To make DD go to school in socks tomorrow (she says she will freeze and be miserable)

[jackieChansBedPan]

She’s not 5 years old-she’s 12
She and her siblings have a few chores they have to do- you’d think I force her up chimneys the way she moans.

Anyway

She has 5 school shirts, 7 pairs of tights etc

Almost every other night or actually in the morning she will come in moaning about where are my tights/PE shorts/school shirts

She’s been known to shove clean ironed stuff in her dirty clothes hamper to avoid putting it away-

Yet again she’s come bolting down the stairs at almost 11pm asking where her tights are and can I put a wash on with ONE pair of tights ????

I’ve refused and told her she can wear socks and she’s raging.

Her dad has said I’m being too hard on her- I asked him to wash her tights by hand (he’s gone strangely silent and appears to be nowhere near a sink and a bottle of Persil)

I’m not being reasonable am I?

If she’s cold it might be the bolt up her bum she needs to look after her stuff

I’m hormonal

Thank you.

That was for @steppemum

Tell her you've washed them and stick them in her drawer.

Did she survive, OP?

Going against the grain here but I or dh would have just handwashed them since it would take all of a minute. I would have said get your dd to do it if it wasn’t already 11 o’clock at night and would likely take a child who has never done it before significantly longer.
If she’s done something with the tights then getting her to pay for replacements is reasonable but sending her to school all day in a skirt and socks in November isn’t. Nor is her staying up any later to sort it herself on a school night. I wouldn’t have dressed in bare legs today and if I had I’d have been freezing and miserable. I don’t think cruel point scoring has any place in parenting.

I think unnecessarily harsh and creating rows for no reason , personally.

I’d just explain to her how to hand wash them. My 8 year old is not always great at wiping after a poo and some times gets skid marks in his pants, he knows to hand wash the marks out before chucking in the machine.

Love the suggestion that she can't go to school in socks in November!
When I was a gel,many many years ago () we didn't wear tights til 6th form.Little boys wore socks and shorts all year round .
She'll survive! ( or perhaps will have survived!)

Yep. My brother had to wear shorts with knee socks and a really embarrassing little cap to his primary school, all year. How I laughed.

He had the last laugh though. I had to wear a beret to mine .

This was in the 80s and early 90s btw. What the blazes were they thinking?

Wearing socks won’t kill her no but it’s totally unecessary to make her uncomfortable all day on top of replacing the tights imo.
And there are a lot of things that people did in the past that aren’t really considered ok these days.

I still see loads of girls going to school wearing socks. I thought it was practically the law to go to secondary school giving a metaphorical middle finger at the weather and refusing to wrap up warm?

Good grief, when I was 12 I'd hand wash my shirts and tights if I'd forgotten to put them in the laundry basket! You're absolutely right not to wash them for her, or to be checking her uniform.12 is plenty old enough to be responsible for hanging/folding uniform for the next day, and putting it in a laundry hamper.

She was fine and said she wasn’t cold anyway and will wear socks tomorrow too.

Her uniform is all laid out for tomorrow and she’s said she will find her tights at the weekend

We will see. Thanks all.

Methinks it isn't just the daughter who doesn't know how to hand wash a pair of tights but also the op!

If something needs a quick wash at night, it gets washed, wrung out and hung over radiator or somewhere warm. What's the big deal? Seven pages of this.

Nope. Can I just say, I can empathise.
Generally this sort of stuff happens in our house fairly often.

If she cannot make sure her stuff is available for you to wash at an adequate time of night, she needs to make other plans, whether that means a trouser day for school, re wearing tights, or socks.
Honestly. I'm not sure how I'd feel about the socks as it's a bit cold out, but I don't think anyone else shares that view so maybe ignore!

But kids eh! Bloody annoying

I'm surprised at that update. I fully expected her to have succumbed to hyperthermia and you to have been arrrsted for bad parenting op 

My wink didn't show up so for the avoidance of doubt, that was wholly sarcastic

Can you handwash a pair tonight then get her a load more pairs tomorrow so she doesn't run out?

11 year old DGD does the washing on a Saturday so that she doesn't have to go grocery shopping. Sorts, washes, into the dryer, and folds. Send your DD in socks

My son nearly 15 and daughter nearly 14 (most of the time) put their dirty clothes in the washing basket. The next time they see them they are washed and ironed and put back in the wardrobe by me.
I have a friend who thought it was character building to make her 12 year old son take responsibility for washing and ironing his own uniform and clothes. The child always looked dreadful.not all kids are ready for this. Going against the grain here but I love looking after my kids.

Most people like looking after their kids but a pre-pubescent girl is usually encouraged to have the self respect to take care of personal laundry such as pants and socks/stockings. Who wants another woman to wash their knickers, including their mum, once they are past a certain age? How long does it take? It's not the same as bigger things such as shirts and skirts and trousers. Tights and pants are personal.

Don't they all wear those dreadful over the knee socks at this age, and sport abit of mottled blue thigh between the top and the pelmet (rolled up skirt)

My daughter use to do this with leggings. She moaned at me for not having them done. I bought a wash basket for her room and told her to do her own washing from now on. She did it for a while. Although her washing has ended up being done with the rest again but she hasn't moaned at me about leggings since haha

Mine ends up in ankle socks. Her choice when faced with forgetting to put the over the knee ones in the wash.

@missingstreetlife Mine has a mini kilt. School's choice that it's a stupid length. Combined with the school jumper and the socks, they look like extras from Clueless.

12 year old in my house when he was ten, has been known to put dirty clothing in drawers to avoid having to take into bathroom to put into laundry basket. He used to leave sports kit in PE bag and either not bring home form school or bring home but not put into laundry. Having to wear dirty/smelly kit a couple of times cured him of this habit. YANBU your dh is though by not backing you up and enabling your dd this bad habit.