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Period- what your DP do this?

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Leder · 28/10/2018 22:21

It's the first day of my period and I'm in a fair bit of pain. Feeling a bit sorry for myself and just fancy a sparkling lemon flavoured water from Tesco. Asked DP 10 mins ago if he would go get me one and he categorically said no. I know it's late but aibu to ask. I am on the verge of tears and just would love a "treat"

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Chocarocker · 28/10/2018 22:37

Mine wouldn’t even go to the kitchen to get me a drink in most instances never mind the supermarket.

OutragedEtc · 28/10/2018 22:37

I'm sorry you're suffering but this did make me laugh:

but the 2 co-cardamom I have taken haven't exactly helped

Something stronger maybe? Star Anise-thetic?

itswinetime · 28/10/2018 22:38

Sorry wrong thread I have reported please ignore

LuckyDiamond · 28/10/2018 22:38

Mine would. He’d roll his eyes do a big sigh though (in love not contempt).

I’ve seen him running out in torrential rain for red wine for me when we’ve had plenty white but I just fancied red.

I do nice things for him too, sometimes.

OneToThree · 28/10/2018 22:38

God no! I wouldn’t do it for him either.

Batmanthedude · 28/10/2018 22:38

Dh would get painkillers or meds a random drink I fancied nope, equally I wouldn't do it for him. Ridiculous

KennDodd · 28/10/2018 22:38

I don't know, I expect yes he would, but I've never asked him to leave the house and go get me something I didn't really need and could go and get myself anyway. He's never asked me to do something like this either. 23 years married.

MicroManaged · 28/10/2018 22:39

No, he wouldn’t.

Painkillers or pads, yes.

Water...at nearly half ten on a Sunday night when he’s knackered, in his PJs and going to bed soon-no.

BertrandRussell · 28/10/2018 22:39

Mine would. But I wouldn’t ask. Women being pathetic about their periods annoys me. Plays straight into the hands of the misogynists.

ShesABelter · 28/10/2018 22:39

He is in bed id never ask him to go for that at this time of night. I get excruciating period pains but life needs to go on. I'd go myself?

Gigglebrain · 28/10/2018 22:39

Sorry, you’re being a bit of a princess, my dh probably would, but I wouldn’t dream of asking!

BirdieInTheHand · 28/10/2018 22:40

I wouldn't ask but he absolutely would.

Original poster
Leder · 28/10/2018 22:40

It's fairly normal in our household to pop to the shops this late. And it's not unheard of to do little things like this to make the person you care about feel better (whether it's rational or not)

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Maryann1975 · 28/10/2018 22:40

I have no idea if dh would go to the supermarket at gone 10pm on a Sunday night as I wouldn’t ask him to go for something so trivial. He would happily pop to the shop on a Sunday afternoon to fetch supplies, but at bedtime, I would never expect him to go and I’d think you were being quite a princess and needy in asking him to go for something that isn’t essential tbh.

For myself, I would take the attitude that we can’t always have what we want and I need to be more organised with the shopping next time.

WhyAmISoCold · 28/10/2018 22:41

Clearly, any posting have no idea what period pain can be. I have endometriosis too OP, and since having DCs the symptoms have mainly gone (although I think they are returning) but prior to that I would be doubled over every month at the start of my period. Painkillers didn't really touch it and I certainly wouldn't have been able to just nip out myself as I could hardly walk.

Ceebs85 · 28/10/2018 22:41

I'm pretty sure he would but I wouldn't dream of asking him to.

Ellisandra · 28/10/2018 22:41

I’ve just checked in with husband and it’s a “yes of course I would” and “no, I wouldn’t Hmm inside at you” (which made him go slightly down in my estimation for being a bit wet Blush). However he redeemed himself with “if it made you feel better, I might get a blowjob out of it”. Love my husband!

Justgivemesomepeace · 28/10/2018 22:41

Not a chance. I would never ask him to. Its freezing and too late.

Original poster
Leder · 28/10/2018 22:42

I would stock up but my periods are all over the place (just had one 2 weeks ago).

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Nousernameforme · 28/10/2018 22:42

Yup dp would and has gone on similar errands as I have and would do. It's a small kindness when you are feeling shit and doesn't take long. But then he isn't the sort to dissolve if he steps outside the door past 8 o'clock.

BoomTish · 28/10/2018 22:43

He would.

I wouldn’t ask him, though. It’s a bit precious, isn’t it?

EmmaC78 · 28/10/2018 22:43

YABU. I would expect someone to go out if it were for painkillers or tampons but not for some water.

xJessica · 28/10/2018 22:43

He would totally go for painkillers or tampons but I wouldn't ask him to go for flavoured water and especially not at this time of night.

keepingbees · 28/10/2018 22:43

My DH would. But I don't think it's a huge deal if he won't. What's his reason?

tootiredtospeak · 28/10/2018 22:43

Mine would but thats because I am not demanding or childish. If he is saying no sounds like he is mean or you are a bit of a nightmare to be honest