to think 85 on a dual carriage way is to fast?

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That really. DP always seems to have to be the fastest bastard on the road. It scares the shit out of me to the extent where I have anxiety attacks on certain routes. I can't drive and the only other people I've spent much time on DCs and Motorways are DBro and DF who are both the same if not worse. Is this normal? I have lost a friend in a RTA so appreciate I may be oversensitive.

He is breaking the speed limit.

YANBU.

I know. And he nearly lost his license last year for speeding. He does slow down a bit when I nag him but he seems to think it's an issue with my anxiety not his driving.

We left two hours for an hour and a half journey today and he still sped most of the way meaning I was 30 mins early for my train and froze at the station.

I hate it; every time he drops me off for a few days I have huge anxiety attacks that he'll be involved in an accident

A dual carriageway near me has a temporary speed limit of 40 mph. Nobody today was going slower than 60 mph.

Yes too fast on a dual. Hopefully he will either lose his licence or only injure himself in a crash and nobody else.

To be honest if he knows how to manage the car he'll be alright (probably). In other countries, like Sweden (not talking about Germany!) the speed limit is 80 in places.

But if he is aggressive as well as fast. Also if he knows it scares you and it is illegal he shouldn't be driving that fast end of story.

People are extremely sensitive to criticism of their driving, even if they know they are breaking the law. You could just wait until he gets caught. But your only real solution is to learn to drive yourself. Is there any reason why you don't?

Well legal speed limit aside it depends on the quality of the road. On a well maintained appropriately sized (appropriate to how many cars use it) road 85 shouldn’t be an issue. But of course no such road exists in Britain so unless you are writing from overseas YANBU.

Hopefully he will either lose his licence or only injure himself in a crash and nobody else.

YANBU. I cannot stand people who do this. Sorry but I judge them massively, it's just so unnecessarily dangerous and also aggressive driving. And I do 70 whenever I can (ie it's appropriate to the road conditions) and also judge people who can't drive well enough to drive faster than 45 on clear roads, they are just as dangerous in their own way.

Eighty on a motorway if not driving like a moron is probably fine, speed limits were set before modern vehicles and ABS etc even existed. Dual carriageway too fast, but it's the aggressive nature of the driving that's the biggest issue.

(I don't judge the slow drivers per second for not being able to do faster...just the fact that they then make the decision to drive on fast roads. I myself avoided them for years as I couldn't safely do that)

Depends who’s driving and what I think about their competency and experience. It’s too fast for some and fine for others.

*per se not per second

Eighty on a motorway if not driving like a moron is probably fine, speed limits were set before modern vehicles and ABS etc even existed. Dual carriageway too fast, but it's the aggressive nature of the driving that's the biggest issue.

And the reason people drive aggressively and too fast is because they feel invulnerable in their modern cars with ABS etc. Ultimately a car is only as safe as the driver.

But your only real solution is to learn to drive yourself. Is there any reason why you don't?

I've tried but I'm too nervous.

He is breaking the law so I hope he gets caught, fined and looses his license for everyone’s safety. He is very selfish risking other drivers. I would refuse to go in the car with him.

Driving too close to the car in front is when speeding becomes really dangerous. If he does that I wouldn't get in the car with him and I'm not an anxious passenger

To be honest if he knows how to manage the car he'll be alright (probably).

Well legal speed limit aside it depends on the quality of the road. On a well maintained appropriately sized (appropriate to how many cars use it) road 85 shouldn’t be an issue.

I assume there are no other drivers on these roads? It doesn't matter how well someone can handle his own car, and how good the road is, if the driver in front makes an error.

Hopefully he will get caught and lose his license soon

Absolutely agree with the points about stopping distances. I can't believe how many people ignore them, and seem to think they're invincible. It just takes one error from someone in front (and we are all human), why would you risk it? I don't get it at all.

He got a speeding ticket from a camera a few months ago but I think they just sent him on another awareness course.

Don’t go in the car with him.

But your only real solution is to learn to drive yourself. Is there any reason why you don't?

"I've tried but I'm too nervous."

Maybe if you tried a different driving instructor? I agree that your husband is driving too fast, but he has every right to tell you not to criticise his driving if you don't drive. Maybe he is fed up of being the only driver all the time?

If we drive a long way OH and I always split the driving. The last time we went to Cornwall it took us 9 hours, which IMO is a big ask of one person.

he has every right to tell you not to criticise his

He doesn't, he slows down when I ask him. I worry about how fast he drives when I'm not in the car. I love him and I want him to be safe.