to not put the heating on for this?!

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I feel the cold, and we have had the heating on a few times on chilly evenings this year. However, we live in a well insulated flat, and it's still relatively mild in the south east.

I haven't put the timer on for the mornings yet as a) it's not that cold and b) we get up, get dressed, and go to work for 10 hours, so I feel it's a waste of money to heat up the place just to quickly leave. Once we start getting frosts though, we will put it on.

However, DP now wants to put the heating on for an hour every morning from now on, whatever the temperature, for one reason: to heat up his work shirt before putting it on. It's causing a lot of arguments, as he thinks it's worth paying for, whereas I think it's a pathetic and ridiculous reason to put the heating on before it's actually cold enough to.

He thinks I am BU, but I don't find it cold enough in the mornings to put the heating on and put our bills up. AIBU to keep pushing back and saying no? I know it's a sillt issue as the heating will be on in the mornings anyway in a few weeks, but right now it's an issue and I don't know if I'm being unfair or not?

My heating is designed to come on if it drops below a certain temperature no matter what time of the year. If it's cold in the morning it comes on. I remember all too well getting up as a child in a freezing house and only having the gas fires on once we had got up. Bloody awful and unless I was on my arse financially I won't ever have a cold house again.

Also people feel the cold differently. Perhaps he is searching for reasons to get around your 'I'm not cold enough and I don't care if you are' attitude.

I wouldn't be putting on to warm a shirt. But if he wanted it on because he feels cold then it should be on .

I warm the kids pyjamas up with the he hairdryer when it’s really cold, maybe you could suggest that to him?

Bloody hell imagine if this was reversed!

It's November op, not July. It's cold. Don't scrimp on heat for one hour.

I can't believe you've actually been arguing over this. Petty.

Does your husband have to ask to go to the toilet too?

Are you desperately skint? Why are you in charge of the heating?

Sorry OP, YABVU.

Can’t you turn the heating on in only one room? Or just put it I. The tumble dryer?

I hate hearing martyrs. If he’s cold and wants it and on and you can afford it just let him have the heating on.

YABU. The shirt is probably one of many reasons. I doubt he's just decided now that he likes a warm shirt. The poor bloke is probably freezing getting ready. We have our timer on 6.15-7.30am. DP wakes at 6.30, me at 7.00, and we've both left the house by 8am. That warmth in the morning is worth the money.

We haven’t either, we’re in the house for an hour or so in the morning and the thermometer says its 17.8. We will succomb at some point but not quite yet.

YABU it cost pennies I've never understood heating martyrs and I would be really pissed off if I was banned from using the heating in my own house.

Another one who see this as petty.

Makes me glad to be single tbh, where if I am feeling the cold I put the heating on for an hour, warms the house up nicely and then turn it off. It is cold in the South East, I've definitely noticed it in the last week, we are at least 10 degrees lower than the week before.

If my partner said to me, no, you are being wasteful, you don't need it on, put some socks and a jumper on, well, not sure we'd be together for long.

It would be like living with my Mother

MrTrebus who are you with? I'm paying double that for a 3 bed which seems ridiculous.

Not worth the arguments. It’s only one hour. Turn off all but one radiator if it really bothers you, and he can warm his shirt on that.

YABU it's November! Horrible getting up in the cold.

I think you are being unreasonable to be honest, some people just feel the cold more 🤷🏼‍♀️ imagine how you'd feel if he said you couldn't have the heating on when you were cold

Who pays the bills?

I don't put it on at all unless dc are cold. I m in South East England but originally from north east Scotland so it's mild to me.
I will put it on in the evening when we re all home but not to warm up a shirt. Can't he hang it in the airing cupboard overnight?
When I m at work it's so hot I have to wear summer clothes then have a coat for the car going home. So many places are overheated these days so I m with OP.
Also a 70s kid who grew up with gas fires and no CH. And we had a big coal fire too.

Why has noone suggested the compromise of blasting his shirt with a hairdryer for 1 minute, which will have the same effect?

The fact that putting on the heating for one hour every morning is causing a lot of arguments is absolutely ridiculous.
It's his home too is it not?
He's not asking for it to be set at 80 24/7.
YABVU and controlling. 

If he needs his shirt warm it's because he isn't warm enough himself.

I come from the 70's when not many people had central heating even with frost on the windows But we had other sources of heat, a fire (even if it needed lighting), an electric fire somewhere in the house.

Try warming it with a hair dryer, really quick and cheap. Even if the heating doesn't cost much we all need to think about how we can reduce the non-renewable resources we use.

I’m in the south east too and we’ve had a couple of frosty mornings. Our heating will come on at certain times (including in advance if us getting up) if the temperature drops below 18 degrees regardless of the date (so even in July IF we had an odd cold snap 😆).

It has definitely come on every morning over the last week and yes, DH hangs his work shirt over the radiator while he is in the shower.

You sound a bit unfair on him to be honest...

Ordinary... hairdryer has been suggested a couple of times.
If my dh told me I could not have the heating on for a hour in November I would declare that controlling behavior. Yabu to be so bossy and calling him pathetic is nasty.

I would be really pissed off if I was banned from using the heating in my own house.
This. I'm irritated at you on your DH's behalf.