Niece has named her daughter the same name as my daughter.

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My daughter was born 4 weeks ago (still in hospital) as she arrived premature. Niece gave birth yesterday morning and named her the same name (although I'm putting a long version on the BC). I'm a bit hurt tbh. AIBU?

Both of my DM's sisters called their sons Andrew (admittedly they live in different continents) as far as I know there was never any ill feeling.

I have the same first name as one of my cousins....doesn't bother either of us in the slightest 😊

Ahhh, it can work well! I had a cousin also with my name, and we loved being the Two Carriecakes! :-) It gave us a bond!
Also, she was always Cassiebum, and I was CarinaCaroona (I think my nicname was best lol) x
Don't be upset or annoyed, always try to see the brighter side!

It may not have crossed her mind it's a short form of the name! Minnie or Mina are lovely names but you'd assume a Wilhelmina would be Mina, not Minnie for example.

Apologies if it’s been answered already, but do your baby and you niece’s baby have the same surname as well? If not, I can’t see a problem.

Congratulations 😊 this is a difficult one as she probably had the named picked out and as people have said if your baby had been born on time or late then she would have already chosen the name.

My baby was born slightly prem and spent a week in nicu so i feel for you and hope all is ok.

Me & my husband chose the baby’s name once we found out what we were having and we told people. We didn’t actually know anyone who was pregnant we just told people because we had chosen a name. I think some people thought this was a bit odd but each to their own.

If i was your niece though, i would have had to choose a different name what with the babies being born so close together. Nothing like originallity 😊

Also, i really hope you are ok as you have been through a difficult time & there are some harsh comments on here. A lot of prem babies parents have ptsd so please look after yourself 😊 and try and enjoy being a new mum x

Just to cheer you up a bit OP - not having the entire family fussing over your baby can be a blessing in disguise. I’m sure your daughter will get attention when she’s out of hospital. For now, enjoy the peace and quiet and not having hordes of well-meaning but often infuriatingly meddlesome relatives on your doorstep.

I hope you're precious little 1 is home soon,It's a very raw& extra emotional time(know from experience).Your body is craving for your baby that isn't at home yet but soon will be.This name thing hasn't helped &will be cutting deeper than the norm,playing with your already overwhelmed emotions....As for chubby baby comments, your baby will soon put weight on and catch up. for you & for Dd

I think YANBU for what it's worth. I'd be pretty annoyed too.

@pollymere very unlikely as it's literally the only shortening for the name and very well know.

They won't have the exact same surname but they will share 1 surname (I double-barrelled and so did niece when we got married).

Thank you again for the well wishes!

The thing is, anyone who thinks it's odd will be able to easily see that your dd is the oldest and therefore was named first.

Just remember - you can always remind her she copied you and how you had great taste first!! (YANBU - I'd be pretty irritated, too)

YANBU she's been a jerk! I'd feel really miffed too

Also I really want to know what your little ones name is . Hope you get to bring her home soon and enjoy lots of cuddles x

YANBU I would be quite miffed as well. Your niece may well love the name but given the fact it's a fairly uncommon name and your DD was born first surely she could come up with another name in 4 weeks? There are soo many names! I loved my cousins name so much but still knew not to call my baby it as it was already 'taken' by a family member.

My DH name is 3x in the immediate family... Uncle, Nephew. They see each other regularly. Although Nephew a in the process of moving abroad!
They all have ridiculous nicknames, and quite frankly nobody cares!

For perspective I have the same name as my aunt, it’s never bothered me. It’s a family name, was my great grandmothers middle name.

@Chalkitup hi :) we have named her Madeleine. I don't mind saying it now the thread has gone a little more quiet!

She is doing well, it's just a horrible time really. It's so lovely watching her get stronger each day though.

God I'd be furious. You really need to confront her or change your babies name, this is always going to bother you.

What happens if they are in the same class at school?

A few years ago I had two students with the exact same names (first, middle and last). It was a nightmare!

we have named her Madeleine

And presumably your niece is going with Maddie? I had a Madeleine in a class a number of year ago that went by 'Lanie' instead of Maddie.

Your thread is in the bastard Daily Fail, OP...

Oh dear.....this thread has made the Daily Mail.

Cross post with Namechange...

Having been in hospital with a poorly prem baby I'd say you're entitled to feel emotional and pissed off about anything you damn well please, it's all pain trying to fight its way out.

Once you're home with your daughter though, it won't matter. I suspect niece didn't know your name, decided on Madeline and then yours came out first and you claimed it first. If her baby had come before yours would you have changed it? You might have done but you'd be in no way obliged to.

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