Sorry ive just seen that you did contact the school and that doesn't sound quite right to me.
On a whim I think your DD is clever enough to play you like a guddun when she wants your attention and knows eactly how to get it.
You said she told you she knew he was only joking and playing around so it sounds unlikely she would have actually been scared by a pirate cutting up a watermelon with a toy knife, when he'll have been looking at all the class the same way and everyone was laughing.
Surely if she was scared stiff, and especially still with a sore back and crying that night then it must have been much worse at the time, and at that point the entertainer stopped to report incident and DD checked by nurse, entertainers risk assesment checked for such dangers accident report filled out etc etc etc..no? then shes lying, and developing that wonderful creative imagination that fizzes at around 7.
It doesn't add up.If they were sitting in a circle where would he of been dragging her around the floor, and it doesn't sound like you got any serious answers from the school at all as to why, unlikely that it is, any child was being grabbed and dragged round the floor in the first place?
Did it not seem bizarre that a teacher would be sitting watching 'part of a day' of this entertainers' interaction and then telling you that it was inappropriate. Err...hello its teacher it was your job to safeguard these kids and intervene it a hint of anything not quite right and surely if she said it happened as described then would by definition mean she was sitting watching your child being grabbed and dragged around the floor by an adult male....THATS INAPPROPRIATE!
Kids lie, its normal, for attention. My 7 yo DS told my DH and I his teacher kicked a football off his head during P.E weeks ago(trying to get a reaction from me) and it knacked he said. i could of said are you ok, he shouldnt of done that, where does it hurt etc. etc.and made a really big deal of it and turn it into something. My response.... well you shouldda moved out the way of the ball shouldn't ya? I got an awkward smile then he paused..."It didnt hurt that much, it was just an accident though" he then said settling for a conversation about his afternoon after being unable to sell the exaggerated storey. Why cant so many mothers see straight through their kids it baffles me!
Its unbelievable the parents who would instinctively believe their young kids before first speaking to an adult under the misguided belief it was good parenting. Firstly, this tells them its good to lie its how to get positive results, as well as lying your teaching them to act on impulse, that its not important to think about the right or best thing to do just go with the option thats there and easy., that narrow mindedness is the way forward. Kids will never respect adults that believe them without question, but i bet some of you are realising that already. For Christs sake the number of parents that encourage the full scale validation of this child being scared by this is frightening.
I would be concerned for the child here too but my concern would be the fact a childrens entertainer dressed up as a pirate going ARRR while cutting a water melon had caused her to be scared stiff in a classroom of otherwise laughing children. Whats wrong with her
Why dont parents realise that the pandering response of a good number of posters here and the very validation of being genuinely scared can only serve to harm rather than help. Without realising you're telling that child its fine, it's ok and normal to be scared....but.....its not....in this situation this its ABNORMAL irrational behaviour brought about and encouraged by irrational parenting response
I dont believe the OP actually did contact the school as this is such un unlikely response from any school. However i dont blame her for saying that she had after some responses on here. I dont think there was ever a need to contact the school anyway a) its very unlikely she was dragged around by any entertainer as he would include this plan in a risk assesment and drop it. She knew this would get mams attention however as theres usually an element of truth to kids lies she did probably get a sore back like we all did at that age when sitting on the floor for any period of time. b) She was probably crying due to the continued aww baby attention she was receiving from such that night as if as bad as she claimed this would surely have been an incident report at the least.
In a childs everyday life its normal to get bumps,scrapes, scratches, get a fright, a scare, a fear of something new, and there's gonna be some pretty pethetic adults out there due to the pandering generation of hysterical mums. Obviously excercise common sense but the kindest thing to help kids in many a situation like this is to simply say "get over it" at which point they'll try another method to get your attention......Seeing your kids develop respect will give you the confidence of fine future adults so do them a favour.
Stuck off work with a broken leg this has killed some time while i cant sleep. As you can tell im very anti-pandering as it destroys kids so now ive give my 2 cents on the matter goodnight.