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To think not having a way to play music in your house is weird?

238 replies

ghostbox · 06/11/2018 21:44

Had a playdate with someone recently, got talking about how my ds loves to dance to the moana soundtrack and my friend said "ah that's nice, we don't have any way to play music except through the telly or on my phone"

Surely this is all kinds of wrong. Everyone should have some kind of sound system surely?

It's not cos they can't afford one btw they're just not bothered.

OP posts:
nononsene · 07/11/2018 09:59

We don't really have anything apart from the smart tv or phone. There's a unicorn bluetooth speaker somewhere that belongs to the kids.

We only ever listen to music in the car. We have the radio on at home but it's mostly radio 4.

MoaningSickness · 07/11/2018 10:01

We "only" have our phones (with decent headphones) and our TV (which has a perfectly good built in speaker for our small house - it's fine for parties), and we love music.

people who are just vague and ‘oh I like all types of music really’- I bet you bloody don’t.

I've never come across a musical genre where there isn't something I like. Plenty of dross in every type of music too of course.

People who define themselves by liking only certain 'types' of music (beyond the age of say 14-17) always strike me as narrow minded and a bit dim.

I feel the same way about people who think everyone should have a favourite author. I've loved hundreds of books, for lots of different reasons, books that made me laugh or cry, or think. Of course we don't have stacks of books around the house either (just a couple of kindles with thousands of books on), so you wouldn't see that either.

The only people I know in real life who 'constantly need music' aren't actually listening to it - if you mention something that just happened in the music they look at you blankly because they've been tuning it out. I can't tune music out easily so I only have it on if I actually want to listen to it, rather than ignorable background noise.

bowtieandheels · 07/11/2018 10:05

I'm with you OP, music very important in my house. Many an evening spent dancing like nutters with the kids as they were growing up and spent the other evening with my 12 year old playing alternate tunes, it was a real journey of discovery for both of us. And got to have good speakers for the bass line 

Junkmail · 07/11/2018 10:09

I can’t be fucked with music in the house. The only time I listen to music is in the car. I do a lot of reading and I need silence for that. We do have Alexa but it’s really only my husband who occasionally puts music on that in the mornings. Other than that the only music in the house is when he plays his piano 😂

Growingboys · 07/11/2018 10:58

I am like this about books - I can't understand why people don't read. I suppose I feel snobbish about people who don't read in the same way the OP looks down on people who don't listen to music.

I don't really listen to music as I prefer silence so I can think. If I didn't have such a busy life, I might be more into music, but by the time I get home and get all the chattering children to bed, I want five minutes to clear my head. And then I read!

Plessis · 07/11/2018 11:09

I don't make any judgements about anyone based on books or music. I love reading (although I prefer my kindle and the amount of books in the house is now annoying me!) and I love music. I have friends who love Netflix instead, that's absolutely fine, I love netflix too! In fact one of my best friends never listens to music or reads! She's a great friend.

Sallystyle · 07/11/2018 11:15

I do listen to music through my PC and Alexa often, but the sound quality isn't that great, so I couldn't be without our separates stereo. Although saying that, my son has a wireless mini speaker and that has impressive sound quality for something so cheap and small.

I couldn't be without music. I also love to sit in silence but music moves me so much and helps me through the shit times and makes the good times better.

I could happily not have a TV though, which many people would think is weird.

TheEmmaDilemma · 07/11/2018 11:17

My TV is wired up to a wicked sound system, so I cast music from my phone to that. Don't need anything else downstairs, although we have a juicebar too.

Piano and decks, mixer etc upstairs. But that's his domain and ususually used with wireless headphones.

WithAFaeryHandInHand · 07/11/2018 11:20

The thing with books is that you can reread your books for decades. Most people don’t want, or at least don’t show off about, their decades old sound system. People get sniffy and say “how can you listen to that? You couldn’t really appreciate music if you don’t have a good sound system”. And for a lot of people a good sound system is a new(er) one.

Secondhand books and, (if you're lucky enough to have a decent library), libraries, mean that you don’t have to buy brand new books to read a lot. There’s no one-upmanship on how new your books are.

I would say most people, even fairly green living people, like their gadgets to be new when they buy them. I know that isn’t true of everyone, but ime most people do.

I think it’s something people don’t consider to have an environmental impact in the way they view things like plastic bags and single use coffee cups. But there is an impact.

So, if you get into a pissing competition about who has the most and the best electronics, I think that’s a damaging message.

I have electric gadgets at home myself. Not loads, but a few. So I’m certainly in no position to judge people for having a few gadgets.

But it’s definitely nothing to be proud of if you have loads of them and it’s nothing to be sneered at if people, (like the play date host), don’t. They are to be applauded imo. Well done for not falling for this bullshit that we NEED all the gadgets to make us a bona fide connoisseur of music.

www.onegreenplanet.org/animalsandnature/the-impact-of-gadgets-on-people-and-the-planet/

WithAFaeryHandInHand · 07/11/2018 11:20

I also don’t care if people read or not. I do. Dh doesn’t. Don’t care.

Nedzilla · 07/11/2018 11:36

I sometimes have a bit of music on in the background when cooking, or if we have people over just for evening drinks, but otherwise I find it does annoy me a bit.

If I am at home trying to do something that requires any concentration like work, read, type, research etc. I just loose my train of thought with music on. I could send emails and look up something online for example with music on.

Ginazon · 07/11/2018 11:41

Well done for not falling for this bullshit that we NEED all the gadgets to make us a bona fide connoisseur of music.

The thing is, I’m pretty sure nobody thinks, oh I want to be seen as a bona fide connoisseur of music, I’d better buy loads of gadgets.

For us, it went something along the lines of, our iPod dock is obsolete now we mostly listen to Spotify, how about a Bluetooth/wifi speaker. Those Sonos speakers look good let’s get one. Then six months/a year later, yeah they are good, wouldn’t it be good to have one in the kitchen too? Then another year later, hmm getting a bit bored of just having a radio in the bedroom, let’s splash out and spend DH’s bonus on a third. Isn’t it great how we can have them all playing the same thing as we go around the house, or separate if we want to listen to different things...

It’s got absolutely nothing to do with any pissing contest!

The OP briefly thought her friend was a bit weird for not having speakers set up, but has been put right by plenty of posters who have the same set up. Everyone else is just sharing their experiences, I really don’t understand why it offends you so much.

Plessis · 07/11/2018 11:43

Glad to see music snobbery is alive and well Grin

Not sure what cd players or record players are if they are not gadgets!

Listening to music through bluetooth speakers is fine!

YouWereRight · 07/11/2018 11:54

But your friend does have a way to play music, through her TV.

I'd hazard a guess she has a tablet/laptop/pc she can play music through too.

RomanyRoots · 07/11/2018 11:57

We have a pro sounding system because being a musical family we need good quality.
It's scary how difficult it is to find separates these days though.
If you don't have a good musical ear for quality though, I can understand how a crap speaker and played through a tablet or phone would do.
At the end of the day it's what value you put on good quality.

LoniceraJaponica · 07/11/2018 12:02

Currently listening to Shane MacGowan and the Popes on my laptop through a Bluetooth speaker.

Can anyone recommend a good speaker system for a flat screen TV? The sound bar that came with it keeps cutting out and isn't very good.

Birdsgottafly · 07/11/2018 12:04

"people who are just vague and ‘oh I like all types of music really’- I bet you bloody don’t."

That's why I like YouTube. Music picks me up, so I might play a few songs/tunes for an energy boost. I go between hard core dance and songs from the Musicals, as well as a bit of classical.

I can rember being terrified of the Doctor Who theme and playing the them tune to Black Beauty over and over again, when I was around six. I'm now 51.

It's unusual to feel nothing when listening to music.

I consider my television or laptop good enough to listen to and don't think I need anything else.

I'm sure the neighbours thank me for that.

LoniceraJaponica · 07/11/2018 12:07

"people who are just vague and ‘oh I like all types of music really’- I bet you bloody don’t."

I like many different types of music. I really don't like rap, and am not fond of most jazz or most heavy metal. I dislike "lift music" and "hairdresser music" (I have no idea what station they listen to at every hairdresser I have been to, but the music is samey mindless pap.

RomanyRoots · 07/11/2018 12:27

"people who are just vague and ‘oh I like all types of music really’- I bet you bloody don’t."

I do. There are some styles I prefer to others but there isn't a genre where I would say I don't like anything.
I'm not a huge rock ballad fan, but I love "Don't wanna miss a thing" Aerosmith. I'm not a huge Country and Western fan but think Dolly Parton's "I will Always love You" is far better than Whitney's and hers was brilliant.
I like all styles of Jazz, most styles of opera, most styles of classical.
Not a huge fan of pop music, but every now and then I'll hear something I like.
I think I like all types of music.

keyboardjellyfish · 07/11/2018 12:37

We listen to music all the time. We do have a sound system and a record player but generally play it through the laptop unless it's for a specific reason! So I don't think it's a 'need', no.

Having said that if the sound system had a bluetooth option we'd probably use it a lot more.

Plessis · 07/11/2018 12:41

I definitely like all types of music. I like opera, minimalist, metal, rap, dance, techno, soundtracks, country, jazz, pop music

I'm trying hard to think of a genre I don't like at least something from

Plessis · 07/11/2018 12:42

We are a very musical family and we are happy to listen through bluetooth. Occasionally dh and I grumble about sound quality but not enough to spend a fortune on kit.

GrumpyOldMare · 07/11/2018 12:46

*Loathe parties,I've never given one.Dinner is usually a sandwich eaten on the run

Is this one of those joke mn responses?*

Eh? No joke.I don't understand your response.
I hate parties,I honestly have never given one.
Dinner is eaten at between 12 and 2pm in my house or at work. Hence the sandwich reference.

EerieSilence · 07/11/2018 12:48

Laptop, tablet, phone. Nothing else. We don't spend so much time at home to be bothered buying a hi-fi or whatever else is out there.
When cooking etc. I just use the tablet. I use it for my pressure cooker too so it's doing two jobs at once.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 07/11/2018 13:44

Well! All of that must make me an arrogant, aggressive, audiophile, muso, wasteful pillock!

I have a record shops worth of vinyl, similar amount on CD and have never streamed music.

We have 2 iPod Classics, 160G to carry it all round in. So that does the car.

A radio, solar powered.

2 great soudingpod docks, 1 small TV with pod dock and decent enough speakers

An actual, old fashioned sound system! Large speakers that cost a fortune, expensive record deck (and another one that digitises too), CD player and per amp/amp.

I can't imagine a house that doesn't have the capacity to play high quality, loud music every now and then! I didn't know that was an unusual opinion!

I shall consider myself suitably chastised!

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