AIBU to not wear panty liners every day?

[Sammysees]

Tbh this is a complete new one for me. Was having a conversation with a friend yesterday who wears panty liners every day and has done since she was 15. I’d never heard of this before and told her so. She told me I was a manky minge and that everybody wore them. Is this true? Thoughts please ....

I shall assume that all those concerned with the environmental impact of pantyliner use have chosen not to have children.

Nope, no way. I'd get a horribly sweaty fanny. Cotton knickers, changed frequently, shower in the morning, quick wash down before bed.

There could be a man behind this post wanking off for all we know

...and that matters why?

Even if I wanted to wear them daily I can’t. I have THE most uncooperative foof known to mankind! It scrunches them up and spits them out. I’ve tried a couple of washables, but they twist around.

I have to buy (unscented) pads with wings then make sure the wings are sticking to each other, and wear leggings or shirtie leggings, it’s the only hope I have to keep them in place. It’s enough faff when I have my period, so I’m incredibly grateful not to need them all the time.

thewisewomansfear every day for 60 years? Have you studied basic biology? An average woman would start a period maybe 12 and end around 55 let’s say. I didn’t wear them from my first period, only started in my late teens when I noticed a heavy discharge, and even now it’s not necessarily every day. The first week after a period I tend to have no discharge, but then it can be heavy right up until my period.

And I ask again, if a woman is entitled to wear disposable sanitary products for periods, or incontinence pads, why should this be any different? Lots of us have given explanations of why we need them.

Much better to wear washable liners. They are so much more comfortable too. I can not imagine what state my skin would be in if wearing disposable liners every day. They do 'draw' you as previous poster said. They have lots of horrid chemicals and nasties in them.

I thought that's what knickers were for. Bonkers!

I think some women need to wear them, as witnessed by this thread, others like myself don't, as there is no discharge issues so no requirement. I really think it's best not to judge.

@SingaporeSlinky that's why so many of us use the mooncup. For stains you can separate washing or soak it.
You don't have to do either of these things but there's also no need say it's insulting for people to be shocked by daily liner use when so many women don't have extra medical issues, but have been sold a (very profitable) idea that something is wrong with them.

@SingaporeSlinky it's more like saying use a moo cup or reusable pad than saying bleed through your pants.

I was naive before this thread and genuinely didn't know that women would be so different in terms of discharge - I always thought pads were just for periods or incontinence. Now I know and there's nothing gross about it.

But, a reusable pad would be better.

Oh, and @XiCi I tend not to walk up to my partner nude before sex, we get naked together so he would be removing the pad/pants although, thinking about it I doubt he would really care - it was just the first thing that came to mind. I clearly meant for play and not some odd padded penetration...

@SingaporeSlinky and many post menopausal women on this thread have said they wear them which is why I said 60 years

Pants are for whimps

stuckforthefourthtime I’m not insulted by people not being aware, but I am insulted by the comments suggesting people that wear them either don’t change their underwear daily, don’t wash daily, or comments like ‘yuk’. And FYI it’s not an ‘extra medical issue’ it’s a normal bodily function, just some have more discharge than others. Those of us using them are not freaks of nature! No one has told me I have something wrong with me at all, how ridiculous. I didn’t like walking around with wet knickers and found that the supermarkets had a product that could help me, so I bought it.

Blessed are those with arid gussets. There are several valid reasons for using a pant liner. Nobody uses them instead of washing their fanny and pants.

I had to use them during pregnancies. It wasn't weird or pointless, it stopped me having to change my knickers at work.

thewisewomansfear I’m sure a lot of women have hormonal changes throughout their lives, so generally wouldn’t need them consistently anyway. Some have said they didn’t need them until menopause, others only since pregnancies, we are all different.

Wow professor that was really rude. Why single me out

You can get some v nice comfy washable panty liners. Honour Your Flow is good (though not that cheap) or lots of WAHM do them. Etsy, eBay etc.

RTFT Lethal, you are not being singled out.

Am i the only one that has alway hated the feel of pads and liners crinkling about in your pants?

Can’t stand the things. Ever. Never have.

It would be near torture for me to wear a liner every day. They make me really self conscious and i move around far less.

My mother otoh, does wear them every day. But she has some weird obsession with ladies things (hushed tones). Everything is to do with ladies things. Tired? Maybe your ladies things are leaving you low in iron. Not hungry? Ladies things. Feel like a bar of chocolate? Ladies things. As such panty liners must be worn at all times to protect against ladies things.

I'm surprised that at least two posters have discussed pantyliners with their mothers in law. I just don't know how that conversation would come about 🤔😊

I wear clean knickers each day instead and wash them afterwards

Thanks to the PPs re:bamboo knickers (and Sloggi) - am going to check them out! If they’re as nice as bamboo socks then I’m sold!

I wear clean knickers each day instead and wash them afterwards

Well fucking hell, that's revolutionary.

Some women would be putting on clean knickers several times a day if they weren't using a liner to catch discharge.

AAAAAAAGGGGGGHHHHHH
8 pages in and people are still saying they wash their knickers instead. UN fucking believable

I realise that a lot of women genuinely do need panty liners. However...

The OP asked if everyone wore panty liners, which makes me think that she doesn't have a lot of discharge which would lead her to need one. Rather, one of her friends has expressed disgust that she doesn't use them (when it would appear that she doesn't actually need to) and implied that she is dirty for not doing so. Which OP is finding upsetting. So she's asked if everyone else wears them.

So it's perfectly relevant to the thread to say "well I don't, and what's more I'd end up with an awful case of itchy fanjo if I did." But it's also good to acknowledge that there are women who find them very useful and feel much more comfortable wearing them. Horses for courses.