Niece has named her daughter the same name as my daughter.

[GreyEyed]

My daughter was born 4 weeks ago (still in hospital) as she arrived premature. Niece gave birth yesterday morning and named her the same name (although I'm putting a long version on the BC). I'm a bit hurt tbh. AIBU?

@Schuyler

Ah, my bad, I did read the thread but must have skipped forward an extra page somewhere.

Op- in that case she’s a total douche and YANBU to feel put out. You could address this with her and express your feelings - she may change the name.

Having read the full thread and comments, I think to be honest I’d change her first name and keep the given name as her middle name. Then it is still ‘her’, your baby. But Rebecca Olivia rather than Olivia Rebecca.
Not because they get their way, but because the name would be ruined.
We called our dd Holly, but she came early. Near Christmas and so did about a million other Holly/Hollie/Holly May/Hollie-Mae/Holly-Grace etc not a single person said ‘how nice’
So we changed it.
It sounds a tricky situation, and as the mum of the last grandchild of many, it’s true, there’s minimal interest. But then babies in hospital rarely get many visitors and the excitement hasn’t really started yet. (I’ve had 2 kept in special care for long periods early on)
Take care and congratulations x

YANBU. I'd be really pissed off with this. Especially as you made it clear that was the name you were using. I'd ask her why she did it and that it is awkward.

YABU sorry. No-one owns a name.

If I had decided to call a baby a certain name, no-one on earth trying to guilt trip me (by saying THEY wanted the name,) would make me change it.

Congratulations on your new baby. Hope you are both well.

My cousin called her kid the same as mine so my grandma has two grandchildren with the same name.

Always found that a bit odd. But I've never met him so it doesn't bother me.

I'd be really pissed off to be honest. I thought it was an unwritten rule not to use names already in the family. It seems like a very odd thing to do.

Only on Mumsnet are you not allowed to be pissed of that someone used the same name as me.

And I see someone's rolled out the whole "you don't own a name" bs.

No one said that anyone owned any name at any point in any thread about names.
So why people pull that one out it's beyond me.

@Bananacakes

We called our dd Holly, but she came early. Near Christmas and so did about a million other Holly/Hollie/Holly May/Hollie-Mae/Holly-Grace etc not a single person said ‘how nice’ so we changed it.

Am I reading this right?

Because you didn't get a bunch of compliments on your daughter's name, you went and changed it?!! How bizarre.

When someone introduces me to their new baby/grandbaby, and says 'here's whatevername' the last thing I'm going to do is gush over the name they gave them.

What if people had not said 'oh how nice' to the name you changed 'Holly's' name to? Would you have changed it again? And again? And again?

Weird!

@Narcolepticouchmouse

I'd be really pissed off to be honest. I thought it was an unwritten rule not to use names already in the family. It seems like a very odd thing to do.

To hell with that. I would call my baby whatever I want. If said family member didn't like it, they are free to change THEIR child's name.

@Chrisinthesun

So your aunts just given birth and announced the baby's arrival, you like the sound of the name so when you give birth you use that name as well? You would honestly do that?

And youre calling other people on here weird?

I would be pissed to the extent of complete avoidance...it’s weird
Nothing to do with hormones

@thedaymybuttwentpsycho

And I see someone's rolled out the whole "you don't own a name" bs.

As this is clearly aimed at me - I rolled out THIS, because I am quite fucking entitled to say what I want, without the self appointed forum police barking orders..... And because you DON'T own a name. No-one does.

As you were.

@John4703

I have the same name as my older cousin, it did cause some confusion but I was known as Springburn John and he was Bearsden John. Springburn and Bearsden are districts in Glasgow
Even now Google gets us mixed up on my email address list..

Bearsden John? Posh John, you mean

Please tell me where anyone on any part of a thread tried to claim that they "owned" a name.
Because I've never seen anyone make such an infantile claim. Ever.

I find it very odd that you would happily name your child after your close relatives child just weeks after they were born though.
I'm glad (for more than just that reason) you aren't my family member because you clearly have no boundaries at all if you think that kind of thing is acceptable.

So your aunts just given birth and announced the baby's arrival, you like the sound of the name so when you give birth you use that name as well? You would honestly do that?

Yes I would.

You need to learn some comprehension skills. I already said so.

Getting butthurt, and causing a storm, because someone used the same name as you for their child, is not only weird, it's pathetic.

Some people need to grow up. You don't own a name. Did you get it this time? YOU DON'T OWN A NAME.

@thedaymybuttwentpsycho

Are you OK ? Serious question. You sound angry. I can only surmise that someone has done this to you. Best just move on and make peace with it.

I have the same name as my older cousin, it did cause some confusion but I was known as Springburn John and he was Bearsden John. Springburn and Bearsden are districts in Glasgow
Even now Google gets us mixed up on my email address list..

Bearsden John? Posh John, you mean grin

OMG are we related hahahahaaaaaa

@Lily2403 you would really go nc with your niece because of it?

I rolled out THIS, because I am quite fucking entitled to say what I want, without the self appointed forum police barking orders....

Errr.... you're saying I sound angry? Let me just refer you back to your post just minutes ago...

Yup

Chrisinthesun have you have a few too many wines tonight by any chance?

EVERY family has extended family members with the same forename!

I have 2 Pauls, 2 Davids, and 2 Alans in my family! And 3 fucking Sophies! No-one got butthurt and cried and went NC. Utterly pathetic.

People need to get a grip.

I'm outta here. This thread is batshit!

Go all 🇺🇸 and call hers junior

You should totally do this 😁

Op, have you asked her why she's copied your name?
I would be seriously peeved. 😡

What’s she playing at? I’d be extremely pissed off and very hurt anyway, but with Dd in NN it’s even worse. I’m amazed none of your family said ‘Don’t be so stupid, you can’t be doing that!’ She knew you were calling DD that and didn’t speak to you...that’s just shitty. IF it had been a name she always wanted to use or is special to her DP she could have explained that...but she didn’t. She just announced it to everyone, while you’re in hospital with your DD. It’s bloody nasty.

Isn’t there anyone you can ask to have a word with her?

Whatever you do, don’t end up calling your DD the full name when that wasn’t your intention.

Look after yourself. I hope DD is home soon 💐xx

Go and drink some water Chrisinthesun you'll give yourself an aneurism.

I'd be furious tbh.