Niece has named her daughter the same name as my daughter.

[GreyEyed]

My daughter was born 4 weeks ago (still in hospital) as she arrived premature. Niece gave birth yesterday morning and named her the same name (although I'm putting a long version on the BC). I'm a bit hurt tbh. AIBU?

She was born at 29 weeks :)

I assume Niece was due first so they'd settled on the name.
Incidentally would you have changed name if hers had come first?

Hoping Maddie the First is doing well OP, stay strong x

First off congratulation on your beautiful baby, and I'm so sorry that you haven't been able to take her home yet, I hope she can go home very soon.
Secondly I would be fuming in this situation, it's not the same as others have said family members using the same name, the fact that your baby has been too poorly/early to go home makes it worse, and that when asked through her pregnancy she said she hadn't decided makes me think she has copied you, also at the very least she could have spoke to you first and allowed you to express your feelings on it. Don't listen to ppl saying it's just your hormones. But I don't really know what to suggest, you could try speaking to her but it's probably too late as she's probably set on the name now just as you are. It's a hard situation that tbh I think you could have done without considering your precious angle isn't even home yet. Good luck with whatever you decided to do, if anything, I honestly don't know what I'd do, but I would be very pissed, really hope things settle down soon, keep us posted on your baby's progress xxxxxxxxxxx

29 wks!
Given the circumstances - breathtakingly tone deaf. Incredible.

I mean - Seriously?!

OP - is your niece a bit thick? I know you can't /won't answer now. But that's what I'd be concluding assuming she doesn't have form for very self-centered behaviour.

That's really annoying actually. Especially as DD was a premmie (can you imagine if OPs child hadn't pulled through and she was faced with a healthy same age infant with her child's name?!).

I think she's been a bit of an arse but probably picked the name out years ago and really didn't want to change it.

@GreyEyed In your shoes I'd block out all the crap from your insensitive family and concentrate on your little miracle. You have so much to deal with at the moment that you really don't need this. Hope she's well enough to come home soon and hope you're getting lots of real life support from hospital staff, peer support charities etc.

You've just had a 29 week old premmie, and then your niece names her full term dd the exact same name. Bloody hell!

Is she quite young? It seems such an ill thought out thing to do! Especially as you see each other on a weekly basis and they will be compared. Awful. Have you both registered their names already?

Wouldn't bother me at all lol I'd see it as a compliment

This happened to us, I find it unbelievably rude (it wasn't mentioned to us prior). If it had been the other way round (my LO born second) we would have chosen an alternative. Congratulations on your daughter and hope she is doing well.