene, because thats Rediculously pathetic.

Now back to the main OP.

Might not be hard now to understand why :

• I wash with water after every toilet session
• use a washable cotton pad at times when needed (not always).
• yes clean shaven (it’s also part of our religion be it man or woman).

I find without those above steps I wouldn’t be comfortable and to be frank I don’t know how to feels like because I haven’t tried for a whole day. But for times when I didn’t have water to access I wasn’t comfortable if I’m honest.

So I do think this personal hygiene standard thing can be quite subjective.

I wouldn’t impose it on anyone, and wouldn’t “pitty” anyone that doesn’t do that. I have better ways in my life to gain confidence aside from appearing kind by putting other people’s intellect down.

Italians are obsessed with bidets and toilet hygiene in general. Even the tiniest bathroom will have one. And even in small supermarkets, there is a bewildering variety of 'intimate hygiene' products on offer.

I think you've misunderstood me ILoveHumanity. I don't have any strong feelings about the desirability or otherwise of covering one's head.

It's more that it strikes me as very odd that some women are very negative about head covering - and that head hair should be exposed - while also feeling very strongly that it's fresher/nicer/whatever to 'double cover' the genital area.

It's more acknowledging that there are cultural factors which strongly affect our individual sense of what feels right.

I hope that helps.

@ILoveHumanity - interested to know where in any religious text is says you must shave your pubic area. Cultural or climate related reasons, I can see. I'm not familiar enough with any religious text which says you need to do this.

Yes, I didn't realise that any religion says that followers should have clean shaven pubic areas. What religion is that?

If people use a bidet do they dry their bottom with toilet paper or a towel afterwards?

Italian bathrooms usually come equipped with a special 'bum towel' for the purpose of drying yourself off after bidet use. I have heard a few horror stories about dumb foreigners inadvertently using them as hand towels... bletch!

When I'm staying in Italian hotels I do like to use the bidet - I think they're a great invention! - but I never use the bum towels provided. Why would I use a towel which has dried off countless unknown bums when I can use some toilet paper instead?