To think not having a way to play music in your house is weird?

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Had a playdate with someone recently, got talking about how my ds loves to dance to the moana soundtrack and my friend said "ah that's nice, we don't have any way to play music except through the telly or on my phone"

Surely this is all kinds of wrong. Everyone should have some kind of sound system surely?

It's not cos they can't afford one btw they're just not bothered.

I don't have any way to play music and I dont listen to music in the car either. I prefer silence. My friend cannot bear the silence and always has headphones on or loud music in the car. Personally I think that's a bit weird that she can't enjoy the silence but then she says she gets carried away by her thoughts when it's silent and doesn't like it. For me there's nothing better. I guess we're all different.

@WithAFaeryHandInHand I love music, loads of different music, mostly loud. I like being able to play it whenever I like. I can't bear to get rid of my cds even though I don't use them.

I'm definitely not "trying" to be a cool muso. I just like music...live is best!

I don't even consider myself to be cool. I just like what I like.

Having said that me and my husband can be quite snobby about "cool muso's" but we see them as people who listen to music because someone told them it's cool. Rather than just loving music.

Fair enough troll. So you wouldn’t for example, walk into someone’s house and think “how do they manage without something to play music on”?

Or sorry “it’s weird they don’t have something to play music on”. A la op.

a tv and a phone are perfectly good ways to play music - we have spotify on our smart tv and bluetooth speakers for the dds phones. I have digital radio on the tv in the kitchen and bedroom and a bluetooth connector in my car that my phone connects to (spotify).

My dds are constantly listening to music, I listen to a lot and always have, but I increasingly prefer audiobooks and podcasts.

So you wouldn’t for example, walk into someone’s house and think “how do they manage without something to play music on”?

What’s wrong with thinking that? It was something that surprised the OP, so she came on to MN to ask about it, and has learnt a bit more about how people are different. That’s what’s great about MN.

I suppose I was trying to explore why some people can’t understand the point of music, and some people can’t live without

In my case it’s two things, one being that music has never inspired any sort of emotions in me. I’ve never heard a piece of music that’s made me sad or happy or given me chills! I’ve never liked dancing so music doesn’t make me want to jump around! It is as inconsequential to me as football or modern art!

Secondly, and this has been as I’ve got older, it’s gone from doing nothing for me to actively annoying me because it’s every where. Shops, restaurants, annoying neighbours playing it! I hate going out with friends and not being able to hear what they’re saying over the background noise. Some really busy places hurt my ears now and I avoid them. So my home is a peaceful sanctuary (neighbours aside!) and music feels like a pollution of sorts.

Oh, I feel so old fashioned now! I have a radio in practically every room in the house, usually tuned to our local radio station, a mixture of music and chat. Radio is on all day, till early evening, cannot bear silence. Also have radio/CD player in sitting room and a machine that DH loaded all our CDs onto. Have an Alexa, but never use it.

What about when you have guests over for a party or dinner or whatever? Don't you play music?

Loathe parties,I've never given one.Dinner is usually a sandwich eaten on the run.

We have decent speakers in every room, and an amplifier for each floor (of our medium sized terraced house). Life without music or on bad speakers is no life at all to us! Admittedly we met at a music festival and a love of music is the main thing we have in common.

One of our first questions when buying our house is 'do the neighbours complain about noise'? They don't, and we all get along with each others idiosyncrasies fortunately.

We play music for parties through either spotify on the tv, or through a docking speaker and a phone.

Used to have a massive Bose soundsystem but it was ugly and huge, so its in the attic with all the CDs!

@ginazon

I’ve already explained why I find this thread and some of the posts decidedly . If you still don’t get my point, maybe re-read my posts with an open mind, instead of clutching your pearls at my alleged “aggression”.

Other than that, we’ll have to leave it there I think .

DC has a little CD/radio player in her bedroom, terrible quality sound but good enough for a 5 year old.

Apart from that, nothing really. I don't think Hi-Fi's are sold anymore are they? gone the way of digital cameras and Sat Navs - they just aren't need with smart phones anymore. All you need is a blue tooth speaker or a decent TV.

I think I only really deliberately play music once a year. In December. When the Christmas tunes go on repeat. I will occasionally listen to Podcasts while I'm cleaning but after a while, the noise just annoys me and I have to turn it off.

Don't listen to music in the car, and rarely have the radio on at work. I don't understand people who go about their day constantly plugged into headphones!

Despite this, we do have a bluetooth soundbar on the tv, an ancient cd/radio/cassette(!) player in the hallway (not used for 2+ years), and DP has all his decks, turntables and huge Mackie speakers upstairs. (We have totally different tastes in music so he occasionally listens to music but only when I'm out).

Loathe parties,I've never given one.Dinner is usually a sandwich eaten on the run

Is this one of those joke mn responses?

’ve already explained why I find this thread and some of the posts decidedly . If you still don’t get my point, maybe re-read my posts with an open mind, instead of clutching your pearls at my alleged “aggression”.

You've made a lot of assumptions though, liking music does not make me a "muso". I also don't find having a speaker in my living room and kitchen wasteful, it brings me joy, how can that be a waste? It gets used every day. Is that wastful?

You sound like the snobby one tbh

In my case it’s two things, one being that music has never inspired any sort of emotions in me. I’ve never heard a piece of music that’s made me sad or happy or given me chills! I’ve never liked dancing so music doesn’t make me want to jump around!

This is what’s so interesting! I don’t tend to have an emotional response to music. I select music to reflect or match how I’m feeling, but I wouldn’t be cheered up by a happy tune if I was feeling down.

But I have a very physical response to music, it makes me move.

Although, I just realised that I can be completely emotionally manipulated by film scores, so the no emotional response to music is probably not true...

I have an intense emotional response to music, so intense I have to limit where and how I listen. Certain chords can make me cry spontaneously!

Loathe parties,I've never given one.Dinner is usually a sandwich eaten on the run

I've never given a party either, although I do have a 'proper' dinner!

I've got a Bose Wave for CDs and to play vinyl and Bose Soundtouch in the living room and bedroom. DH isn't bothered by music but I love it and usually have something on. Handy for drowning out next door's dog as well!

Other than that, we’ll have to leave it there I think

Ok, fine with me

I have the TV too. I have a smart TV so Spotify and YouTube can play through that. That's how I listen to music. No need for a separate sound system.

I think it's quite a cheap insult to call someone wasteful for having a speaker to play music on. Is it wasteful to have a bed to sleep on? How dare I enjoy sleep.
Wasteful to have a kitchen? How dare I enjoy cooking.

What brings you joy in life?

Meh I don't listen to music, I find it properly irritating. Music lovers love it when I drive

Don't know what changed to because I used to be a musician playing various instruments.

Op, have you actually read my posts? You call me snobby because...? And then you say I said someone having one speaker to play music on is wasteful. I did not say that.

Could you read my posts again please before you get defensive?