AIBU to not wear panty liners every day?

[Sammysees]

Tbh this is a complete new one for me. Was having a conversation with a friend yesterday who wears panty liners every day and has done since she was 15. I’d never heard of this before and told her so. She told me I was a manky minge and that everybody wore them. Is this true? Thoughts please ....

Crikey. This thread has really brought out the worst in people. I’ve certainly learnt a thing or two. I admit I was ignorant about the different levels of discharge/mucus/fluid that women secrete. I’ve never had to wear a liner but as a friend said everybody wore them I thought I would ask. It’s not something you can do a survey on in real life is it? Thank you for your opinions/views. I now know that I’m not abnormal

Oh dear this thread has gone a bit far... actually I am thinking of getting some. Which are the softest?

that is not what that poster meant. They said there is no need if you wash and wear clean pants. Not that wearers are smelly therefore they wear liners.

I’m not sure what you mean - I never thought they were suggesting people are smelly therefore wear liners.

Numerous posters have said that there’s no need for pantyliners if you change your pants and shower daily. I (and many other people on this thread) have interpreted that as a suggestion that women who wear pantyliners don’t have good personal hygiene. Because of course showering and wearing fresh underwear will prevent your vagina from producing discharge during ovulation

what a daft thing to do!

We all have different bodies

We all have different preferences for all sorts of things

It seems rather narrow minded to deem someone else's preference as daft just because it's not the same as yours

Thank you for your opinions/views. I now know that I’m not abnormal smile
Both you and yourfriend are both normal op!

@mrmeseeks ... yes we are ALL normal.

I never wear knickers/pants - just use a good quality deodorant - I can't stand being clammy. Your body, your fanny, your choice.

I only wear them as a protective layer when wearing a tampon. Every day? What a waste of money & how detrimental to the environment.

"What’s funny is that all these ‘feminist’ replies about pantyliners being unnecessary actually come across as extremely misogynistic towards women who do have a genuine need for them."

I've had to argue my case on here for years, about wearing daily liners.

Most of the comments telling me that I was mistaken about my own body, were from Posters from the Feminist Board. The irony was always lost on them.

" Women who are scared of their own vaginas"

I've always enjoyed my level of wetness (so have many others) , but there's a time and place for everything.

The friend os not normal imo, she called Op a manky minge! She's just rude!

I’ve called her worse

"What a waste of money & how detrimental to the environment."

So is Coffee bought from a shop, likewise cheap chocolate. Liners now are biodegradable and we all have the right to decide what we spend our money on.

My other half is quite grabby in that area (in a good way, not a pushy way!) and I can’t imagine doing the washing up or making a cup of tea and having his hands dip down into my knickers for a quick feel being quite so sexy if he has to rustle past a panty liner to get to the finish post! Then again I have been thinking of using one to hide the occasional camel toe when I wear particularly tight jeans or gym leggings... maybe I should try it out! I might like it and end up making it a permanent fixture that my OH with have to get used to 🤭🤔

@MuffyMcMoist ... I could have written what you did, almost word for word. Right down to the loo paper bit and yeah, 40 years ago pre internet, as a young teen in the late 70s the problem page of 'Jackie' really didn't offer me much reassurance.

Except the thrush part. I have had thrush 2 or 3 times - which is how I know my usual discharge is most definitely NOT thrush, as some have suggested. Because that looks different, and is sore and itchy, and this isn't.

Like you, I went through years of worry and 'shame' inevitably thinking something was wrong with me. And similarly, eventually finding a product which was seemingly designed for this issue also made me realise I couldn't possibly be the only one and therefore made me feel so much better about myself - despite this being an issue completely outside my control due to not possessing an internal tap I could switch off at will.

This thread has been one of the most frustrating I've ever contributed to here, and I'm very saddened by the unnecessary and insensitive sniping it's provoked. At the same time, I've loved the frank confessions from women who are telling it like it is for those with enough discharge to be uncomfortable, soak through into outer clothes etc. because we should be talking about stuff like this matter of factly. 'We' may be in the minority, we may be at the far end of the 'normal' scale of vaginal secretions but, with medical causes ruled out, we are still bloody well normal !!!

What a waste of money & how detrimental to the environment.

I don't have a car

I don't take foreign holidays

Not having children (not by choice, I'm infertile) has a massive impact on the environment

But obvs none of that matters because pantliners

I couldn't put a deodorant up my chuff not even a good quality one I'd be rushing to the GP for a sore fanny and an infection I also wouldn't wear trousers without knickers as the middle seam would give me chuff scuff

I wear one when working as I often don't have time to go to the toilet for hours (nurse), am often bursting by the time I do get to the toilet and can leak a little as a result. So I can change the liner a lot more easily than my knickers and trousers, which I would have to do without the liner.

Those who say they have dry pants at the end of the day (or at least not wet enough to change them) when you wipe (after a pee) is there ever mucus on the paper?
If you have sex what happens to the semen? Doesn’t gravity make it seep out?

A bit like the bath water retention- I always assumed the dry pants folks’ discharge just stayed up til dislodged by pee or wiping, whereas others foofs just didn’t hold it.

Basic body biology surely?

Never worn them!! just a clean pair of knickers each morning!! Never worn knickers in bed except period days then wore a pair!! Panty liners just more money and more waste being dump in land fill!

@Nanalisa60 Be a dear and either RTFT or jog on 😘

Muffy if that's a name change for this thread, I love it!

It's not a name change. I just registered because I came out of lurking, because I wanted to have a say. However, I chose it carefully :)

I think I might have a moderate damp minge problem,
What can I say?

I'm so envious of these young and lithe shaven dry minged folks.
Whose tiny knickers can cope with their neat little perfect labia from whence no normal female fluid could exude.

In the real world. They are all struggling to deal with it.
They all seem to think that shaving it will result in it being 'cleaner'

Ok, whatever. The unwanted vaginal fluid will still keep on keeping on.
They'll encounter it in the years to come. Then they might think back to this thread.

"I just shower every day, and put on clean knickers. That should work for everybody!" "I DON'T SEE A PROBLEM,

"Why would anybody need panty liners? All you need to do is have a shower every day"

"Just carry some extra knickers around with you so you can change when you get damp"

"Just wear cotton knickers with a reinforced gusset!" It works for me!!

Clue: We don't want to do that. Extra knickers have not worked. Cotton knickers have not worked. There are those of us for whom
the normality of wearing normal knickers does not work for us.

Our perfectly normal fluid output from our vaginas cannot be contained by a a threefold gusset of cotton knickers over a 12 hour period.

So we've fallen to the call of panty liners. Which has solved a massive problem of the overwashing of jeans and trousers which have been damped by vaginal fluid. Maybe not smelly. But you know it's THERE.

Also the "LANDFILL ALERT" needs more thinking.

It has to be compared to the excessive of washing of the trousers that have been made musty and not fresh. Let's face it, the trousers would probably have been fine. But my dd works with loads of men, She's a systems analyst in a huge company. Mostly (obviously) men.

She is so massively aware of her own personal smell etc that she takes a huge amount of care every morning at 6am. Do the men do that? No they fucking don't. They mostly stink a bit :)

In response to the astonishment expressed by some here that some women feel more comfortable using a pantyliner every day, I would like to point out that we are all mums here, and those of us who pushed big babies out through our foofs are susceptible to a bit of stress incontinence. It's easier to change your pantyliner if you sneeze unexpectedly and leak a little than to change your knickers. Leave her alone.

Also, for those of us who do like a lined panty, some or all of the time, Earthwise Girls sell nice washable pantyliners, so you don't have to worry about the landfill issue. They are quite comfy and discreet, and they come in black so any blood on them is not visible to other members of the household who may use the laundry basket. :)

“That's bonkers, never done this. Absolutely no need for it as long as you wash normally and wear clean pants!”

All sorts of things in life are preference rather than pure necessity.

We have different preferences

What's bonkers is being judgemental about some else's preference just because it doesn't match yours

PortiaCastis Deodorant up your chuff???? That's bound to cause problems. Wearing trousers that are tight will also lead to health problems and lead to being clammy - ughh

What we are talking about is the the commercially motivated belief that all women need them every day

No. We're really not.

That's what you are focussing on But that's not the discussion.