AIBU to not wear panty liners every day?

[Sammysees]

Tbh this is a complete new one for me. Was having a conversation with a friend yesterday who wears panty liners every day and has done since she was 15. I’d never heard of this before and told her so. She told me I was a manky minge and that everybody wore them. Is this true? Thoughts please ....

Agreed. The people who wear panty liners daily WEAR CLEAN KNICKERS DAILY TOO!!

And they wash them like normal people do but not every night BECAUSE they have more than a week’s supply.

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“...are no” as opposed to “is no”.

sigh

I have neither worn nor bought a panty liner in my life!

The OP wasn't upset and accused her friend of being incontinent before she was caked a manky minge

The conversation only came up as we were in tescos together when she bulk bought some. I took the piss out of her incontinence and she called me a manky minge. All in good humour

As a specialist nurse who has performed lots of smears and vaginal swabs on hundreds of women I'd urge all of you (except if pregnant) that have so much discharge you need a liner every day to get checked out by your GP/Practice Nurse/GUM Clinic as it's not usual to have so much discharge. One GP I worked with cursed Femfresh as a major cause of bacterial vaginiosis and we advised women not to use anything scented on their vulva.

On a personal level it makes spontaneous sex rather unsexy if on removing your knickers there's a panty liner in all its glory 

Ah a voice of reason. I didn't think it was normal

I do sometimes when I have a cough . Before my three kids I already had a weak bladder so it's really crap now. Not every day though!!

( oh and I'm on my own and not had any activity for 3 + years)

Does she know her pants are washable? Maybe that's where she's going wrong...

landfill ?

perverseconverse I have been checked, as others have also said. My GP found nothing untoward and advised it was normal, and a nurse who did my smear test said the same. Quite surprised by your comments. I don’t actually wear one every day, but 3 weeks out of 4 generally.

As for spontaneous sex, would you prefer a pantyliner or stained knickers? I have to either use the bathroom first, or just take my own underwear off and discretely put it on the floor folded out of sight.

masterandmargarita so one anonymous person who says they’re a specialist nurse (could be, might not) gives their opinion and suddenly I and many others are unreasonable and abnormal? Lovely.

Firstly I’m not a man (you should see my boobs - enormous!) and secondly I was only asking because I have never used pads except for menstruation and it was quite a shock to me that someone would every day. It’s not something that is usually brought up in conversation is it? I didn’t know if this was a common practice or not - which is why I asked you lot. I didn’t want to canvass all my friends asking them and an anonymous thread seemed like a good idea at the time. Thirdly I’m not upset with my friend telling me I have a manky minge. It was all very lighthearted - we take the piss out of each other a lot. Thank you everyone for your opinions. It’s been .... interesting

I can’t bear the word ‘panty’ so wouldn’t be able to bring myself to buy them 😖

Well I do but it's because I walk my dogs for a couple of hours a day and invariably have to pee behind a tree. So i have a choice between drip dry, tissues (what do I do with them?) or panty liner which I change when i get home. Also, the cough, laugh, sneeze problem

And you can smell those scented ones on other women.The perfume that is used is getting stronger,you don't have to get your nose near a packet to tell if they are scented and I'm now noticing the same smell in our work changing room.

I started doing this when I had an implant and my periods became totally unpredictable. I now no longer have periods but a couple of years ago invested in cotton washable liners and love them/ wear them daily.

I just think what some women class as excessive discharge is classed as normal by others. sing- I assumed all women get a stain in their knickers from normal discharge- I do- but don' think it warrants a pantyliner. DH understands that a discharge is normal- in fact he thinks it's because he's turned me on so much if there is small wet patch when I remove them before sex.

vdb Where do you get your cotton washable liners from please?

I do wear them every day. Alongside a multitude of other more serious health issues, I have bladder incontinence from birth damage. It's literally the least of my worries, so I just deal with it by wearing liners.

I don't. If it came to it. I'd rather change my knickers than put multiple liners into landfill.

@SingaporeSlinky if both a nurse and a GP have said your discharge is normal then it must be your perception of what is normal is skewed. After all we don't go round comparing discharge do we so how do we know what is normal? Well, you get it checked by a doctor or nurse who specialises in these things and take their advice. There seems to be a lot of anxiety from women around their discharge and how they smell and this is easily manipulated into getting them to buy unnecessary products.

Incontinence issues are completely separate from discharge issues.

Please stop thinking of your natural bodily secretions as abnormal or dirty or in any way negative.

You have vaginal secretions because otherwise you'd squeak when you walk!

I don't wear them. Often I think mid cycle maybe I should. But in reality I don't find my 'smell' offensive and neither does my husband. I'm clean and I was and it's my natural scent. No reason to wear a liner

Never do. Madness. The companies who make them if course want you to.

Wow, really? Surely that can't be good for you? I'd have thought the lack of airing would make you smell more, I always feel eeeww after wearing them....

I do. But I wee a little bit every time I run, cough, laugh, sneeze.