Niece has named her daughter the same name as my daughter.

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My daughter was born 4 weeks ago (still in hospital) as she arrived premature. Niece gave birth yesterday morning and named her the same name (although I'm putting a long version on the BC). I'm a bit hurt tbh. AIBU?

I suggest everyone reads the comment by @Rebecca36 on page 2.

Once knew a man whose first wife named his daughter. After the divorce (at her insistence) he remarried, had another daughter. Second wife gave daughter same name as first daughter as she had always wanted to use that name.

I couldn't conjure up a fuck to give about this tbh.

I'd imagine that if your 4 week old premature baby was still in hospital and someone named their bouncing newborn the same name as you'd used you might conjure up more of a fuck. It's pretty insensitive.

And as for the poster who thinks the niece wants to make sure the name is used, I can't even think of a response...

@Rebecca36 reported. Shocking fucking comment. Give yourself a hard slap.

Are they going to be called exactly the same, or will yours be a long version of the name?

What a fuss. My neighbour married Chris, his mother is Mary, His sister also Mary married another Chris.
She had two sons Phil and Alex, her brother is named after his uncle, married another Chris and called one of his sons Philip, her nephew married Alex, and another cousin is named after her mum. It's fine.

She might have picked the name first, you say your baby was prem, she might have had the name only you had your baby first. This happened to a friend of mine, she’d picked the name when she found out the sex, it wasn’t that common either and then her cousin had her baby prem before her and it looked like she had copied, she hadn’t. She decided to name her child that anyway and put up with the “oh you named her that too?”

It was just a thought.

Can people stop copying and pasting that vile deleted post please?

Does your niece actually know that you plan on using her dd's name as a shortened version? Is it an obvious shortening of your dd's longer name (Eleanor / Ellie, Rebecca / Becky) or one where she might not make the connection (Katherine / Kate, Eleanor / Nell, Claudette / Etty)?

I suggest everyone ignores that comment and doesn't feed the troll,ectoplasm

rebecca your both disgusting and stupid, even after a person passes away they don't leave the family. So they would always have someone in the family with that name regardless of how long the OPs DD lives, it's not like she would have just never existed. Go pick on a less sensitive thread.

Rebecca36 tell me you didn't just say that! OMG what were you thinking to actually post it?!

I get it OP, I'd be upset too. A friend called their son the same name as my ds when mine was a month old, and didn't even acknowledge it when introducing their newborn. I felt like my child was invisible or something, it really hurt my feelings.

Congratulations on your new arrival!

It depends if the name is something like Olivia or something like Guinevere. If it's a very popular name, statistically, then I don't think you can be too upset about it.

I'd be flattered.

My cousin named his son the same name as one of my dogs. We all survived.

I am not a troll, I just thought it, insensitive as it was.
The op's baby was born prematurely and has been in hospital for four weeks. However I accept her niece may not have jumped to the same conclusion as I, probably just liked the name.

My cousin named her son the same as mine (some time later), I didn't mind.

My DD has a name remembering my mother and a great aunt.
She has a cousin same age same name, named after her own GM.
Nobody "stole" anything from anybody.
And to start a family war because of this non problem, seems to me a complete waste of time and emotions.

Lots of us in my family share names - both first and middle names. But we're an old and traditional family with a public hIstory. It's been quite normal in my family for about 400 years for both men and women to have the same names through the generations.

YABU.

Oh wow Rebecca. Your comment was deleted before I saw but others have tagged it. That's awful fgs can't believe you'd say such a thing.

Well I hadn't kept the name we chose a secret through pregnancy so she knew the name before, even if I was due after her. When the family asked her about names she always said she just wasn't sure yet.

Honestly I just found it hard really, her baby is home doing well (of course that's exactly what I want for her) and everyone is making a fuss over the baby and wanting to see her and it's just not helpful that she also has the same name as my daughter. I don't know, it's seems odd. I personally don't think it compares to an uncle and a nephew sharing. We see each other each week and they are only a few weeks apart in age. I don't know, I just really didn't like it. But like I say it may be my hormones and just the situation in general.

It's a nickname that's a known shortening (for example. I've announced the name as Ollie (but putting Oliver on the BC) and she has announced their child 'just' Ollie) if that makes sense.

there are literally millions of beautiful names out there.. and this Muppet uses the same name as OP.. not very bright are they.... I sympathise...

Would you consider changing your child's name now or going by another nickname? Had a relative nicked my baby name before I signed certificate then I'd think long and hard about changing it.

Rebecca36 you are a cunt, I hope you see this before it gets deleted because that is exactly what you are!

Op yanbu, I always see on mn "you don't own a name", I just think in all the names in the world it's just plain weird to use the name of a close family member, especially one four weeks old