Period- what your DP do this?

[Leder]

It's the first day of my period and I'm in a fair bit of pain. Feeling a bit sorry for myself and just fancy a sparkling lemon flavoured water from Tesco. Asked DP 10 mins ago if he would go get me one and he categorically said no. I know it's late but aibu to ask. I am on the verge of tears and just would love a "treat"

Yes, but I wouldn't ask him. Bit of a crap thing to do really. I wouldn't refuse my OH, but I know he wouldn't expect me to bugger off out into the cold at a shit time of night (drunks at our local supermarket after 10pm), and waste petrol on a short, but cold-engine journey.

I've got endo and found co-codamol useless for it. Try Nurofen and add a paracetamol if that doesn't work.

Co-codamol didn't constipate me, but it did slow everything down and that made the pain worse.

It would be a no from my DH for sparkling lemon water.

He would go out for medicine, pads)tampons anything similar for DS e.g plasters or medicines.

The smart arse would probably get a straw and blow bubbles in to a glass of water whilst dropping in some "lemon juice" from the "pancake day lemon thing" 😂

Yes I would ask if was feeling a bit unwell or just feeling sorry for myself & he would go, as I would for him if he asked. If it was a regular thing then we'd both get annoyed but occasionally it's fine. It's just about being kind and looking after each other surely.
Hope you feel ok OP, same symptoms here today 💐

Yes I know he would, in a heartbeat. I'm pretty surprised that some partners would refuse? I appreciate mine all the more when I read threads like this. It isn't about being precious or demanding, it's about wanting to do something to help the person you love feel better.

I wouldn't ask.

I think it’s unreasonable of you to ask him so late on a Sunday night. You’ll cope without - how do you think single people manage?!

Also- if you had said paracetamol, or tampons, or something essential, I’d say something different. But a lemon flavoured water just because you fancy one? At this time, when he wants to be winding down for bed probably? Come on.

As others have said, mine wouldn't need to be asked to go get me painkillers or other necessities, mo matter what time it is.

But late at night, especially when it's cold, for a treat, no, I wouldn't even ask him tbh. It would be taking the pee.

Sorry YABU

To be honest, I wouldn't ask. For something like painkillers, yes, and he'd go. But if it was just for flavoured water I reckon I'd just decide that I should have got it for myself earlier and put up with whatever we had in the house.

Outraged What about some ibuprofennel?

And it's not unheard of to do little things like this to make the person you care about feel better

Is this what they mean by "passive aggressive?"

No. But then I wouldn't ask.

If I needed painkiller then absolutely but sparkley lemon water?!

It is pretty childish - Sorry.

Going to the shops this late (even just for one thing) may be a big thing in other households but we seem to do it fairly regularly. It's a bit hurtful that he knows this will make me feel better but still chooses not to go.

It’s all very well saying you do things for someone you care about, but it works both ways, don’t take the piss!

What?! No! It wouldn't ever occur to me to ask him to do such a pointless errand purely for me - which I'm pleased about as I certainly wouldn't want him asking me to go out & do something similar for him at this time of night.
I also can't imagine wanting a particular food on a whim & going straight out & buying it. Perhaps that is because I grew up rurally and so it just wasn't an option.

Oh come on OP

You are giving us grown ups, a bad name

Sparkley lemon water? Puuuurleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

He was right to refuse. There is fuck all wrong with you. Woman up

I wouldn't ask. He would ask if I needed anything and of course if it was medical supplies then he would but I would go myself too.

I say this kindly but go to bed wit hot water bottle and a glass of water or water you do have in.

Tomorrow will be a different day.

Omg you STILL sound so spoilt and childish!

Clearly, any posting have no idea what period pain can be.

Oh no. I get doubled over in pain cramps the first couple days. And my husband would do this, but I wouldn't ask.

Mine would but there's no way I'd ask him to go out at this time of night to get me a fizzy drink.

It's not fair

How, in the name of all that is holy, does sparkly lemon water relieve the type of pain that cannot be relieved with co-codamol?

Meant to say I'd just call it a night too!

No nor my dh or dd would.
I POSSIBLY would go for them but then I usually want something from the shop anyway ..)

Yes my dh would. He frequently goes to the shop for me (silimar distance) for crisps in an evening. Ive askednhim not to listen to me as i need tongive them up but he is a feeder still goes and gets me them.

I wouldn’t ask him.