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AIBU to not wear panty liners every day?

905 replies

Sammysees · 07/11/2018 14:21

Tbh this is a complete new one for me. Was having a conversation with a friend yesterday who wears panty liners every day and has done since she was 15. I’d never heard of this before and told her so. She told me I was a manky minge Grin and that everybody wore them. Is this true? Thoughts please ....

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Jellybubbamama0987 · 08/11/2018 19:27

I’ve never heard of this. If my friends do this they’ve never said anything about. I didn’t even know this was a thing. I don’t and wouldn’t but each to their own

ShiftyLookingBadger · 08/11/2018 19:28

I wear them most days, but I get a lot of discharge. When I'm ovulating there's more 'goo' down there than you can wave a pantiliner at.

JanetBrock · 08/11/2018 19:28

This cannot be serious. Bad for your health and that of the planet. I did it a few times as an impressionable teen, got a rash from the plastic, stopped.

ProfessorMoody · 08/11/2018 19:29

@JanetBrock I'm not sure how you managed to write that when you clearly possess no reading skills. Well done 👏

Halo247 · 08/11/2018 19:30

I had 3 natural births in 3 years and never leave the house without a panty liner ... for life’s ‘ooooops’ moments lol xx

PortiaCastis · 08/11/2018 19:32

Janet pads are not bad for your health and a lot of women absolutely do need them please RTFT to find out why

user1490465531 · 08/11/2018 19:37

Any woman that has incontinence issues especially after childbirth which seems a common theme should not have to put up with this as daily life.
This should not be seen as just a consequence of childbirth.

visitorthedog · 08/11/2018 19:40

This cannot be serious. Bad for your health and that of the planet. I did it a few times as an impressionable teen, got a rash from the plastic, stopped.

You know the sticky side goes on your pants?

Annette69 · 08/11/2018 19:44

Can you get panty liners for g-strings ? If I ever need panty liners then I couldn’t cope having to wear big pants.

FaveNumberIs2 · 08/11/2018 19:46

Yes I do. Because I have an over active something or other which means I’m always quite ... juicy ... downstairs. To the point where underwear actually feels wet and uncomfortable.

rabbitmat · 08/11/2018 19:49

If I wear a pad, I find I have to change it at least once day because it starts to smell. If I don't wear one, I can go the whole day without feeling smelly. For that reason I don't often wear one.

parry45 · 08/11/2018 19:49

Annette69, yes you can buy g string ones.
It's personal preference really, or medical reasons etc but for me I need some air down there, wearing a pad for 7 days at the time of the month is bad enough for me. Nice to let it breathe.

dementedpixie · 08/11/2018 19:51

You can get thong liners

JanetBrock · 08/11/2018 19:54

😂😂😂😂 OMG they should make that clear on the packaging!

April241 · 08/11/2018 19:54

I commented without reading the thread and having gone back and read about half I’m properly laughing at some of the comments.

Women not understanding that some women are different from them, thinking that those who wears liners don’t wash their pants 😂.

April241 · 08/11/2018 19:55

visitor 😂😂

foxyloxy78 · 08/11/2018 20:00

I have worn everyday since teenager. The liner catches the discharge and keeps you fresh. If not, your clothes would stink as would your knickers. Nothing worse than a stinky crutch area!!!

Cambalamb · 08/11/2018 20:05

The liner catches the discharge and keeps you fresh. If not, your clothes would stink as would your knickers. Nothing worse than a stinky crutch area!!!
How very dare you!! My clothes don't stink due to not wearing apanty liner. If you shower daily and wear clean underwear , it is NOT dirty to only wear knickers! If you have excess discharge, it makes sense but if not, it doesn't so stop insulting people.

foxyloxy78 · 08/11/2018 20:10

Haha whatever camba

LeatherSuitcase · 08/11/2018 20:10

I haven't RFT so maybe this has already been covered, but what happens in, er, intimate situations if you wear panty liners all the time? Hardly very sexy for someone to whip off yer pants and see a big white rectangle staring up at them...

Lweji · 08/11/2018 20:10

Any woman that has incontinence issues especially after childbirth which seems a common theme should not have to put up with this as daily life.
This should not be seen as just a consequence of childbirth.

Well, yes, it shouldn't.

Now what? Petition? Demonstration?

More seriously, pelvic floor exercises help but don't fully fix it, surgery can go wrong.
It's great to say don't put up with it, what are the actual solutions?

MuffyMcMoist · 08/11/2018 20:11

I've been watching this thread with interest, and now feel that perhaps I might throw in my three penn'orth..

I'm a year or so post menopause, but my experience as a teen and young woman have come back clearly to me, and all the faff and bother that constant moistness can inflict on daily life.
I found that, in my teens, my knickers and trousers were in a constant state of dampness in the crotch area. Not a copious amount of constantly flowing fluid - but after a few hours at school or work, I was uncomfortably damp crotched. Taking a clean pair of knickers to work with me didn't help much because the trousers had already been damped on. So I was putting on dry knicks, but the outside trousers were still damping them from the outside while they continued getting damped from the inside. It simply didn't work.

I felt a bit as if there must be something wrong with me. Nobody else seemed to have this problem, or at least it wasn't a 'thing' that anybody talked about. It was embarrassing and demoralising. I took to folding up toilet paper to place in the gusset of my pants to keep my knickers dry. It wasn't ideal because toilet paper isn't really up to the job, it shreds, and occasionally became displaced and started to slide down the inside of my tights or trousers, which involved a slow hobble to the ladies to put myself to rights. This was 40 years ago.

Imagine my joy when in latter years somebody invented panty liners!!
a) It was the absolute ideal answer to my problems! It stuck to your
knicks and wouldn't slide down inside your trousers!

b) But most importantly, it was a subliminal message to me that other women needed them as well. I wasn't alone. It was a proper acknowledged woman problem, and there was more than one of me, and that it had finally been recognised. Consequently, I didn't feel different or abnormal any more. Didn't have to keep nipping to the loo to make sure the folded up toilet paper was in fair condition and not halfway down my tights. I know now that there were probably lots of other women struggling with the same problem. But nobody said so, or talked about it.

For the record. I don't have copious amounts of discharge every minute of the day. It's more of a slow but relentless build up over hours. Since my teens and the advent of panty liners and having had children, I've consulted doctors about it, who've told me that all my tests are normal and that perhaps wearing a panty liner might help
with the dampness and that my vaginal excretions are perfectly normal. I've made it through my teens all the way to the menopause without once ever having the dreaded THRUSH. I have never in my life had thrush. I could say that that panty liners don't cause thrush because I've used them for 25 years and never had thrush. But maybe I'm just thrush resistant. Maybe some people get thrush at the drop of a hat.

I'm also a knicker bleacher. All my black knicks are bleached at the gusset.

Also!! For the NHS nurse bod who says that she's never encountered this level of discharge. Why would you? Women coming for a smear or a scan would have had a shower and clean pants in the hour or two previous! They are coming for a health check regarding the possibility of having cervical cancer! They naturally want to present as clean. There is never any discussion of vaginal discharge.
Why would they engage you in that sort of conversation?
I've been for several, and that just doesn't happen.
They are checking if you might have cervical cancer. The appointments are 10 minutes apart. They want to get you through the process as fast as poss Quite rightly so.

I have my doubts that somebody going for a cervical smear would engage in a conversation with the medical staff about her problems with having copious amounts of vaginal discharge.

To the nurse in question. Of COURSE you have not come across this problem. Your patient chose not to tell you about it.

Everyoneiswingingit · 08/11/2018 20:12

Presumably leather they'd rather that than for their partner to realise they have....shock....horror....normal bodily fluids!!! Shock

SinisterBumFacedCat · 08/11/2018 20:13

Really odd that some people just can't compute that women have bodies behave differently.

We are not using liners from necessity apparently, we are silly girls who have been marketed to by the man. Why don't we all stop wearing sanitary products altogether a free bleed? It'll be expensive in washing and clothes but at least we won't be falling for marketing ploys. For that matter why do men shave? Why don't they stop buying razors and all go beardy? Of course men don't ever get that thrown at them as a guilt trip though do they?

Maybe advertising should be more honed and say it's for discharge, not "freshness".

Some people have have excess discharge, why is it such s huge leap of the imagination for others to understand that? Well done Prof on trying to explain it but there are just some people on here who do not have the imagination to picture a life experience different to their own.

DaphneduWarrior · 08/11/2018 20:14

Just wanted to say thank you to @ProfessorMoody and @catsmother for having the patience to keep pointing out the same things again and again and again. I agree with everything you’ve both written.

I’ve had to wear pantyliners every day since I was about 13 - that’s almost 30 years. If I don’t, I leave stains on my clothes, on chairs etc.

No, it’s not sweat. It’s not wee. And I don’t have any kind of infection, thanks.

And yes, I change my underwear at least once a day and I shower every day.

So everyone with the judgemental comments can FUCK THE FUCK OFF. It was hideously embarrassing as a teenager to realise not everyone experienced this - I’m not going to let you make me feel ashamed of a perfectly normal bodily function.

So once more for the hard of thinking: just because you’ve never experienced it, doesn’t mean it isn’t real.