To think daughter is ungrateful/expects too much

[Pompom42]

Have a teenage daughter she's 13.
She currently shares a bedroom with her younger sister. The younger sister is 3 but isn't really sleeping in there atm she still sleeps in my room with me.
We have a 2 bed bungalow which is not tiny but not large either. But we are all on the one floor so I appreciate we do get in each other's way at times.
Just recently she keeps saying to me "wish I didn't have to share a room with my sister".
Whilst it isn't ideal as I said youngest isn't sleeping in there. It's a nice room and was all decorated and new beds etc 2 years ago.
Now she's started saying "this house is tiny, when can we move?"
"All my friends houses are bigger, this house is really really tiny compared to theres"
I've said to her tonight I can't afford anything else. We live in a naice area and at the time it was this house or nothing. We have a drive and a garden and it's in a pretty village.
For some reason it's made me feel really upset. AIBU in thinking she's spoilt? Or is this normal teenage behaviour?
What about years ago when you had families of 6 children all living in a 3 bed house.
What can I say to her?

Rachelover40

Don't think I'd get the permission.
It's not a straightforward situation.
If I could don't you think I'd have considered it long before posting here?

Rachelover40

What's so bad about sharing a wardrobe?
Youngest has maybe 10 items hanging at most.

Their current beds are 6ft bunk beds so can fit an adult in them

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes

Lovely post 😀

Bed similar to this but loads bigger

Were the bunk beds handmade?

I don’t know where they fit in the room, but would there be a potential to block them off on opposing half-sides, and turn them into a room divider?

Kinda hard to explain, but I’ve seen it done on Pinterest.

Maybe she used to love holidays. Teenagers tend to be not so keen on family holidays.

Frankly I think my 12 year old would be happy to not go on family holidays and would rather spend time hanging out with her friends in her own room, I imagine your dd would say the same.

Really? The OP says her DD likes family holidays. I don't think that is unusual. Many teenagers do like holidays, including holidays with family.

I have a 16y and she adores family holidays. I really can't see her giving them up through choice any time soon. We already have holidays planned for next year when she is 17y, and she has ideas for ones to do after those. She loves spending time with friends to but happily waves to them as she flies off on holiday. She keeps in touch via Social Media but not loads.

We keep reminding her that she may prefer to holiday with friends soon, but - as she says herself - she likes us, she likes spending time with us, she loves holidays and travelling, and she loves nice holidays with nice food and nice accommodation. Whilst she may want a holiday with friends eventually, I imagine she'd still want to come away with us whilst we are paying and going to places she wants to visit!

I love that she likes holidays with us. Maybe the OP and her DD are the same. Its not that unusual in my experience of DD and friends.

Well never mind. Won't be long until she's fled the nest. Then your little one can have a room to herself.

Wow, there seems to be some harsh posts on here.
If your 3 year old doesn’t sleep in her room then doesn’t she already have her own room with a little bit being used for storage of clothes? I’d say that’s the arrangement for now. The only other thing I guess you could do is get the clothes the night before so you don’t have to go in her room in the morning?
I can only see one other alternative being that she has the single room but I understand she doesn’t want to go in there. Can you say you’ll get added security? You can put locks on the window, would that put her mind at rest? Then if she had the single room could she use your studio room for one night at the weekend so she could still have sleepovers? Ie would all the equipment be easily moved to one side to allow a blow up bed out there?
There are lots of children and teenagers that have single rooms, we can’t all have double rooms.

Well never mind. Won't be long until she's fled the nest. Then your little one can have a room to herself.

Don't count on it, friends of mine have children still living with them in mid to late 20s whilst they save for a house deposit.

IceRebel

I was hoping she stayed until she was 30. 😀

I don’t think she is ungrateful i just don’t think she realises what she’s saying as she isn’t an adult. Sorry it has upset you, i am sure she didn’t mean it.

It must be hard for her having to share a room. I don’t even like sharing with my husband 😂

If she stays till she's 30 then you'll need to turn your music studio into a studio flat, so you can escape from the pair of them.

SaucyJack

Yes handmade to fit in that space.
It's across one whole wall so there's plenty of floor space. Window is directly facing you as you walk in the door.
They have a large built in wardrobe (concrete? Which can't be moved across the bottom end of the bed.

I was hoping she stayed until she was 30

Be careful what you wish for

I think it's potentially quite stressful sharing with such a young child I would have hated it and tbh wouldn't be too keen on it now.
Why not share with her yourself just partition the room or put toddler bed in corner?

They have a large built in wardrobe (concrete?

Is it breeze blocks? Concrete would be a strange material.

the bed looks fab!

I think it is incredibly awfully unfair to make your children share, especially into their teenage years. I would never ever do it. Where is her privacy, her space to do homework with a younger sibling in the house.

Tbh I would be sleeping on a sofa bed, converting a garage or moving to a cheaper not so 'naice' area.

IceRebel

And that bit is def true. Imagine? I left home at 22 but it was forced upon me rather than I wanted to.

I can assure you, you will not want her living with you when she is 30 :-). Though the way things are going now, house prices and all that, a lot of kids will stay put longer than they did years ago.

Schaden

Yes I'm just guessing but it's just part of the wall and doesn't jut out at all is what I meant.
It's quite deep inside

Be careful what you wish for

Haha indeed, although maybe the OPs daughter needs to as well. If she stays till she's 30 then she could still be sharing with a 3 year old, only this time it'll be hers.

separating the rooms is a large hallways cupboard and a bathroom

I can't be the only one thinking cupboard under the stairs as dd1's bedroom, Harry Potter stylee?

Christmas

Have you bothered to read any of the thread?
Can't do homework with a toddler in the house?
How ridiculous if she's not in the bedroom with her what does that matter.
Your views are weird. How do you think she does her homework now?
IN HER ROOM
Toddler in bed at 6.30 in my room!!

IceRebel