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AIBU to not wear panty liners every day?

905 replies

Sammysees · 07/11/2018 14:21

Tbh this is a complete new one for me. Was having a conversation with a friend yesterday who wears panty liners every day and has done since she was 15. I’d never heard of this before and told her so. She told me I was a manky minge Grin and that everybody wore them. Is this true? Thoughts please ....

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ProfessorMoody · 07/11/2018 18:15

Ooh now I'm mad too. Cheers, lazymare.

EmpressJewel · 07/11/2018 18:16

I wear pantyliners every day as I have a lot of discharge and they make me feel fresher.

I buy value liners from Morrison's or Tesco so costs under £5 for the year.

Yes, I do feel guilty about the environment, but I do my part in other ways.

BackBoiler · 07/11/2018 18:17

Surely you just get a sweaty manky minge if you wear panty liners every day! Saniyaty towels used to make me heave with that horrid fragrant smell and that was when I needed them!

BackBoiler · 07/11/2018 18:18

Unless you actually need them for discharge of course!

Plessis · 07/11/2018 18:25

I've never noticed a stinky minge unkess I don't wash. Normal vag leakage doesn't smell bad, or it shouldn't. I've never noticed another woman smelling either.

bengalcat · 07/11/2018 18:28

Manky minge - lol - well if she's going to

Ladytramp · 07/11/2018 18:32

sammy She only made the manky minge comment because you taunted her about being incontinent. You do know that don't you. It was a comeback and a pretty good one if I may say so.

Tricycletops · 07/11/2018 18:40

Christ what a lot of judgemental bitches.

bellinisurge · 07/11/2018 18:40

If she's wearing a bit of plastic in her knickers every day, I'm not sure that's particularly hygienic? Reusables, maybe.

ReggieKrayDoYouKnowMyName · 07/11/2018 18:42

I do because I’m very discharge-y. Wasn’t always, started when I was about 25, and I have ever since. I know its bad for the environment but haven’t yet found a better solution, the reusable ones I have don’t seem to do the job so well 🤷‍♀️

Ladytramp · 07/11/2018 18:43

Natracare don't have plastic.

OohAahBird · 07/11/2018 18:44

I did when I was younger, excessive discharge which was perfectly normal but higher than average, since having my 3rd child and hitting 40 my hormones have changed, now it's gone the other way and I don't use them. My eldest however now has the same issue so I invested in washable ones fo her. Its not always convenient or desirable to have to cart around changed underwear, and the anxiety of will i be able to access a loo when I need to change them is also a factor.

We don't tend to discuss what is normal with discharge, periods, we don't tend to discuss with our peers what our private areas look like, often women have no idea of what is normal or not. Its only since the internet we can find out or discuss with anonymity, how many people here discussed discharge with their teenage girl friends
I have never forgotten first discovering Mumsnet and it linked to an art display of women's vulvas and being fascinated by the variety of how they looked and just how different they were and I felt so reassured that it was normal for everyone to be different.

spinningworld · 07/11/2018 18:52

If she needs them then why not.

I don't wear panty liners. but then I don't always wear undies either. Going commando is great Grin

Sammysees · 07/11/2018 18:56

@ladytramp .. it was all in good jest. We rib each other a lot. Neither of us were offended but it did set me thinking if it was normal. And it seems that we are all so different there is no normal.

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namechange1781 · 07/11/2018 18:58

@Sammysees does she not change her underwear daily ?? Kind of gross she feels the need to wear a panty liner EVERY day

SingaporeSlinky · 07/11/2018 19:04

Some really horrible comments, and I didn’t particularly want to divulge my personal habits, but hopefully those with discharge-free lives will learn something from this thread and stop being so judgemental.

It’s not exactly something you talk to friends about. I’ve talked about periods and all the gory details of childbirth, but I just wouldn’t talk about vaginal discharge. I have stress incontinence since having kids, not frequent or heavy enough to warrant Tena lady but having pantyliners has certainly saved me from having wet trousers.

I also have very heavy discharge, for no particular reason, and yes I did check with a GP as a teen because I was so embarrassed and was told it’s perfectly normal, as long as there’s no sudden change or foul smell. But it can be a white stain in the gusset, or actual blobs of clear jelly when I’m ovulating. Useful for conception, but not pleasant in knickers for a few days every month. The moist feeling is horrible, and for those saying ‘what about if you’re getting intimate and there’s a pantyliner there’, well I just take it off in the bathroom first, with the clean knickers underneath. If I had the stains of discharge there, that wouldn’t be very sexy either, so it doesn’t make any difference. Plus, for those saying I should just change my knickers instead of wearing one, I don’t particularly want the stained knickers in the laundry basket for days, not that people rummage through dirty laundry but just in case it was seen. If I can throw away a used liner, it’s more discrete.

If you’ve never had to deal with it, then lucky you, but don’t just make rude comments or suggestions or make out it’s pantyliner wearers causing landfill chaos.

ProfessorMoody · 07/11/2018 19:07

Kind of gross

Fuck off.

PortiaCastis · 07/11/2018 19:09

Nobody's gross stop being bloody over dramatic

MamaLovesMango · 07/11/2018 19:09

Just thinking about it makes my vulva itch....

Pinkprincess1978 · 07/11/2018 19:09

I've started too as my pelvic floor isn't what it was 🙄 but haven't been these last few months as I'm finding it expensive and not great for the environment (I'm planning on looking at washable but initial outlay is putting me off).

MamaLovesMango · 07/11/2018 19:13

Thinking about wearing reusables everyday however doesnt make my vulva itch. That definitely is the way forward. Anything to bring down the sales of those itchy, scented things

ElectricMonkey · 07/11/2018 19:14

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Rayn · 07/11/2018 19:14

Excess discharge is the vagina self cleaning and everyone is different. This discharge is also the culprit for bleaching black knickers.
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Findingdotty · 07/11/2018 19:17

Oh my goodness. This would never have even occurred to me that women do this and it sounds like quite a lot do! Does nobody think of the environment/waste? I’m genuinely shocked actually.

Findingdotty · 07/11/2018 19:23

SingaporeSlinky it’s not necessary judgement just had no idea women were doing this. Also it IS contributing to unnecessary landfill waste. You can’t get away from that. You are contributing to the landfill as you don’t want stained knickers in your dirty washing despite acknowledging that no one will probably see them.
I think overall we (and I include myself in this) have become a generation who expect everything to be clean and dry all the time. That isn’t good for our future environment and generations as far as I understand.